I had this happen to me 3 times and wondered if it is common elsewhere. On the 1st “get acquainted date” I have approached our destination; like a restaurant, and my date would come around the corner as if he just arrived. I am very perceptive and know when someone is hiding behind a corner or wall checking me out! One man met me at the local gardens and when I entered the area where the ticket counter is, I looked around the room to see if he was there yet, I spotted him across the room and he came over and we chatted and walked up to the ticket counter. I offered to pay for my ticket but he said he would treat, but he asked for one ticket so I asked him if he had a membership there? He said, “No he had already bought his ticket” So what he was saying was, he wanted to check his date out before he bought her ticket.
Have you had a man or woman check you out behind a shrub and decide to run? I feel if you made a commitment to meet this person you go through with it and make the best of it.
Funny thing, these men that were being a little too cautious. . . I was the one that didn’t much care for them and they kept calling me afterwards. You never know do you?
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PrettyGreenEyes578
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Jul 14 @ 2:17PM
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I have never had anyone run from a meeting -
There are all kinds of individuals and I can see some persons checking it out first but that would tend to make me think they are shallow and interested more in the outward appearance than the person on the inside also -
I always make the best of things - even if I never see the person again - I treat them with respect and enjoy the conversation and the moment -
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cudahudson
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Jul 14 @ 2:31PM
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I have never done this but wish I had of done it a few years back. I also wish she had of been more open about several things I ask about. If I had of done this I would have R.U.N.N. O.F.F.T.
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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Jul 14 @ 2:54PM
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So what he was saying was, he wanted to check his date out before he bought her ticket. No I think he's been stood up before, Why by two tickets if you stood him up? I've invested alot of time, and money into first dates, that ended up as a no show no call no contact for 3-5 days, Then some lame excuse. So maybe he was just protecting himself? 
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biggreywolf
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Jul 14 @ 3:19PM
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I expect this happens a lot. Most dating people have had enough bad experiences to be a bit wary. Precise truthfulness seems to be lacking online but added to that are the differences in perspective of attractiveness. Some examples are: "few extra pounds" = anything from 10 to 200lbs; "light social smoker" = anything from a few cigarettes when out on the town to two packs a day; "light social drinker" = anything from 6 drinks a year to 2 cocktails a day. Photos on websites are often very old. Yes, many of us are a bit scared when meeting a new person. Especially if we have not talked at enough length to feel quite comfortable on a mental level.
Personally, I would expect to have communicated enough over a period of time that I would be fairly certain of good conversation whether I thought the person's appearance was totally repulsive or not. Therefore I would show up on time and let the other person hide and watch if they so chose.
It is not something I would worry about. It is just another indicator of where that person fits on a scale of maturity.
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kallie_ko
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Jul 14 @ 3:28PM
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Hmmm... not sure what to think about this one... I can't say I have had anyone "hide"... seems odd to me, but I understand what everyone is saying, each opinion makes sense to me, BND is what I was thinking originally, that he had been stood up before maybe...
YOU get my first official back to bloggin kudo. lol
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kallie_ko
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Jul 14 @ 3:30PM
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Ooops  I will have to raincheck that Kudo, I dont have any yet.. lmao
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Johnny1951
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Jul 14 @ 3:59PM
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Personally I don't see anything wrong with getting there early.....But I would not run on a date ever...I would follow through to my word...
I would however adjust my mental thinking if she looked dramatically different than her photo as in older, her weight ( not that it was an issue but if she lied about it or anything else )........I had that happen about 4 times in the years past..... I look at it as a preview that is harmless, but then I am very well practiced in showing up without any attention being drawn to me by the woman....They never know I was there earlier than them.... 
Some people just prefer to be prepared....Not a bad thing to me... 
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Ramjet222
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Jul 14 @ 4:37PM
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Will let U know but have to do something important first...
get a first date somewhere 
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mojorisin
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Jul 15 @ 11:06AM
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i haven't met anyone from here yet. but i did meet people from online before and i did follow thru with the meeting. in fact, the people i met up with were there before me!
maybe i'm lucky or something, because i still consort with the people i met online. but i'm not just talking about dating...
yeah, i would get the same feeling if someone was just around the corner and ripped out of the bushes when i got there.
if it was me that was buying the tickets, i would have bought 2 ahead of time. or i would have waited for you to get there and bought 2 at that time. i don't think anyone that i thought was good enough to meet in person could be so bad irl that i couldn't go thru with it. i mean, you gotta know ahead of time if you wanna meet!
not to mention that what's good for the goose is good for the gander, or whatever the saying is. if i do something like that to you, i guess i deserve to have the same thing done to me.
gosh, can't get away from the things we learn in kindergarten!
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