So, I was on this dating site, sort of a dating site, which I won't mention the name of as I don't want the Mods to beat me again today.
This is not drama, this is not anything I'm upset over, because it's in regards to know one I care about, by the way. It's just one of those weird things that sometimes goes on in a person's life!
Here comes an older gentleman to converse with me via the emails on that site. He emailed me a lot for approximately 2-1/2 days . Keep that in mind so that when you see a movie called 2-1/2 days you will know it's all about the startling events that were our emailed discussions and rush to the theatre immediately.
He started out with one of the nicest things anyone said to me, via email, in a long time: He told me that I'm beautiful and, he thinks, very smart. Not that I think I am beautiful, to most people or anything, but I know I am to some and I really liked the way it was paired with being smart.
47 hours ago he bought me a flower, too. Then 41 hours ago he asked to see more pics of me and made it clear it was just friendly curiosity, not looking for anything sexual or romantic. :
Anyway, we talked a bit about needing to get out more, get in shape, that we were not looking for relationships but just chat and friendly sorts of things. He looked up my pictures on Ringo and insisted he liked them and that is definitely his call.
I had told him about my health issues, shown him my pictures, explained to him about the working towards better health including, hopefully, losing weight during those emails and 31 hours ago he was a well informed man as to my looks.
Me says:
I am really out of shape from years of being ill, stressed out, and I'm sure the doughnuts didn't help lol So, right now, I am still too tired to get out much but I am working on changing that. Even just having a part time job is a big change for me, at this point.
I have fibromyalgia and a few other things going on. None of it is catching, most of it is not fatal under any circumstances and none of it is bordering on that sort of worrisome state right now. Just, that I'm in a lot of pain and I'm very excessively tired all the time.
I have it set as my goal to be in well enough health to be able to work full time and hopefully in fairly decent shape as far as losing the weight and getting toned up by the end of next July.
Late yesterday, when I should have been asleep, I get this email from him which says he is not trying to sound mean; and then he asks me "You are a bit overweight aren't you? " and says he can tell it from my pictures.
And thus was my reply:
??? I believe I already mentioned needing to lose (more...) weight as I had been ill and under a great deal of stress for a number of years and really messed up physically from that.
Well, I know I said something about it.
And no, I am not a little overweight: I am a lot overweight. lol That's just the current facts of my existence If and when it changes, there'll be other facts to replace it.
Such is life
41 minutes ago he wrote his last email to me, thanking me for my honesty, wishing me luck, telling me he enjoyed our conversations.. and he deleted me off his friends list.
Now I ask you (rhetorically as there are too many of you to answer all at once anyway, thank you): Why would someone who enjoyed conversations of an online nature with a woman he just wanted to be friendly with dump her for being overweight?
Especially why would he do it over a day after she had quite freely told him she was? Even more especially when he was also overweight?
How could conversation possibly be effected by how much another person weighs? I mean, I weighed more when he messaged me, thanks to my fucothin, than I do when he deleted me lol
It was just a really weird response all the way around!.. no pun intended!
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530Meliss
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Sep 24 @ 11:36AM
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Because he was a big fat liar when he said he was just looking for a chat friend? *G*
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Cynbaby
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Sep 24 @ 11:36AM
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Many, not all guys just look at the body first, god for bid they are seen with an out of shape girl hanging on them. Meanwhile they think it's okay for them to have a gigantic gut. Never quite understood how they think. Now many will still lie and say its all about the personality and intelligence, but that's still a crock of shit. I use to be on the personals about 5 years ago and I would get these assholes asking me for measurements and sizes and I decided to start turning the tables back on them. I would be just as obnoxious back, I shut them right up when I started asking there size, height, weight and when was the last time they visited a gym.
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bmwer
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Sep 24 @ 11:40AM
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This guy seems to be a jerk! 
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misschoos
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Sep 24 @ 11:41AM
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He was obviously lying from the start. 
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Cynbaby
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Sep 24 @ 11:53AM
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Sorry, forgot to add he's an asshole for taking you off his friends list 
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Sep 25 @ 10:32AM
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Somewhere in there, Miss Choos and selected others, that was going to be my other point.: He told me something about how I shouldn't take it badly, he said something about "not to be rude".
Well, I'm pretty sure that if he deleted me for being overweight, he wasn't just looking for a chat friend so he was lying, and I'm bound to take people lying to me badly.
Also, he wasn't listening the first time I mentioned it, when he told me he was also out of shape and overweight, so that was rude.
In fact it was several counts of rudeness at once so "not to be rude" in and of itself is a lie, or an insanity plea.
Unfortunately, I had to go to work and stop fiddling about with rewrites. lol
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Hansumm
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Sep 25 @ 11:32AM
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Also, you are missing one thought here..
Some men and also women believe me. If they feel they are not accepted or will be rejected to a "dump you before you dump them mentality".
As you know this strategy, makes great sitcom comedy and scenario has done been over and over on movies and Tv, but the fact is...it is real and I still find it rather amusing when I see one go through this. This happend about 3 months ago for me. I had just told a girl that I liked her, and I had lots of fun with her, but was not feeling the chemistry between us. She then told me to give it more time, and I said, okay, we can go out again, we can be friends at worse. Anyway, I did not see her the following weekend, and then on monday I get a call from her saying that she did not feel safe with me and she didn't think we should see each other anymore......duh...  She then started to recite things about me, that she felt were not in common, and then I stop her and said, do you really think we need to go into details. We both agree and she replied your right.
First of all, i didn't think we hit a point that we were even going with each other I thought we were just trying to get to know each other. I never been dumped before I even knew I was in a relationship[ before.
Hopelessly, it's not you , it's him (this time it's proabably true). 
Thanks for sharing...
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