For some time now, I've been ridding my life of people that seemed to drain me. Life suckers, human sponges, emotionally overwhelming people, etc. I was not aware that there is a term for those types until about a month ago and when I realized, there is in fact, a psychology/sociological interest in these types, I delved into research.
Although I'm not certain I've been attached to any Psychic Vampires, I know my past is filled with emotional vampires/vampiresses. I'm not certain when I realized they were no longer welcome in my world, but one by one, they have been removed. These included old friends, family members, new friends, etc. I think the family members were the toughest to identify and also the toughest to let go ~ nevertheless, my family tree is now a twig.
I wonder how many other people have done this "downsizing" for the sake of quality interpersonal relationships. Today, my life consists of those who enhance/promote positivity in my life ~ there is no more gossip, no more he said/she said and no more drama that is not my own. Well, no more drama period.
Psychic Vampires (the theory) dates back to Ancient times, Asian/Greek mainly and those were concubines who created strife amongst the group and during greek times of gay bathhouses, if someone were to "kiss and tell" so to speak, they were killed (as were the problem concubines.) Obviously, today that isn't the practice ~ but in some ways, I suppose I have rid those from my world in a much less vile manner, regardless, they are not allowed. I wonder how others deal with these types? I'm basically an orphan because my Mother's controlling nature and my Father's lack of interest/coldheartedness were two of the first to be let go ~ does anyone relate to this or is this something others allow due to genetic link or longevity? Or the proverbial, "I just ignore those qualities and hold out for the rare good times?"
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Mellajenn
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Oct 19 @ 11:58PM
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I hear ya! But i do still keep in touch with my family..I just keep my boundries 
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sophiavee
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Oct 20 @ 12:14AM
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i know what you mean and usually it is very hurtful when others direct that sort of an attitude towards you. I keep my distance and boundaries well marked though and let them know that i didn't appreciate their behaviour. When it works and people make an effort to change and be more positive then i do keep them in my life... families will have their ups and downs.. 
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MusicDesign
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Oct 20 @ 12:17AM
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I know the term and did it as well. When I would communicate with them and have a knot in my stomach,  my body was telling me something. It was hard to do since these were lengthy relationships, but do not regret it.
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GiggleAddiction
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Oct 20 @ 12:23AM
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I have to agree with all of you. Families do have ups and downs. I can handle those ~ the human sponges, different story for me. If you aren't adding to my life, rather only taking from it ~ you've got to go.
Oh ~ Music, I so related to that knot in the stomach. There were times I was literally physically ill during a few years when things were unusually stressed between my Mother and myself. Today ~ sad to admit, I don't know her anymore and the "missing" her has subsided. We are just toxic to one another I think.
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sputter49
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Oct 20 @ 10:21AM
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I wonder how many other people have done this "downsizing" for the sake of quality interpersonal relationships. Today, my life consists of those who enhance/promote positivity in my life ~ there is no more gossip, no more he said/she said and no more drama that is not my own. Well, no more drama period.
I very much enjoyed running across your post. I come from a family of seven and the "tail" end sorta speak. (grin) Being the youngest of the family, gave me a wonderful opportunity to observe the "workings" of individuals... within the family and those whom the other family members interacted with. Later in my life, not really realizing... but given what I "gleaned" from my younger years... armed me with "informations" and realizations about "people" that pretty much put individuals you speak of within my radar... well within a few conversations... that revealed them as psychic vampires. My term for them... "life suckers". I like your term better. (smile) After marriage, I leaped at any opportunity that came along to.. "get out of Dodge"... solely for the purpose of getting away from the "influence" of the "life suckers" or... psychic vampires.
I'm not hugely popular with most circles... simply because my vampire radar is extremely accurate... and as I've found out... once these "vampires" know they have been identified... they will spare nothing... to craft an image of hate and mistrust in the minds of others, of you.
Your post was wonderfully refreshing and one of the most interesting I've seen posted here in a good many months. THANK YOU!! (smile)
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IMHERE4UNOW
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Oct 20 @ 7:08PM
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I wholeheartedly agree with the subject/discussion. It is bad enough when the vampires/toxics are outside the family, but even more devastating inside the family. I used to believe that love conquered all the problems, but that love has to be two-sided and a willingness from all who love to find a better way. I had to separate from my family for legal, ethical, moral, and toxic reasons. I do not enjoy being alone, but sometimes it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person(s). So, GA, you are not alone because of the same situations that happen to many. Thanks for posting this blog...
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bpgjohn
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Oct 22 @ 6:22AM
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iteresting post thre concept isnt alien in that most people dont know that they are throwing there emotional baggage at someone else
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sexyeyes755
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Oct 30 @ 7:37PM
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They DEFINITELY exist...........both types.
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