Many of you women have been “played” on the internet and on this site by men who just like to play women. It is a game with some of the men. They do not care if anyone is hurt or embarrassed after the game is over. It is just a game and they had their fun. Those men have no feelings for what they do to the women. They have no souls and hearts, or any compassion for the women they hurt,
Always be very careful and on the watch for the players.
Men play women in different ways and for many different reasons and it is a way of life for those men. There are some red flags that women can watch out for and bring the game to an end before they get hurt or embarrassed at having been played.
After a few messages on a dating site, the men usually like to get the woman on an instant messenger, so as not to lose their membership on the dating site. Once on an instant messenger, the men will say, “ Send me some photos“. Some even say, “If you send me one, I will send you one, let’s exchange photos.” That is your big red flag that they are “playing” you.
Those men are not looking for “just” any kind of photo. They will take the sexy photos in negligees and bikinis, etc, but that is not what they really want.
They want a nude photo to add to their collection that they have gotten over the years. It seems that is what the players really want most.
The man will also start out in a very interested way by saying, “I want to come see you.” Then they change it to “You come see me”. They think they have you then with that line. They will then talk to you for about a week to see what photos they can get, hoping for that nude one.
Keep in mind that a good, kind, honest man will not ask you for intimate photos. That is not his style. Most men online are of this character and would rather meet the woman in person than to ask for intimate photos online.
I caution you to never send a nude photo to a man. If you have any nude photos on your computer, then delete them promptly, so as you will not fall to temptation and send one. It is unwise to send any sexy photos in negligees as my other blog indicated. They can also be used to blackmail you in the end, depending on your job.
When one of the “players” finds out that you really do not have any "hot" photos or a “nude” of yourself they will then drop you like a hot potato. It usually takes them a few days of playing before they realize that you do not have a nude shot, or if you do have one, that you are not about to send it. Remember they will drop you anyway, if they get the nude or not.
You always have your archives to prove that they asked you for the photos and all that they said while “playing you”. Always SAVE your messages and archives. It might be permissible to post those messages from the other site were you talked .
It is time the players are exposed and played back to the same extent. It is time for them to be embarrassed.
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burnslikethesun
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Oct 31 @ 4:53PM
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LOl dareling when and where should i put my list of the female players?
6 years here, its quite f***ing long
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burnslikethesun
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Oct 31 @ 4:54PM
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And its not just the men that are out there, being shady.
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odinusa
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Oct 31 @ 4:56PM
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I have to say you are right about the pics........As far as me if she is sending them to me and to????? Not someone I would want to have in my life and share a home with......But again thats just me.......
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Sheryll861
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Oct 31 @ 4:58PM
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Then there is the "Do you have a web cam?"
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john49887
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Oct 31 @ 5:02PM
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It is time the players are exposed and played back to the same extent. It is time for them to be embarrassed.
I hope that includes both male and female.
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ladykay488
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Oct 31 @ 5:06PM
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If they play that kind of game with people I would like to see them get what they deserve. 
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HandyItalian
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Oct 31 @ 5:09PM
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Ok... two Questions..... You telling me you will send me a nude pic of you.? ..... ,...... Second, You going to ask me for one??.....   
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Mellajenn
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Oct 31 @ 5:15PM
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Good blog KK!  Then there are the ones that send us the nude photos!
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ChipP
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Oct 31 @ 5:17PM
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I want one woman, who I get along famously with, who makes my loins boil, who's last name isn't .jpg and will actually meet me in person with the goal of exploring a long term commitment..period....where is she? games? No games....I'm too old for that crap...be for real, or be gone...  
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allie416
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Oct 31 @ 5:21PM
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YOU GO GIRL 
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JimNastics
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Oct 31 @ 5:35PM
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good comment Chip
“If you send me one, I will send you one, let’s exchange photos.” That is your big red flag that they are “playing” you.
I don't see that as a red flag at all.
If one or both people don't have pictures posted here, I think that is a legitimate request.
On the other hand (pun intended), if they are requesting nude or partially nude photos, THAT should be a red flag.
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luneib
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Oct 31 @ 5:46PM
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Yeh, I dated a guy once who decided to show me his stuff on his web cam, he would ask me to click on him. At first I thought it would just be his face, boy was I wrong lol. I ended up having to block him, that works great. Yeh I used to get nude photos sent to me in my email box. OMG, not what I was looking forward to lol.
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PROVIDENCE_BOSTON
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Oct 31 @ 5:48PM
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KK,no disrespect intended but why bother to post this blog ???
My thinking is that most everybody here is playing games and have no plans to "keep things real ".
When I see peeps here with HUNDREDS of blogs posted and THOUSANDS of forum posts I say to myself WTF is that all about ?
My advice to those people is to use that time and get out of their houses and get into the real world . Virtual is NOT real.
Chip says the rest of it for me !
be for real,or be gone
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Juday470
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Oct 31 @ 6:07PM
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I have been played so many times, so I dont mind f they play with me.. whats new??
I can play their silly games as well and I know i win 
Not only men are players but women too
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bpgjohn
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Oct 31 @ 6:11PM
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way to go  ive put my disclaimer on my profile already
NO PIC NO REPLY DEAL WITH IT!! im sick and tired of being asked to visit ghana or send money to dead end. weather or not i have a cam (my answer will from now on be no) not because of anything said on this blog but if my profile pic aint what your lookin for sorry move it on down the line,personaly i im glad theres people like kandy kammy on here !!
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Kentuck
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Oct 31 @ 6:18PM
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Good Blog Kanndy.
But lets be fair, it is a two way street. There are a lot of young women out there that want to find a horney and lonley man and direct him to a 900 sight where he will have to pay to see the action. This happens a lot here on MD.
For me, first I like to see who I am talking to and seeing a picture make in the last year or so. Remember, If you decided to meet, you have to know wht the other person loks like.
As far as pictures, I do not want any pictures of you half dressed or in night clothes. I do not want to see the studio pictures. The studio picture is so doctored up sometime you do not recognize yourself. As far as the nightee, wet tee shirts, the legs crossed to show a lot--that only cheapens the woman--those pictures bring out the wolfe in most men for it appears the woman is advertising sex.
But, yes, like playboy, Hustler, Penhouse etc, I will look at them.
But just show me the every day picture of what you like to do or that one moment pose. Just an ordinary lady going about her daily duties.
But Kanndy---you hit the nail on the head about pictures. It also shows how greedy or desperate some people are.
I know I am going to get bashed--but this is my opinion.
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boogie861
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Oct 31 @ 6:39PM
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Kandy....so what's the point? I've met several women on these sites and as a general observation, "They never are as they would have you believe" Might that be some of the reason for a lot skepticism and over reaching to find out more of the person you're communicating with?
There are exceptions, and I thank those with the courage to be themselves. If you don't like what you see or hear, then just go away. That simple
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bpgjohn
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Oct 31 @ 6:53PM
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let me ask this question of every one on this blog
thet say in meditation that you know your doing right when the your not doing the
mantra the mantra is doing you,so is it wrong for we the playees to be playing the playas???????
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minky
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Oct 31 @ 7:38PM
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So some people enjoy exchanging nude photos, just hit the block button on undiserable people.
I've seen so many nude bodies in my line of work, it's really no big deal 
But you have to be "special" to see mine 
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saphfire
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Oct 31 @ 9:43PM
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yeah, been played, but they didnt ask for nude pics or send me one.
I hate when you email, then move to talking on the phone, everything is going great, you are finally going to meet, them 'POOF' they disappear!
Not sure if they chicken out or if it is all part of the game 
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whiteghost672
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Nov 1 @ 1:58AM
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Since Im not on any site for 'sex games' & I have gotten VERY tired of guys wanting that I have in my profile that I am NOT interested in sex of any kind online. Since adding that to my profiles, it has cut down on a lot of the messages I get from guys; not all & then I tell them to go read my profile. I will admit that I met my best friend (male) thro flirting on another site, that got us to understand each other & we can talk about anything & everything. My fiancee is another story, a total innocent which is just fine with me. As for the pic exchange most guys I have chatted with aren't looking for nude photos. I've exchanged my face pic & gotten a face pic back of them & even after several months I am still chatting with them. For cam we use cams to see each other, they know that I am only going to show my face & nothing more & know if they try showing me more then their face I close the cam. Most respect that.
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sexyeyes755
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Nov 1 @ 3:33AM
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Kudo to you!
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Kandykammy
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Nov 1 @ 8:41AM
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Thanks for all of the comments MD friends and thanks to all of the silent viewers who do not comment. .
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Hansumm
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Nov 1 @ 10:53AM
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Personally if the persons agenda is to be online here to collect naked pics of women by pretending they are interested in you, sounds very sleezy.
It just sounds like this may be a tactic done by a male and less likely by a female, so I am sure that is why many men don't understand this type of slime behavior.
sorry you women have to find men like this here. Kudos for speaking up.
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misschoos
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Nov 3 @ 8:44AM
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Naked pics
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