seems i see on here, so many people who are just looking for NSA sex. what ever happened to long term relationships, and making love? did they go out of style when i wasn't looking? was i on a coffee break maybe? i do drink lots of coffee, i guess i could have missed it then.
myself though, i cannot get my mind around the thought of never again feeling that special emotional and physical intimacy, shared between a man and woman who have a deep love and respect for one another.
and yes, i, just like any other healthy adult, do have sexual needs, but i, personally, just can't see myself putting those needs above the needs of my heart.
and speaking of my heart, yes, i am over fifiteen, so therefore, it has been broken, and part of me can understand why some people would find it frightening to take another chance, put themselves out there, to possibly be hurt again. but if your not loving, are you even really living? life just seems like such a hollow shell with no one to share it with. well, for me, anyhow.
maybe, we women in general are just too confusing for men to bother having real relationships with? yes, we pms, blow hot, and cold, talk too long on the phone, spend too much money on silly things like shoes and nail polish, and omg, we cry, it's horrible, i know.
but, we also, or myself anyway, (who is also guilty of the afforementioned sins) will hold you when your sick, cook for you, massage you after a long day, listen to you rant on about how bad your day was, stand up for you to our friends and family, even when we know your wrong, and rock your world in bed. it's called love and loyalty, something you don't get with the much sought after "NSA" sex.
i couldn't even tell you if you asked, exactly what i am looking for, i can tell you that it's not "no strings attached sex", and it's not heartache and lies, i've had more than my fair share of those things in this life. maybe i am looking for a reason to believe in this thing called "true love", that i have so closely held my faith in all these years, despite the fact that i havn't found it yet.
"they say that love is in the air
but never is it clear
how to pull it close
and make it stay"
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imsingle2
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Oct 22 @ 8:46PM
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It' usually the ones that are bold enough to believe someone will take their bait that talk the talk... The ones that are looking for the deeper meaning are not the ones that talk about it...
There's no reward in conquering an empty castle..!
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530Meliss
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Oct 22 @ 8:52PM
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What is NSA?
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azgirl701
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Oct 22 @ 8:52PM
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thats all these men think about is sex
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bunbona
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Oct 22 @ 8:55PM
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nsa = no strings attached
:)
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redhotzz
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Oct 22 @ 8:59PM
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I feel the exact same way and will not change for any man. NSA sex is EMPTY sex. I'd rather buy a new "toy" and be with myself, than deal with NSA sex. I'm happy to see I'm not the only one who's hip to this.
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SweetNapaGuy
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Oct 22 @ 9:14PM
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I don't think I could have another one-night stand, or no-strings-attached sex. I can't imagine sex not having any emotional repurcussions. I'd rather be celibate for the rest of my life than treat another human being as a living "RealDoll."
That being said, I can imagine being in a situation where I find a woman who is someone with whom I share a connection (same tastes, same views on life, fun to be around, likes to do the same activities I do), but neither of us fall in love with the other. In such a situation, I can imagine sharing sex.
"True love" is elusive. I'd rather not wait for my "soul mate" to show up, but I'm not going to diddle everything that walks with a cleft between its thighs.
So "NSA"? Ain't going to happen with me. But "FWB" (with emphasis on "friends" part of "friends with benefits")? Definitely possible.
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Kentuck
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Oct 22 @ 9:24PM
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nsa is like the line hook and sinker--just reel it in
Good relationships do not need the nsa clause
It is simple--she wants and respects him and he wants and respect her
The strings attached is the major problem today
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breezylight
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Oct 22 @ 9:25PM
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Awesome blog...well said and ohhhh so true. KUDOS to you.
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ANGRY_MUPPET
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Oct 22 @ 9:30PM
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nsa = no strings attached
I have no strings attached  .,
ya wont get ya legs all tangled up now 
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bunbona
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Oct 22 @ 9:34PM
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hmmmm... i think i missed something kentuck, cuz that comment just, um, confused me?
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MaggieMay64
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Oct 22 @ 10:19PM
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 Bravo!! Well said! 
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redtigr
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Oct 22 @ 10:41PM
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nsa sex
curiosity sex
desperation sex
sex as gratitude
friends with benefits sex
There are all kinds of sexual encounters but none can compare with making love.
A righteous blog...*
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SweetNapaGuy
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Oct 22 @ 11:56PM
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Oh hell. Someone brought up "making love"?
Recent episode of FOX's Bones said:
Booth: I didn't lose my appetite because you mentioned horse meat. I lost my appetite because you made me think of all those people, parading around, pretending to be something they aren't, just so they could have crappy sex.
Brennan: How do you know it's crappy?
Booth: Gotta be, Bones. Come on, it's gotta be.
Brennan: Why?
Booth: Why? I'll tell you why. Here we are. All of us, basically alone, separate creatures just circling each other. All searching for that slightest hint of a real connection. Some look in the wrong places, some, they just give up hope because in their mind they're thinking, “Oh, there’s nobody out there for me.” But all of us, we keep trying over and over again. Why? Because every once in a while, every once in a while, two people meet and there’s that spark. And yes Bones, he’s handsome and she’s beautiful and maybe that’s all they see at first, but making love? Making love. That’s when two people become one.
Brennan: (awestruck) It is scientifically impossible for two objects to occupy the same space.
Booth: Yeah, but what’s important is we try. And when we do it right, we get close.
Brennan: To what? Breaking the laws of physics?
Booth: Yeah, Bones, a miracle. Those people, role playing and their fetishes and their little sex games, it’s crappy sex. You know, at least compared to the real thing.
Brennan: (after looking at Booth thoughtfully for a while) You’re right.
Booth: Yeah, but - Wait a second, I just won that argument?
Brennan: Yup. (They both smile)
(Note: what follows is a rant, but not an attack.)
Do I wish I could Make Love(tm)? Damn straight I do.
How often does it really happen, though? Of the many times we delude ourselves into thinking we're making love, how often has it been because of hormones, desperation, misunderstandings, or just plain intoxication?
I've spent twenty years looking to make love. I've had a crush that lasted more than a decade, only to find the object of my infatuation was a bigoted mental case. I've been one-nighted several times, and one-nighted someone else once or twice. I've been celibate through apathy, done "everything but," spent too much time doing "self service"...
Making love is an ideal. Those who manage to find it, I envy. It's an impossible dream for others. I'll take halfway decent sex (sex with a friend) over no connection at all...
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bunbona
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Oct 23 @ 12:11AM
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k, i have to answer to this comment napa, because in a way, i do agree with your "rant thats not a rant", i really do, i don't want to, but i have to.
if i'm honest with myself, i must admit, for all the times i THOUGHT i was in love, in my life, the very best sex i ever had, was in a long term relationship with a man who for 9 months said i was NOT his girlfriend, and he would rather get a dog, than live with me.
now your wondering, why on earth would i have sex with him for nine months when he said things like that? well, he was a sailor, who would call me from different ports, send me flowers, fly me out to see him, and tell me he loved me all the time. HE had a bigger set of issues than i do even, and maybe, that was some of the allure? the wanting what you couldn't have? a womans unfortunate need to "fix" men?
no matter what the reasoning, the best sex i ever had was in a relationship that wasn't a relationship.
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smilingmale
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Oct 23 @ 8:04PM
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I like how you think, you deserve a kudo.
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