It will take a while to free our minds from this.Habitual anger must be replaced with habitual patience,and this takes time and consistent effort to develop.when we notice our anger building up towards someone,it's helpful to ask ourselves,"what button is this person pushing in me?why am I so irritated by her actions?"In this way,we research our reactions to determine the real issue involved.Do we feel powerless?Do we feel no one listens to us?Are we offended?Observing in this way,we'll come to know ourselves better and can then apply the right antidote to that disturbing attitude.
Of course,prevention is the best medicine.Instead of allowing our anger to build up over time,it's better to be courageous and try to communicate with the other person earlier on.This stops the proliferation of misconceptions and misunderstandings.If we allow our anger to build up over time,how can we blame it on the other person ?We have some respoonsibility to try to communicate with people who disturd us.
By-Ven Thubten Chodron
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