As I scroll along and continue my endless search for my life's companion here in cyberland, it never ceases to amaze me, how misguided some people can become. I actually spent 10 years working in the advertising industry and if there is one thing I can testify to, it's first impressions are king.
We have several very pretty ladies here on MD. Some are in their 20's, 30's, 40's 50's and 60's and yet with the smile and charisma they project they can make you feel like a teenager again. Some post blogs, and participate in forums some do not. However, the ones who gain the most attention and responses all have one thing in common, they take pride in their appearance and their pictures. Does this mean they all spend hundreds of dollars on makeovers and glamour shots, not at all. What it means is they, look at the camera as if they were greeting you for the first time with an inviting and friendly smile. They post a picture that is probably similiar to how they would look, if you went to pick them up on a date. In other words, they have went out of their way to give a great first impression.
Some might believe these types of pictures to be fake or misleading but to me, it means they care about the image they project and their first impression. For example when I go on a date, (which isn't that often) I groom myself, trim my beard, brush my teeth, put on the my best clothes, dab on some cologne and sometimes if I have time, I even wash my car. Also, when I first meet a lady, I try to smile and make a great first impression. I don't let a fart, pick my nose and scratch my ass.
If you were meeting a guy for the first time, would you come to the door in hair curlers and your goofy animal house shoes? Hell no you wouldn't!!! You would want to look your best and essentially that is what you are doing here online, meeting someone for the first time. All of you women are beautiful in your own way, don't be afraid to show it to the world. The key word in case you missed it was SMILE. 
My point is, rather than criticizing other women for looking their best, why not take a look at yourself and ask, "would I want to meet this person?" You might, but would someone else?
As far as how men and women dress, it is a dating site and you're not going to see anymore here than at the local beach. My opinion is, people that have worked hard staying in shape and taking care of themselves, shouldn't have to keep it a secret. They're proud of the way they look and shouldn't have to dress down to appease others.
Thank you for reading my blog and have a great day everyone! (remember, it's just one guys opinion
Wolf
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kallie_ko
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Sep 6 @ 2:35PM
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Awesome blog, very well said! Great to see you back and you get a kudo. 
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cartay25
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Sep 6 @ 2:41PM
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 Very well put, first impressions are always what someone will remember the most 
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TheWytch
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Sep 6 @ 2:47PM
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 so the burping and farting are saved for the 2nd or 3rd date!!
My picture you will find is not a glamour shot!! Not even close. I am at the helm of an ocean bound sail boat; the winds were about a gale 2 - 3 and the waves were cresting over the bow so at least 3 - 6 footers. Though it was August; it was late afternoon - so a bit nippy with the sea air. Other then a dolled up picture; I thought a picture of myself at something I enjoy doing would be better. Unlike all those luckie ladies who like like barbie at the drop of a hat - I do not enjoy doing my nails; or posing for a nameless who ever. I think I am a brilliant person without the glamour shots - myself. Don't bother tch tch'ing. I was a cheerleader for 6 years; I modeled sports clothes - bathing suits and tennis outfits etc; and then I was a member of a dnce troupe - Dance d'Soliel; and I have been on tv in film and tv shows as well as presenting news and documentaries - ooops; don't think I mentioned that in my profs...did I. I also had my own weekly radio show; did public service announcements - and I have had published works in magazines and a few books. Does my picture say that? Nope!
I have chatted and ate with many personalities; and I have been to special events with politicians and quote movie stars end quotes - I can milk a cow by hand; I can ride a horse; and I can even fly a plane. Does that make my picture more glamorous? I want my picture to say; that there is more inthis package then meets the eye - that I have more then a coiffed head; and perfect make up - and that I don't cry if I break my nail. I hope my smile in my picture conveys - that I am having one hell of a great time at what I am doing.
BUT that is just one persons point of view - mine! 
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ladykay488
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Sep 6 @ 2:50PM
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Enjoyed reading your blog.
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Hard2get13
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Sep 6 @ 3:15PM
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Good blog and some good points ! Kudo to you ! Got me thinking so i just made an appointment for a perm and peticure ! 
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Zoe_75
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Sep 6 @ 3:27PM
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I have to agree with thewytch, although first impression are important, we have to remember that yes this is initial cyber dating.... I find that a lot of people can over look a dodgy picture if the chat/ conversation works.....
Do women want someone who will judge them purely on their looks.... I am sure some are ok with this... Me I would love someone regardless... I would hope that special person would love me for everything I have to offer
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CoralArenayMar
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Sep 6 @ 4:03PM
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Cool blog....
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goatman
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Sep 6 @ 4:42PM
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Well said.
You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
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Embracing
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Sep 6 @ 5:26PM
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Brilliant...Brilliant...Brilliant
I would like to add that a few pics of just being yourself on an average day adds more details to the "first impression"
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Mysterious_URS
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Sep 6 @ 7:13PM
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Wolf......  ...not only do you have the name of one of most admired animals...you are also on my fav list for being a GENT..!!
Magnificent blog...well said.....Kudos to you.. 
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wandaful123
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Sep 6 @ 8:26PM
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Kudos to TheWytch...
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Wolf36
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Sep 6 @ 10:31PM
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First I'd like to thank everyone who read and commented on my blog.
I'm a little disapointed, because I feel that the point I was attempting to make was lost on some of you. I didn't say you needed to post a glamour picture of yourself in order to make a good impression. Actually, here is exactly what I said" However, the ones who gain the most attention and responses all have one thing in common, they take pride in their appearance and their pictures. Does this mean they all spend hundreds of dollars on makeovers and glamour shots, not at all. What it means is they, look at the camera as if they were greeting you for the first time with an inviting and friendly smile."
What confuses me is, the ladies who took issue with my blog, have great profiles and pictures and they certainly weren't the focus of my words. I guess next time I'll have to do a better job of explaining myself.
Wolf
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dalagae2
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Oct 15 @ 8:34AM
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Hello Wolf,
I thought your blog was well written. You explained the point of view you wanted to get across. I agree with you -- its' the smile people put on their profile photos, that encourage the opposite sex to click on the link and try to find out more.
Also I found the comments of thewytch long winded. She came across as boasting, I am attractive etc. Who cares???? I mean, you can state your point of view, without having to talk of how attractive you are and how interesting you are - all the while implying that people who respond to smiles don't see much. If you feel that way - then,surely you can do so without blowing such a long hoot.
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exvagabond
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Oct 15 @ 6:13PM
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In other words, they have went out of their way to give a great first impression
In which case, they'll have to go out of their way to give a 2nd impression, 3rd, ad infinitum, or risk disappointment. I read this to mean superficial appearance, not intellect or loyalty or health or anything else deeper than epidermal. If that's what some people want, they can have it. But I'm not into Easter parades at all. I'll continue to look closer to earth and Nature. If that doesn't work, then it just doesn't.
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