Is there anything in particular that you WON'T talk about the first few dates?
Mine are religion, politics and reasons my last relationships failed.
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LadyPassion73
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Jul 15 @ 6:59AM
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My health, intimate details of my childhood, ex husbands!
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RomanticLibra106
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Jul 15 @ 7:15AM
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Mine are sex, ex-hubby and religion
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redtigr
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Jul 15 @ 7:24AM
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His old dates/relationships and mine...
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dalebr
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Jul 15 @ 7:48AM
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I talk about anything anytime. Avoidance of certain topics only serves to delay what will be or not be anyway.
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IceKrystal
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Jul 15 @ 7:58AM
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99.9% of the dates (which were very few) I had in the past 5 years, I was lucky to get conversation at all...much less anything of importance. The most important questions I would get were "do you want that super-sized"...."how do you feel about a threesome"...  ..."have I ever told you about the time (any time a redneck starts a question like this, you know it's going to be funny to you...but a serious topic to him) I went to the dump to shoot rats...and"  "what's your favorite position?" and there were lots of topics concerning their dogs, mommas, online poker, and pick up trucks.
So....what was your question again LP?  Seriously, I had to scroll down to see the question....
I'm open to talk about anything....I am not a bit ashamed of where I stand on certain topics...however, most find it hard to accept my views.
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Michael194
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Jul 15 @ 7:59AM
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Mine would be religion thats a sure way to have an arguement with someone.
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MrRump
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Jul 15 @ 8:18AM
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my size,and bank account
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LivinProof
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Jul 15 @ 8:50AM
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Strange thing is, I have had a couple of men volunteer how much money they make, on a first date a guy told me his retirement income was $90,000! I looked at him like why would he tell me this other than he had nothing else to offer, in his mind anyway?
I had one man that wanted to talk religion an I told him I didn't want to talk about religion at that time, maybe another time. He just wouldn't take no for an answer and got pissed at me. Like Michael said, it is a sure argument ahead until you know someone better, same goes for politics.
Don't try and force a subject that is off limits with someone you hardly know, frankly it just turns them off.
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cudahudson
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Jul 15 @ 8:57AM
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How to gut a deer. Clean a fish. cleaning my toe nails. Proper way to wipe. Believe me my first five dates didn't appreciate this knowledge for some strange reason
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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Jul 15 @ 8:59AM
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Mine arereligion, politics and reasons my last relationships failed. That's perfect 
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cowboy2x4
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Jul 15 @ 9:15AM
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Any subject u neglect talking about will come up by the 3rd date,then...perhaps,the first 2 dates were a waste,so may as well good for the gold,lol...talk up!!!!
As for as ex's,i prefer she tell me about hers,heck,i might be that guy's twin,lol..no use for us to waste each other's time...,communication and total truth,no holding back,i think that is the way to go!!! But then....lol...I am sitting here alone,so..lol...never mind..lol
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Johnny1951
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Jul 15 @ 9:31AM
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My past relationships or marriage...
I'll tell if asked if I dated recently..But I will not talk about my divorce ever..I see no point in doing so....
And I don't want to hear about theirs either..
Politics, Religion I never get involved in no matter how long I date a person..
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YourFriendInPA
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Jul 15 @ 9:41AM
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Why be cagey? Why not have a free flowing, where ever it goes conversation? Is it not the objective to find out as quickly as possible if this person is someone that you'd like to get to know better. Here are some of the things I like to get a feel for quickly about the other person: Openess. Honesty. Prejudices. Comfortableness with who she is. Comfortableness with her sexuality. Baggage. Drama.
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kallamis
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Jul 15 @ 10:09AM
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Interesting, considering their religion, and polotics is two of the things i need to know about first. If they are christian, it would never turn into a real relationship, and the same if they were republicans. And alot of people are this way as well. It's odd that two of the things that cause the most wars in history, you wouldn't want to find out about immediately.
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LivinProof
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Jul 15 @ 10:11AM
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Why in the world are you so anxious to get to know EVERYTHING? So you can dump her right away and not waste either of your time? The first couple of dates you will know if you want to spend more time with her so why not just take your time and respect her wishes? Once you really get to know her after awhile, these touchy subjects will come up and they can be better be discussed by friends, not strangers... get it ....you are a stranger and you don't have to know all her business until she is comfortable with you, respect of my privacy is very important in my being with someone.
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LivinProof
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Jul 15 @ 10:14AM
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Another question... why does he or she have to agree with you on politics or religion? So he/she has to be a Democrat? I am a Republican BUT I will vote for which ever politician I feel is right for the job... no matter. If the guy I am dating is a Democrat that doesn't make him a nut case, he simply has a different choice than mine so be it.
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Johnny1951
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Jul 15 @ 10:24AM
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I haven't voted for over 20 years....Not one of those creeps that were there to choose from were worth voting for so I didn't vote....And please avoid the answer it's your duty or something to vote...I would not and never will vote of the lesser of two evils just to exercise my right to vote...
Religion.....Don't believe in religion...I see it as a control issue invented by people who want to control the masses using guilt trips and the if you don't believe in god you'll go to hell trip....
The Pope for all you catholics out there, is a joke....Him and his cronies live in the grandest lifestyle, while people, not only in this country, but all over the world where he tries to push his garbage religion are homeless or dieing of starvation...And he is supposed to be gods representative on earth?...Give me a break please... 
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cudahudson
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Jul 15 @ 10:41AM
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Honestly, why can't two adults discuss anything on the first few dates. If we dated only those that agreed with everything we said and vice versa what a dull relationship that would be. A healthy discussion between two people of any subject mater makes for an interesting couple. So what if I voted third party and she voted different? So what if she believes in her religion and you have yours. as long as both agree that there is a God and doing what is right. Divorces are part of life, it should make us a better person not a bitter person, we only learn from our mistakes we make in life, therefore we grow. Being able to be mature and act accordingly two people should be able to be open and honest about anything.
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cncmikey
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Jul 15 @ 10:48AM
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it is a good idea to keep the conversation light and simple for the first few dates. beliefs can come later when you have already some idea what the person is like. the first couple dates is all about personality and if you like it or don't. and if you are looking for a relationship? never ever ever talk about sex. personally, it's a major turnoff and tells me that they are hinting to me that they are looking for a hook-up. dating is supposed to be fun.
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mojorisin
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Jul 15 @ 10:56AM
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those are good ones, livin p. some things are just like cans of worms that you don't need opened.
a recent girl i dated would keep saying "maybe that's why your relationship didn't work out" sometimes when i would do something that made her mad. and it would be a stretch that she would say something like that. like, it would be obvious that she was just trying to get a rise out of me.
i don't mind touching on subjects of politics or religion, as long as they don't become debates or full-blown conversations. like, a joke or two are fine. or a general overview.
i also don't like talking about my past relationships, even beyond why they didn't work out. i don't mind mentioning an overview of them. but i don't like to talk too much about them. if it's relevant it's not so bad. but just delving into it full-blown is generally not good.
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LivinProof
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Jul 15 @ 11:13AM
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Johnny I give you a lot of credit telling people you don't vote. I didn't vote the last election...... I didn't like either of them and didn't want either of them in office, so why vote just because I am Republican? So people would ask when I got to the office, did you vote this morning and I would say no I am not voting this year. Holly crap, did I open a can of worms I got ripped up one side down the other!
Who has the right to tell me what I should do? It's my privilege to vote and my privilege not to vote! It is none of anyone's business. So now, I keep my mouth shut and I don't give a flying fish who you vote for so you need not tell me.
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YourFriendInPA
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Jul 15 @ 11:20AM
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LivinProof, I don't think it is a matter of invading one's privacy. It is all about getting to know one another. The conversation should flow easily. No topic should be taboo. The depth to which a topic is discussed, though, should be comfortable to both. For example, if you don't want to talk about specific religions, that's OK but consider discussing why you don't want to talk about them. That discussion itself gives one some insight to a person.
Johnny1951, for your consider. I submit that there is nothing wrong with religious beliefs. All cultures have found religious beliefs to be of benefits. What you seem to recognize it is the religious organizations that are the problems. I have yet to learn of any religious organization that put the needs of its followers before the needs of the organization. The perspective of the "leaders" is that only if the organization is strong and financially secure can the followers be adequately served. To bring home the point visit the Vatican Museum.
Also, yes voting is the process of voting for the lesser of two evils. Our society and the world, in general, has so many conflicting priorties that I believe that no one candidate will share all of mine. Voting confirms support of our process of government. While I might not live long enoug to see it, this current administration is creating citizens who are outraged by its lack of respect for our political system. They focus upon the "letter of the law" rather than the "intent of the law". They may be valid for running a business but not, I don't think, for governing. These citizens are our future politicians. In time, the political pendulum will swing back to the left and as far to the left if not farther than it is to the right now. Hopefully, we will learn that middle of the road is best.
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AutumnSilk
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Jul 15 @ 11:26AM
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Personally, I am comfortable answering most questions however maintain my right "not to answer"....I once had a date ask what my bra size was...I politely looked him in the eye and asked how large his penis was. That relationship never really got off the ground...he was too busy during the FIRST date telling me why his marriage failed and how her really tried to sexually please his ex wife. Ok......
I don't really have rules about do's and don'ts of conversation...but I don't ask income, don't really care. Maybe when I was younger, now...I can talk about most anything.....
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Ramjet222
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Jul 15 @ 11:44AM
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8 or 10 inches...
is that why I don't get 2nd dates 
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illusion790
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Jul 15 @ 12:06PM
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I won't discuss politics, religion, or money. and I don't want to hear how miserable your ex wife is and how she took you to the cleaners...etc.
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theblessedone
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Jul 15 @ 2:03PM
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Other than details about physical intimacy (past, present, or future), I don't have any off-limit topics, although I do have boundaries on the extent of the conversation on certain subjects. Where I draw that line depends on the person I'm with, though.
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Godless
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Jul 15 @ 2:37PM
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Wow! Those are very important things to cover... the difference between like and dislike. Well, maybe not the reasons for past failed relationships, but definitley religion and politics. Those are subjects you need to clarify to determine the quality and compatibility of another person as compared to your own ideas and beliefs. I couldn't imagine not discussing these things prior to a date or on the first or second date.
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EarthyFunFemale
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Jul 28 @ 11:34PM
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LivinProof has come through again with another great blog! 
If my date is so concerned about discussing our religions, political choices, or money, then I know immediately the guy is not my type. Anyone who can't hold a conversation with me in person about his hobbies and interests outside of work obviously has NONE.  And since we're on the subject of annoying date conversation, I might as well throw this one in: please do NOT talk endlessly about your KIDS. I make it clear to all of my potential dates that I have NO KIDS by CHOICE before we meet, yet for some reason unbeknownst to me, I have met guys who completely IGNORE this important fact. They blather on every last detail about what their kids did in school, what activities they are involved in, what they wear, study, blah blah blah blah blah...  they can save that chatter for impressing their neighbors at the next 'hood BBQ.
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