whiteghost672
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Oct 12 @ 2:47AM
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Pear, you just haven't found the right man. There are good men out there that don't cheat. Just have to find him. Something to do is try not to open your heart too much to someone, give them time, if after some time they really are good then let them in a bit more into your heart, but protect your heart til he proves he is good & loves you & won't hurt you.  
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mystery2u888
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Oct 12 @ 3:01AM
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 Pear you are a good woman.....and have a good heart it is not you it is them......not all men are bad......many men are wonderful.....you just have find the right one......that will treat you right and you will balance eachother out....do not rush...and I am so sorry you are going thru such a hard time......  it makes me very sad for you and I am sorry for that...  I wish things to be better for you......  xoxoox
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eti234
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Oct 12 @ 3:16AM
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Because monogamy is not hardwired into human nature, contrary to jelousy, envy, compatitiveness and fear, which are. And by the way, women cheat too, lots of them. Not all of them, of course. There is that fairly rare, special, superior kind of human breed ( both man and women) that understands commitement, compasion in the face of adversity too. Every one of us is not that lucky to find one of those.
Please don't label yourself stupid just because so far you did not have the luck you desired. The point is, lovering your fragile selfesteem is conterproductive.
You need to luck up and ahead. Raise your selfesteem, and leave the cheaters behind in the dust. You don't need to put up with that, especially if it makes you feel so miserable. When you love yourself, and feel good about yourself, the desired luck will come to you. Thanks for pouring your heart out in a blog. That's brave. You have my sympathy. I wish you luck.
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hunt4luv
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Oct 12 @ 3:27AM
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I dont Know why people cant be faithful pear.im so sorry for your sadness.
there is only one thing I know to do and i will do that in a moment when I get off this computer. I will get down on my knees and ask god to give you strength
and wisdom. and a great big hold you in his loving arms hug. he loves you
beleive it.
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hudat
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Oct 12 @ 4:53AM
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Some guys play games to get layed, some play games to fill desires there parents didn't give them, and some are just strait up assholes.
But there are few who really want that long life next to some one.
Just don't give up cause then those assholes win.
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forfunforus
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Oct 12 @ 5:43AM
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I know sometime it is hard to have faith that you will find the right one for you Pear. But I believe that there is a special someone for everyone! Try to be patient, let the ones that you feel are not right for you go, and the one you talk to next could be the one meant for you!
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kjac
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Oct 12 @ 7:51AM
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Some people cheat. It's in their nature. I'm sorry for your pain. If I may make a suggestion, you should be alone until the pain of the last relationship is gone. Because if it lingers into your next relationship, it will hang over it like a huge raincloud.
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carold
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Oct 12 @ 8:10AM
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Pear
I know it hurts when this happens to you. It would hurt almost everyone. However you probably keep dating the same guy each time...what I mean is even though the names and the faces change basically the personality is the same. You need to figure out what attracted you to these guys...there has to be something there that's the same that maybe you need to stop picking as your choice.
I also think, and I've said this before, that you need to get yourself into counseling. You seem to have a very low self-esteem, and that is not a pre-requisite for a relationship. You have to find out who Pear is and like yourself before wanting to share yourself with anyone. What would you have to share now in the present state you're in? Basically you'd get involved to have someone take care of you since you can't do it yourself right now and you're not a plant. No one has to "take care of you". You're a vibrant woman who can take care of herself if she has a mind to. And from what I've seen you don't have that mindset right now. Each of your blogs show no self esteem, pity, anguish, anger, and self-destructive behaviors. I mean all this in a good way as hard as it may be to see right now. Your moods are getting darker and darker and you're sinking into quicksand. If you don't get help soon it's going to continue to get darker. Just talking about it here is not the only answer and as depressed as you are I worry about how dark it will become. PLEASE get some help. Both in therapy and legally. You have to get on your feet and make a stand for what's yours. If you don't no one can do it for you.
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