In a perfect world you would never have to be alone once we reach marriage age. We would have numbers on our feet . When you see your matching number walla you have the guy or gal that is your other half. You would fall instantly in love at first site. If the guy ever stepped out on you his peter would fall off the instant he went for the gold. With women it would be her boobs. No more cheating and everyone has someone. 
I am so going to be alone forever. 
I am attracted to that type of guy that I can not have. He is 5'8 or taller he is fit , has that flat tummy and looks darn good in them tight jeans and wants a hwp woman always. I have been hwp for a total of three years my entire life.
I see so many men and their personality and mine mesh so perfect but they would never even think about me as a romantic interest because I am not hwp.
I would love to be 125 pounds right now.
I even enjoy working out when I have someone to work out with. I am not one to jog now but years ago I loved to ride my bike and I did jog. One thing I like about my job is it is physical and not all mental.
Being married to meat and potatoes mr junk food by the barrel don't make me gain a pound, here baby I made your plate for you, don't pay attention to how much is in it just eat it all or I will pout because I made it for you and you refuse to eat it all, has left me with a fixer upper body instead of a move in ready one.
I so crave a hug and to be held and to just have someone to say I love you more than you love me to , someone to spoil besides my girls. I settled twice because I felt I was to ugly to ever find a man like the one that makes my heart race when I see him as well as leap in my chest when he talks.
It is sad. I will most likely be alone forever because unless I am able to lose the weight and get my body in shape I am destined to be by myself wishing the type of man I desire was the same type that would desire me. I don't want to settle this time. I think sometimes we get so lonely that we do settle and make the guy or girl out to be the perfect one for us in our mind when really he/she is not the one at all. This time i want the total package. However, God does have a sense of humor so I would not put it past him to send the best guy for me in a wrapper that Is anything but my type.
Two things that i must have though. I don't like large tummys, a beer gut sends me running and I do like a head full of hair and could he please be taller than I am?
concerning the inside man could he be kind and gentle and yet not weak, responsible but able to have fun and never stingy. Can he be fun but not so outgoing and fun that every woman throws her number in his lap. Could he not know he is handsome and never flirt with other woman because he is not going to get any womans hopes up because he has what he needs and wants already. Could he not think that marriage is just a piece of paper and easy to throw away? Could he have that once married i will die before I leave attitude. Could he be the best thing that ever happened to me and my girls and could he make the man who left me look like chopped liver when it is all said and done.?
I met a guy and his wife sunday. He is 6'3 , has real broad shoulders he is a big guy but has that I bet he lifts tummy, he has nice wavy brown hair. His wife and I hit it off and we are a lot alike but of course she is thin and tiny. I actually felt smaller sitting beside him and I thought it would be cool to have a guy like that, I bet the bear hugs would be awesome.
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SunBabe
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Oct 27 @ 3:09AM
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~pssst~ You know what I just noticed -- you've started to use some of your imaginative creative writing talent again. Cool! You're blossoming whether you see it or not. 
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KiddBilly
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Oct 27 @ 4:06AM
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And women say men are shallow.
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Lovinheart445
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Oct 27 @ 4:06AM
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OMG!!! I sooooo feel your pain!! In a perfect world..But just what is a perfect world?
I am not fat, as my abbs are rock hard, but what does that matter? I am not a cheater, nor do I ever wish to be with a excheater..I do love to give all my attention to my partner/wife/g/f..I love to hold, and be held..
I too want to hae everything you have discribed..When that will happen, only God knows.
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minky
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Oct 27 @ 6:59AM
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Chatty--
I've found that my weight may attract the type of man you describe (flat tummy),
But the attraction has turned out to be quite shallow. [e40
I'm more concerned with the way he treats me than the way he looks.
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eButterfly8
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Oct 27 @ 8:45AM
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I agree with Minky. There are definitely guys like that that are not superficial, but it's hard to come by. I feel like there are some things that you can accept when other things are better. Like I can accept a guy who might not be as tall as I'd like if he has all the personality traits I admire. Those things are a lot more important anyway in the long run because after a while looks fad, for everyone. (But I do understand the lonliness Chatty, you'll get through it though, we all do.)
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RomanticLibra106
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Oct 27 @ 8:59AM
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I agree with Minky and eButterly. We do all get through the loneliness - it's called being single! But having just gotten out of a relationship that had all the ear marks of disaster had it become long term due to his self-destructive habits, I can tell you with absolute certainty that being with Mr. Wrong is worse than being alone until you find Mr. Right.
Don't go for looks - they fade. Physical attraction is nice but just the icing on the cake and what good is 'pretty icing' if the 'cake' underneath is 'rotten or stale'??????? People can lose weight - people can gain weight. People can get nose jobs. People can get botox and fix their wrinkles but what good is all that if they aren't a great person. Personality/heart/soul is most important. This is who and what you will live WITH and when you're both old and can't get around like you used to you are stuck with a once good looking jerk who doesn't treat you well, has an attitude - you get the picture. Honey, go for what's INSIDE the person and don't go for the looks. Sometimes a man who doesn't appeal to you physically at first suddenly becomes gorgeous in your eyes and that's called love. Love only sees perfection in our loved one and accepts the flaws we all have as part of the package.
Good luck to you.
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jentoblues101
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Oct 27 @ 9:13AM
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Ya know, it's not hard to change the physical paradigm. All you need is a guy who likes and treats you well, and who touches you pretty.
I'm dating a guy who I would never, ever have found attractive. He's tall and bean-pole skinny--to the point of gawkiness. He's ten years younger than I (I like guys my own age or older), but is bald except from that irritating rim of hair that lets him look fully haired when he has his gimme cap on.
And Chatty, he's kind and sweet and touches me so nice. To me he's the handsomest guy around.
It'll come if you open yourself up and let it...
Good luck!
Jen
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