I was just out at the pool chatting with a girlfriend and she was telling me about a date she had this weekend, and she really likes the guy but she hates to “tongue it” ha ha She asked me “what is a nice way to tell a man you like kissing him and he turns you on, but you just don’t like to tongue it” So, I thought what a better way to get advice than ask my many friends on MD. So….. what say you?
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Michael194
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Jul 18 @ 9:28PM
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Keep her mouth closed he'll get the message !!!
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 9:29PM
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tongue what?? oooopppppsss! 
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LonelyLisa77
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Jul 18 @ 9:31PM
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If she really likes him and wants the relationship to work, I would say be honest right up front. She needs to find out if that is okay with him before the relationship gets real serious.
My opinion!
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warmplace
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Jul 18 @ 9:34PM
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tongue what??
my exact thought after reading the headline!
but hey... i'd guess that if she doesn't wanna french him, it might be because she's not attracted enough to him. or maybe he needs an altoids???
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Karing
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Jul 18 @ 9:34PM
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I feel bad for the guy.
Wish I had some good advice, he's either a bad kisser or she's never felt the passion of a good kiss in her life.
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LivinProof
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Jul 18 @ 9:35PM
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She said she is attracted to him but she doesn't like to "French Kiss" any man, she prefers soft, dry kisses.
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ragtopcookie
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Jul 18 @ 9:37PM
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sounds to me hes just a bad kisser.......im 48 and i dont believe ive kissed a woman without my tounge......tell her to find somebody who knows how....
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 9:38PM
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Ohhhh - tongue that - whewwwwww!
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warmplace
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Jul 18 @ 9:39PM
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she doesn't like to "French Kiss" any man
i'm guessing tongue'ing anything else is outta the question as well...
oh that was bad...sumbuddy smack me
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trp61to06
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Jul 18 @ 9:40PM
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Your question should be how to convince her that she's an idiot. I suggest a quick, sharp rap to the back of her head. 
Does she know how many men could care less about kissing? Why do the lucky ones never know how lucky they are?
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tomccc
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Jul 18 @ 9:41PM
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Personally, it would be a big turn off if the woman I'm with didn't like to tongue it, as you say. My advice would be for her to learn to like it. Could be a deal breaker if she doesn't.
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IceKrystal
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Jul 18 @ 9:42PM
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I am up for just about anything that involves the tongue.... 
So....I have no advice to give...other than give him some breath mints, close your eyes and go for it........
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LivinProof
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Jul 18 @ 9:42PM
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Okay silly Willies, I am trying to help the girl out here.... how about some advice she is not a wossy.
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redtigr
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Jul 18 @ 9:43PM
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That tongue thing is a bit over-rated. So many men forget how sensitive are the lips themselves - they go at it as if "invasion" is the end-all of kissing... (naughty, naughty... not that kind of invasion...)
There should be lots of variety in kissing, lots of technique, and an escalation of desire... If a guy just shoves in his tongue, it's not sexy, it's not pleasant, it can just come off as aggressive - and it can be frankly: boring.
When I am checking out a potential lover, I want to know he doesn't think enthusiasm is a substitute for sensitivity and sensuality. I want to know he understands that kissing is a give and take thing - and that it can be a fully erotic experience in itself....
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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Jul 18 @ 9:43PM
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That really depends on exactly what she is kissing 
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 9:45PM
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hey warm - SMACK - right in a warm place!!!!!
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mojorisin
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Jul 18 @ 9:45PM
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yeah, i was with the "tongue what" crowd too 
funny, or awkward story from college: one day this girl from one of my classes and i were walking out to our cars after class. she looked at me a few times, and i guess i must have been looking at her looking at me. i don't recall being attracted to her, really. but suddenly her tongue was in my mouth! i kid you not.
i just wondered how the heck we went from talking about class to tongue in my mouth. to top it off, i don't remember my mouth even being open, let alone the start of some kiss. it ended with me having to explain to her that she must have gotten the "wrong idea" and blah blah blah.
anyhow, it's not "mojo's story time". so back to your friend.
i've heard it described as "liking gentle kisses". that opens it up for further description in a subtle way. also, she already established that she likes kissing. plus it sounds kind of sweet. i think it would keep the kisses coming, and it would allow for further discussion if needed.
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IceKrystal
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Jul 18 @ 9:46PM
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Ok....I'll be serious for about one second.
Tell her to tell the man.....he will back off if he is really intersted and when the time is right........................................tongues will come into play....trust me....... 
That's as serious as I can be....
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warmplace
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Jul 18 @ 9:48PM
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hey warm - SMACK - right in a warm place!!!!!
ooooooooobabydewitagain 
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enigmasrook
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Jul 18 @ 9:50PM
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well.....kissing is very intimate.....hmmm......can't answer that one...I like French kissing......but it is not a requirement....she should just tell him. Get it over with...maybe he can convince and convert her later. 
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dmbradley1978854
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Jul 18 @ 9:50PM
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Either she is or she isn't. It's simple. If a woman doesn't want to french kiss a man; She has an uphill battle. When a woman doesn't do that to me or want to do that with me; She without words says "I'm not attracted to you sexually". It doesn't matter what she actually says.
She has an uphill battle when it comes to men. 
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 9:55PM
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Ok - seriously - she has a BIG problem. I have NEVAH - had that happen to me regarding French kissing - now as far as the other tonguing - that is a bigger problem - ooppppssss!
ooooooooobabydewitagain
here you go warm - 
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Dracula20000000
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Jul 18 @ 9:56PM
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Tell him to tongue (it), and kiss her romanticly.
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Kenn159
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Jul 18 @ 10:01PM
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Kissing for me is something I really enjoy and consider it an important part of sexual expression, all kinds of kissing including using the tongue.
What a turn off, to be with women that didn't enjoy a very intimate part of kissing.
It would be similar to starting a relationship with women and being told, “we can never have sex because it’s gross”.
As far as advise,I guess as another women here mentioned that some guys don’t like to kiss, she needs to find one of them.
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azgirl701
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Jul 18 @ 10:01PM
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hey i love french kissing but if she doesnt let her tell him she doesnt
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IceKrystal
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Jul 18 @ 10:01PM
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Ok folks...damnit....didn't want to have to reveal these secrets...but...I consulted my better half and decided I need to explain the art of kissing....our style.
There are many, many techniques to kissing that do not involve the tongue. Kissing is intimate...and when sex isn't involved....the tongue really isn't needed. It's not needed when sex is involved, however, ......damn, that's a whole different area....I'm talking about kissing.....I need to concentrate.
Ok.......the lips don't always have to be fully touching...that's kind of the "tease" kiss....playful.
Upper lip kiss....lower lip kiss....kiss the chin...kiss the neck...lips pressed firmly...etc etc etc.
The use of the tongue is a "signal" of sorts....it is extremely....EXTREMELY sensual and arousing.....should only be used if you intend to use it...so to speak.
Take it from somebody who kisses a lot....I mean A L O T!!!!!!! We don't always use the tongue...we reserve that for....well.....you get the picture.
Lesson over....now...go practice. 
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warmplace
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Jul 18 @ 10:15PM
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all this smackin' and tongue'in is tearing me up....
~hits the shower~
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luneib
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Jul 18 @ 10:16PM
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This is an article from Girls LIfe magazine, but...it can also pertain to adults, I just thought these were cute.
Yucky Kisses!
Here are the worst of the worst—and what to do if you get a kisser who falls into one of these categories.
The Dental Exam (a.k.a. The Oral-All-Over).
The Kiss: He’s exploring your gums, teeth and entire mouth like his tongue has a dental camera on the tip of it. Yuck!
The Diss: Slow Captain Periodontics down by kissing his upper lip, then moving to his lower. You want to show your hottie that kissing you is about tenderness, not toothiness.
The Grand Canyon (a.k.a. The DNA Sampler)
The Kiss: His mouth is so open it’s like a huge spit hole on his face. This kisser also likes to stick his tongue as deep into your mouth as possible, as if he wants you to say, “Aaahhh…”
The Diss: Simply pull back a little so his tongue can’t reach past, say, your second molar. You want him to kiss you, not check your tonsils.
The Flopping Fish (a.k.a. The Wrestler)
The Kiss: He’s got two moves with his tongue: 1) vigorously up, and 2) vigorously down. When he’s really warmed up, he might go side to side. This guy isn’t into kissing in a sweet, gentle way. He’s into kissing like he’s on the mat.
The Diss: Before you toss this one out of the ring or back to sea, see if you can reel him in. Your tongue is actually a muscle, so tongue-wrestle his into submission by pushing it up and, well, sorta “pinning” it. Then you can expertly take over the kiss.
The Hot Tamale (a.k.a. The Gas Mask)
The Kiss: This one isn’t so much about the kiss as what’s behind it. The kiss might be a winner if your dude didn’t taste like fermented burger burps.
The Diss: If you’re bold enough to offer him a mint, do it and carry on with the kissin’. If not, breathe solely out of your mouth. It’s not much help, but it’s better than his nasty exhale burning your nostrils. And next time, take a bite of his chili burger—it’ll soften the blow.
The Slime Puppy (a.k.a. The Lollipop)
The Kiss: This guy’s a licker. Too much spit. He’s treating your face like it’s a double scoop of Cherry Garcia.
The Diss: Maneuver so that when he goes in for a lick, the tip of his tongue meets the tip of yours. Keep at it until you find a rhythm, a style. Two tongues doing the tango can be tasty. One tongue lapping up your cheekbone is just plain icky.
I agree with the one that is called The Diss, have her kiss his upper lip then move to his lower lip, that should keep him busy for awhile and eliminate the tongue action lol.
Also a suggestion of my own, tell her to eat alot of garlic or onions, then he won't want to kiss her . Hey, that's the only thing I could think of other then just be honest with the guy and telli him she is not into that at all.
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 10:17PM
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warm - not yet - just gettin started!!
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trp61to06
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Jul 18 @ 10:18PM
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Please? Even in Pretty Woman Julia Roberts gave in and kissed the guy. (Of course it was Richard Gere and he was rich...but I digress.) She got the "whole fairy tale" 
Point being, yes kissing is intimate, and touching tongues even more so. It should set off sparks! If it doesn't, he's not the guy for her!
Good Grief! If she thinks this is a big deal, "I pity the fool!" He's gonna miss out on sooooo much... Poor guy! By the way, does he live in Texas? 
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jelltex
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Jul 18 @ 10:20PM
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OK, seriously; my second wife did not like to 'French', and in the heat of passion it was the quickest way to cool the atmosphere. Sometimes, when the juices are flowing, using tongues it a great turn on. It can be worked round, but it can be hard if the guy likes it, and is used to Frenching.
Well, different stokes, I guess. If we were all the same, it would make for a dull ol' world.
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davidV
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Jul 18 @ 10:31PM
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what is wrong with a little french kissing. I thought that was the only way.
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IceKrystal
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Jul 18 @ 10:32PM
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Ok, hold on.....let me do a little test........................................................................
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no tongue kiss.....nice
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tongue kiss........logging off...see ya'll tomorrow...........
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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Jul 18 @ 10:34PM
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Hey,  Where the hell did Ice go? She was just here with the pizza delivery guy! 
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The_Boy_Next_Door
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Jul 18 @ 10:35PM
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Alright she's back  I guess she prefered real sausage. Good night
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 10:41PM
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warm - you cleaning off the tongue??
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enigmasrook
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Jul 18 @ 10:46PM
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illusion790
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Jul 18 @ 11:13PM
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it really depends on who you are kissing at the moment. if you are attracted, there maybe some tongue involved. If you are not attracted, keep your tongue home. When there is no atrraction, the tongue is not welcome. for me, jmo
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warmplace
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Jul 18 @ 11:23PM
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[QUOTE]warm - you cleaning off the tongue??[QUOTE]
the tongue of what?
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enigmasrook
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Jul 18 @ 11:26PM
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I like "tongue" so much....I wish a man had two......  Oh no she didn't???? Oh yes she did.  If they can graft human ears on mice, think they can graft a second tongue on men.....JMO> 
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enigmasrook
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Jul 18 @ 11:28PM
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I know just the man they can experiment on.
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 11:41PM
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ocean - YOU ARE OFF TOPIC
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iam7545
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Jul 18 @ 11:42PM
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warm - u r tongue - you said you were takin a shower - I dont wanna slap you again - that will make me really off topic and then Ocean will kick my ars! You know how she is with the rules!
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enigmasrook
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Jul 18 @ 11:55PM
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ocean is a complete idiot...don't listen to her. 
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Secure699
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Jul 19 @ 4:10PM
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Puke on him. he'll get the message
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Secure699
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Jul 19 @ 4:12PM
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Puke on him. he'll get the message
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tkngclk
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Jul 22 @ 7:19AM
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Then she needs to inform the gentlemen that is a form of kissing she isnt comfortable with at this time, but in the future a possibility? that might work?
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