 I've been attempting to leave the net. I thought I'd go out into the real world and actually interact with live humans. This might just be my observation, but I'm figuring out fairly quickly that people are of two types:
The screwed up ones and those who were screwed.  (And those are the best of the crop I've been encountering....EKKKKKKKKKKKK)
I thought being a recluse had it's issues, but I can officially say: if the real world is what I'm experiencing "out there" ~ I'm staying in. 
I used to think that I was existing, not really living. Goodness, if 'really living' brings on the crap I've been witnessing with other live beings, I'm staying in with the dog, the DSL, the satellite and complete and unending drama-less living. 
I used to be sooooooooo social ~ I've spent the past week indulging in dinners, visiting old friends, even braved the mall one day (YIKES), and it's scary out there. When did this happen? When did the whole world end up drunk, drugged, cheating on a spouse, separated but not divorced, having too many children to maintain a quality of life worth living and or a whole host of other unpleasantries???? I'm thinking I've entered some karmic-purgatory from something I must have done a couple of lifetimes ago.
Is this all there is? We get our kids out the door and resign to just existing because the rest of the world is so fukered up????? 
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GigglesLikeElmo
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Nov 15 @ 1:52AM
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Just the way the world seems to be turning lately. Been that way since as long as I can remember, but I'm young. But, it's DEFNIATELY gotten worse in the last couple years, even I've noticed it! I'll stick to my DSL, cable, and the chinchillas too! We can be unsocial hermits together, although, if we're unsocial together, that kinda makes us social...Oh well. Just don't tell!
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Nov 15 @ 1:57AM
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I'll stick to my DSL, cable, and the chinchillas too! We can be unsocial hermits together, although, if we're unsocial together, that kinda makes us social..
 Now you are making entirely too much sense.
Interesting that you mentioned it getting worse. That was my thought. Two years ago, I don't remember this being the world I lived in ~ 8 years ago, oh heavens, life was amazing. Of course, I've aged and am now in a different "age group" but goodness ~ this is ridiculous.
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TroutFishing
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Nov 15 @ 2:01AM
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By noticing the negative - you are making it expand in your life.
Focus on what you WANT - NOT what you DON'T want and it
will expand in your life. Notice those little random acts of
kindness that happen if you are open to seeing them.
I do believe that only 5 - 10 % of humans can actually CARE
about someone other than themselves - the rest only care
about what the other can DO for them. I am focusing on the
5-10%. Time will tell if it expands.
Have Fun.
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 15 @ 2:08AM
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Sadly, I think you are probably right about the low percentage of people who care about other people. 
I rarely focus on the negativity, but let's face it ~ when you are hearing it, seeing it, reading it, even as an innocent by-stander ~ you notice it. Personally, having a glass half full is a complete and total waste of good fluids unless those you surround yourself with also share that attitude. I think negativity is catchy, but postitive is either who you are or you aren't. I can't think of one negative human being that has gone from negative to positive. I know MANY that have switched teams for the "glass is not only empty, the plastic is cracking."
But, this may be just my warped take on what I've witnessed the past little while. 
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samurai27
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Nov 15 @ 2:12AM
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I'm staying in with the dog, the DSL, the satellite and complete and unending drama-less living. Hate to say it but....if you're looking for 'drama-less'...it was a bad idea to come back to the blogs right now. It's safer in the real world!
2D people can be scarier than 3D people at times.
I totally relate to what you're saying though. I think Internet and games consoles are the reason why being a hermit seems to be the norm these days. It's just too easy to stay in yet 'hang out' with a bunch of friends, rather than get dressed up and hang out with 1 or 2 friends.
I tried banning myself from the computer for a couple of weeks once. I did what you did....
I tried to remember where my friends lived, knocked on their doors, spent 5 minutes trying to recognize if they were the ppl I used to hang out with or if they'd sold their houses and I was trying to drag strangers @sses out to do something...anything!
The problem is...you'd have to ban others from their pcs. I tried this.
My friends weren't keen on a woman laying down rules for them (unless I agreed to marry them lol)....I wasn't up for that.....so I ended up hanging out on their pcs instead
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 15 @ 2:22AM
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Hate to say it but....if you're looking for 'drama-less'...it was a bad idea to come back to the blogs right now. It's safer in the real world!
2D people can be scarier than 3D people at times.
At least I'm not alone.  That is exactly what happened. Thank God she laughed or I would have quickly said I was at the wrong house. Geez, guess she had to add a little size to ride that Road King vs. the Sportster. The four new tatts, well ~ if I could read cryptic symbols, I may have found them exceedingly interesting The truth is, she's still with the same man ~ I can't say that about me. Oh wait ~ there wasn't one back then either....
I don't know, the dog doesn't complain that he has to pay child support, he also doesn't give a damn if I'm in fleece/flannel for a month on end. As long as there is kibble, DQ once in a while and the proverbial cheeseburger from Mc's ~ he's perfectly happy with me. 
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Josuha
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Nov 15 @ 2:25AM
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not divorced, having too many children to maintain a quality of life worth living and or a whole host of other unpleasantries???? I'm thinking I've entered some karmic-purgatory from something I must have done a couple of lifetimes ago.
Is this all there is? We get our kids out the door and resign to just existing because the rest of the world is so fukered up?????
Ah..we've been observing your species for quite some time in preparation for invasion.
After careful consideration, we have decided that there is nothing on your world we require.
However, pictures are transmitted daily for the 'Galatic Comedy Hour' which we enjoy watching.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFfZFvvuXWc
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TRABADOUR
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Nov 15 @ 2:59AM
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Whats really Bad is the ones you think would be great turn out to be
completely diferent from their profiles when you meat them.
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purplelady55
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Nov 15 @ 3:09AM
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the trick for me is just let go of what i cant change and change what i can and just enjoy myself no matter what .. I refuse to just exist myself. And I let god judge other people .. thats not my job. this is just my opinion only.
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kiwilove007
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Nov 15 @ 4:52AM
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I'm not much of a social person - but I go out and play sports - volleyball and table tennis - that gives me the 'jollies' - do it for the fun and laughter, and not for serious competition. But after playing a sport for a long time, you get good enough to play for some semi-serious competition...
I made the decision long ago about doing this - believing it is good for the body and the mind...
I've been using computers for 20+ years ... only got a modem when 56K dialup was affordable and there was stuff to do with it... the Internet. Didn't bother with a modem when only BBS's were the only thing running...
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dt3d2001
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Nov 15 @ 5:03AM
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theblessedone
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Nov 15 @ 7:02AM
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when you are hearing it, seeing it, reading it, even as an innocent by-stander ~ you notice it
Unfortunately, that's very true!
On the other hand, when you're busy creating positivity, there's far less time (and attention) to devote to anything else. That doesn't mean you won't notice...but it should help alleviate the impact.
I don't know you, but just from your main photo, you appear to be someone with a great ability to generate positives!
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HighlandsLass
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Nov 15 @ 9:40AM
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[QUOTE]when you meat them[QUOTE]
Quote of the day from the first of your categories? or maybe the second? sorry, I got a visual.....
We're proving here that giggles are on the same train, process wise. I've been wondering more and more what I'm doing here. I've considered quitting, changing my profile to read "In a Relationship," and stating somewhere that I've decided I'm too busy/life's too full/life's too chaotic to consider adding an extra party into my world. I don't know yet how to extricate myself from my hopes and dreams here, but I do hope I strike a balance between my ifriends and the world I physically move within.
My glass is not half full, it runneth over..... and that's part of the problem. My loving and positive energy spills over, and some people don't want to deal with that kind of mess, some don't know how to, some want to drink me dry, some get scared by my passion-- hell, sometimes I scare me...... but that's not my problem. My problem is staying true to me, no matter when how why where who what now. and always. 
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observed50
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Nov 15 @ 10:06AM
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Isn't part of the aging process simply becoming more and more aware of how few people can live up to their dreams, their hopes, and take a beating from life and keep on ticking? I don't mean that in a critical manner, but you begin to recognize that despite all good intents, people seldom live in their capacity, live in their limits. For instance, the Baby Boomer generation, of which many of us here are members, we didn't REALLY care about peace and justice at the level of transforming society. We cared about it if we were threatened with coming home from Vietnam in a box, or someone we loved might, or we wanted others to treat minorities right...if it didn't mean changing my schools or work.
Or we look around and we note how much we believe in love, and know so little about how to make it work, and in deep love with our kids, NEVER make the world safe in our efforts to make ours better than anothers.
Or we look around and we believe so much in helping others, but only at the level where we don't have to change our world...just give some canned goods or old coats. Don't change how we live...just help others with their suffering a bit at the level of band aids, not surgery.
And so we believe we're in some 'special group' (political, religious, whatever) that this group at least isn't all messed up, until we learn...they're as messed up as any other group, filled with people who cheat, lie, betray, and fail to step up.
Dubya's first election was bad enough for me in just how bad things were in the country, but his re-election told me the country was corroded and decayed to the fundamental levels of communities and schools, in which fear gripped the nations head in such a manner, that lying, deception and machismo arrogance were things that made people feel good about themselves in the world...damn all others.
And it was at that time that I began looking around for things to do elsewhere in the world, so fatigued was I by this process of aging mixed with a herd whose inherent flaws were constantly amplified by the technology and power of our particular herd. It's one thing to lie if you have no power, something else when you have the most.
Yet...I never stop laughing, reaching out, listening and being a part of a large network of friends' lives, because I don't want to live in a hole, and I'll be damned if I will allow the rotting decay of my nation keep me from enjoying the gifts of my day. People's lives a mess??? You bet...huge. Because they want it so? I'd argue more because they simply don't know how to not have it be a mess. So our option is to bring the gifts of our smiles, words and arms to a world that suffers like crazy in decay.
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Tunes4u
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Nov 15 @ 10:10AM
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I see things in Boise aren't much different than they are in Casper, nor most other places I guess.
It is truly amazing how many people are lacking a compass of some sort. Morals would be a good compass, or integrity, but no. Outdated now. Old fashioned.
And yet so many are searching for something. They can't see the forest 'cause of all the durn trees! lol
I think folks would be better served by trying to better understand things, that aren't things. Like morals....and integrity......and so on and on and on.....
The times we live in......
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Tunes
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TroutFishing
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Nov 15 @ 11:38AM
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The world is in a constant state of CHANGE - not decay.
What you THINK you see usually comes from within you
- it's called PROJECTION.
I see possibilities. I see intriguing ladies with perky smiles that
I'd like to spend time with. When there are none that wish to
spend time with me, I spend time on my hobbies, none of which is
whining and blaming. I do not limit myself by my thinking there is
anything I cannot do. I engage in activities with an open mind to see
just what I can do that day. The results of one day never limits what
I might be able to do the next day. I have written poetry, written music,
recorded and edited music and video, taken my grandkids fishing,
bicycled a lot, kayaked a little, gone X-C skiing and snowshoeing, and
spent time enjoying the company of friends. The human flaws of my
friends (everyone has flaws) do not limit me from enjoying the time
they choose to spend with me and I do not focus on them.
When I see negative people spouting lies, insulting others, being
aloof condescending know-it-alls, I move on seeking honest people.
Since when did the proliferation of uncaring people have anything to do
with politics? It is about character. Politics isn't about right and wrong
nor kind and hateful - it is about control. If there are no "facts" to spout,
name-calling ensues in politics. Politics is NOT something I discuss,
other than seeing it for what it is, since none of us have enough
untwisted facts to allow us a proper diagnosis.
I am suggesting that you try noticing positive things for a day or two
and find out for yourself that it expands. If you cannot see positive things,
you might be a negative thinker and only you can change that.
It isn't hard to do - thinking it will be hard only assures that it will be.
Have Fun.
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Sahaj
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Nov 15 @ 8:08PM
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Time to emerge from the shadows..
Personally, having a glass half full is a complete and total waste of good fluids unless those you surround yourself with also share that attitude. I think negativity is catchy, but postitive is either who you are or you aren't.
I completely agree. It too often seems like the adage of "misery loves company" has become a philosophy of life with so many. The thing about negative people is they get comfortable there and tend to want to stay that way. Just try being positive or just happy around a lot of people like this. Boy you can very quickly be accused of being on phychoactive drugs.
I SO much more enjoy the experience of lightness and being energised by the presence of or conversation with a lighthearted or inspired person, or with someone who is in the midst of living true to their soul drives.
I can't think of one negative human being that has gone from negative to positive.
You didn't know me 15 years ago. I hated my life until I quit that damned job. All of my negativity came from "Stress" But it was through this experience that I learned that what this culture calls stress is really when your soul is screaming at you to do something else and you just aren't listening.
I agree with you, it is harder being out there when so many seem to be so stuck. But take heart, I am discovering little pools of fun and healthy people here and there.
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 16 @ 4:36PM
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Whats really Bad is the ones you think would be great turn out to be
completely diferent from their profiles when you meat them. Boy, isn't the the truth. I've tried to be a pleasant surprise rather than an unpleasant disappointment. Undersell/overdeliver policy. I'm sure I've failed a time or two, but I do try the "less is more" approach in the getting-to-know-you-phase.
I'm not much of a social person - I relate to that. I seem much happier on the phone with my crazy Canadian friend, my gal-pals across the US and even Family Guy re-runs compared to much other than my outdoor addictions such as finding places never seen before by me.
DT3: My thoughts exactly. LMAO
Quote of the day from the first of your categories? or maybe the second? sorry, I got a visual..... LMAO ~ damn mental pictures ~ seem to plague me ALL the time.
My glass is not half full, it runneth over..... and that's part of the problem. My loving and positive energy spills over, and some people don't want to deal with that kind of mess, some don't know how to, some want to drink me dry, some get scared by my passion-- hell, sometimes I scare me...... but that's not my problem. My problem is staying true to me, no matter when how why where who what now. and always.
Ahhh, the proverbial emotional/psychic vampires/esses ~ dangerous to our karmic flow, our attitudes and our overall health. I've rid my life of most of the life-suckers, but once in a while, one sneaks in unnoticed and it takes a little while to get them gone once they depleat my reserves. To think I once used to actually ACCEPT certain behavours and at one time actually thought I could "love them better." Help them in some strange odd way ~ NOPE. Some are just not meant to fill us up, rather use us up. Sigh. 
Dubya's first election was bad enough for me in just how bad things were in the country, but his re-election told me the country was corroded and decayed to the fundamental levels of communities and schools, in which fear gripped the nations head in such a manner, that lying, deception and machismo arrogance were things that made people feel good about themselves in the world...damn all others. Boy, we think alike on this note. The blanant disregard for Katrina victims, the blaming others, the asinine idiocy of it all makes me ill personally. But, the time is drawing near ~ he'll either push the nuke button out of fear of losing his mental-midgetry control freak ways or we might come out of this and be cleaning up messes for a long long time. Not sure which is the best option, to be honest. Sigh
I'd argue more because they simply don't know how to not have it be a mess. So our option is to bring the gifts of our smiles, words and arms to a world that suffers like crazy in decay. Great way to view it. If a smile is worth something, I'm trying to my part ~ I'd rather giggle, but sometimes that makes people wonder if I'm off my meds. LOLOLOL 
What you THINK you see usually comes from within you
- it's called PROJECTION. I'm not going to go into my diatribe about the blame-game. I definitely disagree here. I don't project negativity to anyone unless I'm in a position in a corner to need escape from verbalizations/altercations and or other unpleasantries I don't allow in my small little world. Projection requires the negativity, I don't believe in representing that about myself, nor do I promote it. But that's just me and my life ~ what others do, well I have NO clue.
I see possibilities. I see intriguing ladies with perky smiles that
I'd like to spend time with. When there are none that wish to
spend time with me, I spend time on my hobbies, none of which is
whining and blaming. I do not limit myself by my thinking there is
anything I cannot do. I engage in activities with an open mind to see
just what I can do that day. The results of one day never limits what
I might be able to do the next day. I have written poetry, written music,
recorded and edited music and video, taken my grandkids fishing,
bicycled a lot, kayaked a little, gone X-C skiing and snowshoeing, and
spent time enjoying the company of friends. The human flaws of my
friends (everyone has flaws) do not limit me from enjoying the time
they choose to spend with me and I do not focus on them. I wasn't meaning flaws. Flaws are not usually negative traits, they are those that make each of us unique, varied, likable and in some cases, even quite lovable. I'm with you on the activity situation however. I've traveled all but 6 states, entirely alone. Nothing stops me from what I'd like to do. Lately I've prefered a much less traveled road ~ down time I suppose.
When I see negative people spouting lies, insulting others, being
aloof condescending know-it-alls, I move on seeking honest people.
Since when did the proliferation of uncaring people have anything to do
with politics? It is about character. Politics isn't about right and wrong
nor kind and hateful - it is about control. If there are no "facts" to spout,
name-calling ensues in politics. Politics is NOT something I discuss,
other than seeing it for what it is, since none of us have enough
untwisted facts to allow us a proper diagnosis. Well, that isn't true at all. The trick is, to read news from other countries, and a LOT of it. Then read the US rags, develop an opinion based upon the view of the world, not the view of what we see here. I know a great deal about politics here in the US and quite frankly, I learn the most from translated news from France, Germany, Ireland, some UK, and Austrailia at times even. The key is to be informed and believe what you see, not what you read or see on US tv. There is no need to diagnose anything. When our gun laws are written verbatim from Hiltler's policy, I don't think we need to diagnose much of anything ~ but well need to be informed. Ignorance is what keeps POWER powerful, knowledge can at least lead to informed decisions for a personal choice. To be involved or not. And that's really where we all fail, we aren't involved. Status quo ~ that doesn't do a damn thing except keep things as they are. 
[QUOTE]I am suggesting that you try noticing positive things for a day or two
and find out f
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 16 @ 4:45PM
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UT OH....long-winded.....lost my own post.....  That would be me.
I am suggesting that you try noticing positive things for a day or two
and find out for yourself that it expands. If you cannot see positive things,
you might be a negative thinker and only you can change that.
It isn't hard to do - thinking it will be hard only assures that it will be.
Have Fun.
I appreciate all comments, but I simply find this one rather interesting. First, there is NO way I'm a negative thinker. Life, time, love, loss and an abundance of loving friends near and far certainly wouldn't find much value in me if I weren't the laughter girl they come to for a few giggles. Even the rough times in my are handled with much energy based upon the bright side, the truth is: Why cry when you can laugh???
You didn't know me 15 years ago. I hated my life until I quit that damned job. All of my negativity came from "Stress" But it was through this experience that I learned that what this culture calls stress is really when your soul is screaming at you to do something else and you just aren't listening.
On that note I digress. You are right. I didn't know you then. But today ~ there isn't a negative bone in that body nor a negative thought in that head. Thank God you give me sanity to a level of errupting laughter most often, even the topics we disagree on are just fun as hell to discuss. You have the gift my friend. The truest positive attitude I think I've personally ever encountered. And by God, it's contagious!!!! I'm glad to have missed the 15 year ago you ~ I would have found you silly anyway ~ you know me, nothing like taking something icky and making it something to giggle about. 
I agree with you, it is harder being out there when so many seem to be so stuck. But take heart, I am discovering little pools of fun and healthy people here and there. And it certainly are those little pools that make the time here (on this planet that is) well worth the trip.
Thank you all for posting ~ much to think about for me!! Have a great weekend all.
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Sahaj
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Nov 17 @ 5:37PM
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Aw geeez...  What can possibly be said after that..
I think i need some more laughter induced fatigue.. Thank you.
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AttractedCentaur
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Nov 21 @ 9:59AM
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So many deep thoughts here. A lot of what is being said in here I can relate to and some I cannot not.
I used to be social - I interacted with my Civil War buddies (I was a reenactor). I would attend every weekend battle, help the general and colonel with the weekend activities, coordinate the ball and various other details. This kept me very busy and I interacted with hundreds of people. But, in reality, it was not fulfilling. I reveled being in the spotlight, but people were not that interested in me, but just what I could do for them. Then, one day, I found out I was being used as a cover - my "friend" was seeing another woman and was using me as his "cover" so he could slip around. Short story is, I left the group and have not looked back. I prefer not having to deal with the lies, deceit, politics, drinking/boozing and other infidelities which were going on.
Looking back, I wonder if this was something that is happening in all aspects of life. There are those who walk a "straight and narrow path" while there are others who "jump over the path" to do as they will.
I do not consider myself a "straight and narrow" but neither do I "jump over the path". I do know the difference between right and wrong and I try to use this as my moral compass.
I currently keep to myself, go to work, go home and mind my own business. I am not as social as I was once was. I do not go out to the malls as the crowds can be scary. Most folks are "into themselves" and will mow you down rather than be kind and courteous. It's almost as if folks are more interested in a "it's only me" attitude rather than "be kind to your fellow man".
Anyway, that's it for now ...
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HighlandsLass
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Nov 21 @ 10:58AM
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People's lives a mess??? You bet...huge. Because they want it so? I'd argue more because they simply don't know how to not have it be a mess.
Not knowing is no excuse. Someone --- actually just a casual acquaintance-- said to me yesterday that today it is possible for man (humanity) to have all the knowledge of the ages available to them. It's not enough to know, what matters is what we do with it. I'm frightened of our lack of accountability too-- but the answer for me is to be accountable, and to teach it as the opportunity arises. Integrity is key, and all its many forms-- integrated, integral, integers--- wholeness. My mind body spirit knows when I am lying--- to thine own self be true, or bullsh#t thyself not! Growth is good. I'm not afraid today to leave the rest of the world behind..... there are not a lot of us on this path, but I'm grateful when I meet a fellow traveler, and can share a laugh, a feeling of contentment, dialogue, sadness, anger, the magic--- what may come. The end is bliss and love. Keep it coming!
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Kat_luvr
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Dec 10 @ 5:45PM
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WOOHOO............I thought I was the only one thinking like this.
I was starting to wonder If I should revert back to prozac or something.
The world has become a very cruel and unusual place, and If I wasn't feeling like a pair of white crew socks in a world of black tuxedos before, the new milenium started, I definetly am now.
It is so nice to see I am NOT alone in feeling this way.............It is Crazy out there, to the point that I almost regret having kids. ( only b/c they gotta live in this crap)
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