AutumnSilk posted this blog last night,Kissing, which I just got around to reading a few moments ago. Instead of taking over her blog, I decided my comment warranted a separate blog.
Over the weekend I met a man I had become acquainted with ONLINE last year. We had emailed & had a few phone conversations, but he was a widower not really ready to move on at that particular time. Since last winter, we may have exchanged 2 or 3 emails just saying HI.
Out of the blue last week, I received an email from him stating he was going to be in the next town over from me for some business on Friday afternoon. After that, he would be coming to my town for a bite to eat & a visit to Sam's Club. I emailed him back my phone numbers & said it would be fun to meet.
Sure enough, Friday afternoon, about 4 o’clock, he called....said he was going to Red Lobster & asked me to join him. I obliged....we traded vehicle information & off I went. I thought it would be a fun meeting. We could spend a little time chatting & getting to know each other & if we liked each other, maybe we could get together again later.
Dinner went fine (as fine as dinner goes at RL) and when it came time for the check I grabbed by pocket book to pay my share. He quickly informed me the dinner was on him & I thanked him. He asked if I'd be interested in going over to Sam's with him to do some shopping. I said sure I would, figuring it would give us a little more time together to chat & get to know about each other.
At the end of the shopping spree, I helped him to load his purchases in his truck & then we stood there chatting before he was to be on his way. Next thing I knew, he grabbed me (in the Sam's Club parking lot) and said "Gimme some tongue!"
Really, I was rather embarrassed!  I had JUST met this man...And he's expecting me to "give him some tongue" in the Sam's Club parking lot!!!!!
I promptly advised him that I was not gonna "give him any tongue" and stepped up to give him a polite peck....at which point he attempted to jam his tongue in my mouth!!!!!! 
When all was said & done...NO, I did not GIVE HIM ANY TONGUE...we were on our way.  He said he would not pressure me & I thanked him.
Last night I emailed him a thank you for the dinner. I told him I thought he was nice man & that I appreciated his not pressuring me. Today I received the following email from him:
Had a good time at dinner and enjoyed the conversation, but I think your not affectionate enough for me. I like holding and kissing and you seemed to want to back off too much. You say you are a shy person and i am not into all that stuff now. Hope we can still be friends but i just cant get into shy women...........
I literally laughed my ass off after reading that email. And, I found myself thinking "What the hell do men EXPECT?" SOOOOOOOOOO...I emailed this in return: Wow. Ok, I understand your position.
I don't mind affection...holding hands, kissing...matter of fact, I love it...but I don't just go there because I like it. I'm the type person who enjoys things developing with time...to me to be affectionate with someone is to share my feelings for them & pretty much on a first meet, those feelings are not just there on the surface for me.
As always, wishing you nothing but the best!
Take care,
I’m here to tell you, kissing is a great extracurricular activity, in my opinion. HOWEVER, I am NOT interested in having every man I meet cram his tongue down my throat!!!!!!!
Happy kissing everyone!!!!!!
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babydoll1970
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Oct 1 @ 9:31PM
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Well said.... In my opinion, kissing is part of intimacy. I am not about to get intimate with every man I meet...
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ChipP
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Oct 1 @ 9:42PM
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he's a pig for doing that...What kind of man says that kind of thing?  I would never say something like that...geeze
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justlkn853
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Oct 1 @ 9:48PM
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Miss...pls send Chip my way...
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honeybear285
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Oct 1 @ 9:50PM
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Good for you....he had no right to say that to you...."gimmie some tongue"....gimmie a break....and he thought this was ok upon meeting someone for the first time?....apparently he was not thinking....it would have been different if you had indicated in any way that you would welcome his kiss....I said kiss, not his ramming his tongue down your throat....oh well, there's more apples in the basket, just pitch the bad ones in the compost and move on
Peace and Love
Honeybear
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MusicDesign
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Oct 1 @ 9:52PM
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I have heard stories like this before and experienced it myself. What happened to romance? Hello???? Anticipation means so much more once you know someone better. Meeting for a few hours is not knowing someone.The sad part is, if these men would just ease up, they would get kissed...by forcing the issue...they lose.
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allie416
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Oct 1 @ 9:53PM
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you go girl, they start out on here sometimes with dirty lines right fro the begining,we have to be careful 
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AutumnSilk
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Oct 1 @ 9:54PM
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I am honored to be linked but not LICKED. :)
I once dated a guy I fondly refer to this day as "cow tongue" he had a quite long tongue and slobbered all over me. He said he was being passionate. I thought he had stock in Bounty paper towels.
Men are wonderful, I love em and would not want to live without them but I wish they'd take a hint. If we say we love to kiss, we probably do, just don't expect a everything all at once.
Good rule of thumb, first kiss...short and sweet. NO TONGUE
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whatagal
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Oct 1 @ 9:56PM
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I think I would have slapped the piss right outta him!
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RomanticLibra106
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Oct 1 @ 10:07PM
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He deserved to be told off. He's a PIG!
I've met more than my share of pigs in seven years of being single again. I am in the process of writing a screenplay called, "Internet Dates from HEAVEN??!! NOT!" They're going to be funny because I'm going to poke fun at people like him.
I think some men are just tooooooooo impatient and pre-judge a woman based on her respect for herself misconstruing that as 'coldness'. They couldn't be more wrong! Anyone with half a brain can tell even just from your blogs that you aren't a cold person at all! Good for you to respect yourself and have high enough self-esteem to stand up to a guy like this.
Maybe he was trying to turn you on, but that comment would turn most of us women off.
Men. If you want a decent woman who you can trust, love and respect, try doing the same towards her. It's a two way street.
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enigmasrook
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Oct 1 @ 10:26PM
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omgosh......how bizarre. You sexy woman you. Glad you are okay. 
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Skydognc
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Oct 1 @ 10:29PM
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but dats what us dogs do best!
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Cynbaby
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Oct 1 @ 10:50PM
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You know it would have been so romantic if he would have made the move right there in Sam's club, you know right where they have the gigantic stacks of paper towels and toilet paper, he could have gently flung you down onto the stacks and gotten some tongue action...LOL 
Glad you didn't cave in to his ever so slick moves 
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dallas1995
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Oct 1 @ 10:52PM
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I wondered whay you have been up to...sorry it turned out like that 
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SunBabe
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Oct 2 @ 1:15AM
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da doggie said:
but dats what us dogs do best!
Oh man, that's all I could think of when you mentioned "instant tongue", Miss  ...Why-oh-why do some guys think that's the only way to kiss?  And why would any guy think that would be appreciated by essentially a stranger? ~shudder~
Well if you're "shy", so am I  ...or maybe we're just creeped out about rushing things. (ugh -- I think of that "assault" scenerio as something close to "mouth rape"...not cool in my book. And what a way to end a potentially good date )
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bamastyle
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Oct 2 @ 7:07AM
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Now that is over....
Wonder what Mr Romantic would say next..."Let's get nekkied?"
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edthepoet
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Oct 2 @ 7:31AM
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What can I say, can you imagine what kind of lover or mate he would be.
When two people kiss for the first time, it should have a smooth slow natural feeling to it, not jam your tongue down her throat,geez.
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TheWytch
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Oct 2 @ 8:08AM
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He horrid; he actually used those words? Unless he has bought a hooker; I don't think that line will get a lot of use! Count your lucky stars!!! Cheers
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Godless
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Oct 2 @ 2:47PM
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Dang! Lol... Funny he would come to the conclusion that you are not affectionate by refusing the kiss of a total stranger. Perhaps he meant you weren't easy enough.
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Sweetheart83446
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Oct 2 @ 2:55PM
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Gimme some tongue
Ohh Lord.
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misschoos
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Oct 2 @ 3:17PM
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Nice blog gf, I hope you stay friends
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lazareth
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Oct 2 @ 11:50PM
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"gimme some tongue"? sounds like high school mentality to me
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daisy315
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Nov 10 @ 5:38PM
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How Crude... yuck....
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Sweetheart83446
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Sep 6 @ 10:55PM
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. And he's expecting me to "give him some tongue" in the Sam's Club parking lot!!!!!
You must have nice hot lips for all these men to want to kiss em' so bad. 
Stick to the song, you can't hey herpes this way.
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