melissa3570
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Nov 3 @ 1:32PM
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i agree with you......sometimes i write my comments and they are not approved......sometimes is dont write anything.........but it is default that you post a blog and you have to aprove every comment 
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missliss78
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Nov 3 @ 1:34PM
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Actually, for me, I understand it being the prerogative of the blogger to automatically approve, hold for approval or completely NOT ALLOW comments on their blogs.
HOWEVER, in MANY instances when I see my comments will be held for approval, I just go on & don't even bother....as this has happened to me for no apparent reason other than the OP just didn't like the way I LOOK or whatever. To those I say 'PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFT". 
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BaNiNBoston
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Nov 3 @ 1:38PM
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 that about covers it for me.. thank for allowing me this!!!  
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Mirrorimage
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Nov 3 @ 1:40PM
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Ohhhhh yes, big thorn in the side for me too.... how rude to delete someones comment.... OR... block them from even commenting... not sure what that is about... demographics or just the fact that I dont have a pic on... either way, screw them! Great blog... I needed to get rid of that frustration!
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Fender
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Nov 3 @ 1:47PM
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...There is one guy on here who never approves me, ever, yet I never have made a bad comment.
I'd just like to say this to all of his stupid moronic blogs, which I have long since stopped even bothering to read and you suck, vagina full of sand guy
...Thanks so much for letting me get that out....feels good. 
Also, here's a kudo, you deserve some for this blog! 
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 1:49PM
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I've posted a comment on a blogger's post. They had it set up to "automatic approval." My comment was germane to the conversation. My comment was rational, reasoned, and I think insightful. (The blogger, blog, and comment are not relevant to the discussion.)
The blogger deleted my comment, wrote a scathing email, blocked me from ever emailing, commenting, or even thinking about him, and switched his settings to comments require approval. Yikes...
Some people just need to turn off their computers and spend some time away from the internet. Not sure if it's him or me, but one of us needs to get a life outside of cyberspace. :)
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MaggieMay64
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Nov 3 @ 2:00PM
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Yup, bugs me too. I have actually gotten the "comments not approved from your geographic location" or something to that effect. How stupid!
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lilofval
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Nov 3 @ 2:09PM
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yea what is that geographic location thingy ???  I have gotten those too ....
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TallBlonde1
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Nov 3 @ 2:10PM
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Thanks PB!!
I'd like to take this moment to say to the jerk who was offended by a kitten video and wouldn't post my comments....you know who you are....
Whewwwwww! That felt good!!
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moodymama
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Nov 3 @ 2:11PM
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I had that happen recently... but the one I wanted to see it, did, and they apparently couldn't debate what I had said... Looking at it that way, makes me not care so much. 
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SunBabe
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Nov 3 @ 2:15PM
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They're blogs, not discussions. The blogger gets the comment one way or another unless they have ALL comments turned off. In that case, there's not much preventing anyone from sending them an email.
Then again, I'm one of those few who feels blogs are personal writings written for oneself...personal thoughts attached to their profile. I've deleted most of my previous blogs. They were written not to entertain you, but to entertain me at the time. My blog, my choice. 
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 2:17PM
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@ MaggieMay:
That may be a carryover from the email settings. I think they need to set up all this stuff on one page, rather than digging through multiple pages.
In the email settings, you can filter out gender, age, region, types of relationships sought, and current relationships. It applies automatically to mail, friend requests, and shoutouts/comments.
Then you go to comments (profile, blogs, photos), and it lets set whether to auto-allow, approve-allow, or disallow (with the option for different settings for friends and for everyone else).
So you set up your email settings to weed out people who don't meet your relationship preferences, and if you don't unclick the "blog comments" box, it applies to those as well. And you wonder why you never get any comments.
Or you forget to go to the comments preferences, and turn all your comments at least up to approve-allow, you'll wonder why only your few friends can comment.
All of these things should be on one page, and whenever you select a setting, a little warning should show up below (e.g. "you decided to apply geographic/demographic filters; please be aware based on your preferences below, it'll affect blog comments, as well").
Anyway, my take on things. :)
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Hansumm
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Nov 3 @ 2:17PM
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boy, couldn't agreee with you more.
I think there should be some sort of notice to let everyone know when we are actually communicating with someone and or wasting our time typing our opinions,feelings etc.
I think anyone should blog, but maybe some have a different agenda and can't figure one that might be justified, but personl is personal.
Instead maybe a green icon to show it is a active blog and a red one showing ...I may and may not post your comment.
thanks for bringing this up...
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 2:31PM
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You know, that blogging website (ummm... dangit, I've forgotten its name, the one all those teeny-bopper gals post on) lets you decide if your blogs are going to be private (i.e. only for you and possibly your friends) or public. We should have that here.
If you don't want the general public posting comments on your blogs, your blogs shouldn't be public.
Alternatively, there should be a way for the viewing public to filter out blogs of people you don't like or who are blocking you. For instance, someone posts frequent extremist viewpoints with which I disagree. I click on interesting blog titles, rarely looking at the names attached. Can't I filter out this person's blogs, so they don't appear in the list?
The same blogger has me blocked from posting. Can't I block him from appearing on my list? It'd save frustration, that's for sure...
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justme836
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Nov 3 @ 2:46PM
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On behalf of us "Old Broads and Banana lovers". Those of us who differ on opinions, offer our advice and input shouldn't have to start a new blog just to be heard. However that's what we do when cut. If you can't take it then post a no comment blog.
I think blogs help many people not just ourselves. I enjoy the debates and all opinions. If it were just for me I'd put it in my diary.
Pull my digit, you know who you are!!!
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vettman454
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Nov 3 @ 2:49PM
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That has happened many a time! It's about 3 people on this site that I will not even read their blog, much less comment to it. They only post comments that aprove with their way of thinking. So it's got to be their way or no way. As long as you agree with them and praise them? you are fine and great! But give a different opinion? Noway! you are lower than dirt then and stupid for not agreeing with them, in their eyes. So I just stay away from them, don't read their blogs and don't care what they have to say.
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Sugar_Lee
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Nov 3 @ 3:10PM
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I think someone said post a "no comment" blog. That would save time. I like to comment on some and then I see waiting for approval or not in demographics. I usually write the ones I know that have the demographics thing and they usually don't even know it is there. Others if they say no comments, I respect that. Still I hate to waste my time and want on approval, but a lot of this is because the people are new and don't know what the default settings are. But your right about one thing, a couple have me blocked and I have them blocked makes for less hassle but they still go on others blogs and make comments about me, not much you can do about that. But for those couple that do....
I feel better now! 
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 3 @ 3:21PM
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When I was first here, I didn't realize I could change that setting, so all of my blog comments were approved. After being on an over-moderated site, I thought this was just great. I allow ALL comments (and now have it set to auto approve) but a few days ago, I posted in opposition of the blogger and she refused to put my thoughts into her blog. That pissed me off. I was kind in my wording and clearly stated "this is just how I live my life, to each their own." And the blog-nazi denied my comment. PFT on that. If I wanted censorship, I'll go back to POF where censorship is rampant. There's nothing worse than a though-out response that gets the proverbial denial just for going against the grain of the mass posters.
I suppose a blog is supposed to be thoughts of the blogger, but this site runs a little differently ~ thankfully. I want comments, no matter pro or con. I might learn something from someone who thinks differently than myself. But that's just my soapbox for the afternoon. 
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sparechange64
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Nov 3 @ 3:26PM
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Problem is ... many do not follow the blog rules ... then the MODs do not have time to read thousands of comments each day
and
 SUNBABE and me agreeing
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SunBabe
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Nov 3 @ 4:25PM
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spare said:
SUNBABE and me agreeing
An anomoly, caused by SunSpots, I assure you. Just be greatful my obvious immorality isn't catching.
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aniana
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Nov 3 @ 4:26PM
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It is annoying and can be a little insulting especially if your sensitive like myself, so the best advise for everyone I'd say is to just not take it so personally. :)
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 4:33PM
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This thread is the reason I like "auto approve." We're having a free exchange of ideas during the eight hours or so while the blog is on the front page (because how many people go look through the old blogs?), even though the blogger is offline.
If it's "wait for approval," it's all about the blogger. All comments will be about the article, either puffing up or pulling down the blogger. The blogger then comes back a couple hours later, and has to wade through a pile of comments, approving or denying (and probably it's a smaller pile of comments...).
Whereas with "auto approve," people make comments, other people comment on those comments (either disputing them or supporting them), and so on. Sure, some comments will be unnecessary and some comments will be inflammatory. The blogger can then read through one page of comments, then delete anything that's just useless. Hopefully not too much (censor lightly, I say... call out the bullshit, ridicule the idiots, flame the trolls)...
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Juday470
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Nov 3 @ 4:50PM
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Opss! Honestly I did that. There was comment i didnt liked, I didnt approved it..Na.. at least I admit..Sorry
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kjac
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Nov 3 @ 6:13PM
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Then there are some who bitch and moan about this, while deleting any opinions not agreeing with their own. They're easy to spot by the fact that all of the comments on their blogs are in agreement with whatever they say, no matter how insanely stupid the comment.
I have learned for the most part who does this, and usually don't bother with them.
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 6:33PM
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@ kjac: They also seem to have the same commentors every time. It's even a circle-jerk as they kudo each other, slapping each other on the back for their group-think ideas.
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kjac
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Nov 3 @ 9:22PM
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I'm glad I wasn't the only one who noticed that Napa, but what really steams me is the fact that they still feel the need to post on the blogs of the people whose comments they delete.
How does that not make them feel at least a little hypocritical?
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SweetNapaGuy
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Nov 3 @ 9:31PM
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How does that not make them feel at least a little hypocritical?
The incredible ability of humans to hold contradictory opinions?
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pixuart
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Nov 4 @ 8:45AM
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If the blog says, "automatically approved" I may respond.....if it says "waiting for approval" I do not.
the tactic of eliminating dissent by screening callers or bloggers is a favorite tactic of those who only want to grind their ax, and not seek the truth by open discussion.
if someone deletes your comment after it was automatically approved......then don't comment on their blogs any more.
that's my solution.
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EternalFlame
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Nov 4 @ 11:16AM
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There is one blogger here....I have never talked with her or had any problems with her whatsoever. She posted a blog and I commented to it. It was 'waiting for approval'. Well, apparently, what I had to say didn't meet her approval Somebody posted a comment after me and that one showed up, but mine never did. So I emailed her...makes sense, right? I asked politely if I had said something wrong in the comment, and asked why it wasn't approved. I got no reply at all.
So to that blogger I say, you lost all credibility with me for that. I disregard every single comment you make on every blog....nothing you say carries a bit of weight in my eyes. I also no longer read your blogs.
The least you could have done was replied to my email.
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Fender
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Nov 4 @ 1:08PM
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You know what? There is only one time I have ever deleted a comment on one of my blog's, I deleted it because it was a racial slur, and I was offended by it. It was uncalled for, and had nothing to do with the blog.
...I even let my old familiar buddy "The Troll's" comments up and let them stay. Some people delete, or keep...
Sun is right in someway's. It is the blogger's perogative, it would just be nice to know that all your typing and good commenting, is not in vain. I think if you want no comments you should say no comments.
...I've seen blog's like that here before, nothing wrong with that!
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eastham
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Nov 4 @ 4:17PM
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I've only once not posted comments I received to a blog, but there are people who make a regular habit of it.
About a month or so ago, a young man, now gone from the site, put up a blog that said meat-eating causes breast cancer. Anyway, I had information to the contrary (not that there's anything wrong with being a vegetarian or a vegan, just don't scare people) and he refused to put up the link to the NIH-funded study. The reason he gave me when I asked why -- he was a Seventh Day Adventist, he was here to evangelize and not meet people thank you very much, because he had a girlfriend. Okay Sparky.
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JustAnotherJoe
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Nov 4 @ 7:53PM
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Hmmmmm! I thought I was the only one. We have Godesses that block any comment that isn't of the highest complimentary nature! Then when you complain you get the finger in email and get blocked.
Therefore they only have good comments and look better. Such a lack of self esteem, this old boy would say! Thanks glad someone finally spoke up about this. I feel a blog cominmg on. 
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QtrAcreGalSeeking
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Nov 13 @ 6:10PM
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I want to own that, in the case of approving Comments, I tend to NOT approve those who are REDUNDANT. No one, I think, wants to read a long list of Kudos or Agreements, of Concurrances, and it simply seems Inefficient. 
I DO send private responses, on many of those I DON'T approve. Letting the person know THEY HAVE BEEN HEARD by me, is often MORE of an issue. 
We ALL want to be important, and to MATTER: I just don't always let folks know, by posting their comments 
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