 Hi All. Happy Holiday a little early 
Has anyone heard the term "Easy on the eyes, hard on the heart." ????
One night I was driving with my ex-husband, who had this crazy skill for working a room. The man had the attention of every woman, whether my niece (who was 5) or my Granny who wasn't 5....LOL He had this ability to be noticed, comfortable and completely in his element when the center of attention (and this did include men as well as women most often.) I was perfectly comfortable NOT being noticed, (hence why I've often called myself "invisible.") 
One night we were driving in the car, and I looked over at him and it was this crazy feeling of "EEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What an azzhole."  And that phrase came to mind. It wasn't that he wasn't charming, it was that he was UGLY in my eyes all of a sudden.
Well, being that I never miss the chance to state the obvious, I said, "Ya' know? I realize now what that means ~ "easy on the eyes, hard on the heart."  He was oblivious of course, because he bought his mirrors where Lord Farquaad (from Shrek) got his mirrors......the "I'll tell you how amazing you are" mirror store. At any rate, tonight ~ nearly 9 years later, I was driving along and that thought entered my mind and here's my question:
Do we ever get over the stage in our lives (if you've been there) ??? Do we ever realize that idiocy/asshole-itis and overall unattractive insides (or lack of character/honesty/loyalty/humility/etc.) will leave us with inevitable heartbreak because of the hazards attached to that "type" of human being. Please no "shallow" comments, we are ALL shallow in one way or another.  Or do we still gloss over some of the OBVIOUS flaws because some things are over-lookable? I know the whole world is going to say, "I want substance and beauty of the inside." HA ~ why are well all single if that is the case? 
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Mellajenn
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Nov 19 @ 8:36PM
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I couldn't agree with you more...Not to mention, I have dated 2 men that spent more time in the mirror then me and they are, well.......history! It is like that whole "bad boy" thing..they are sexy but don't really treat you with respect...and are too busy looking to see how many women are looking at them  
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Came2FindU
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Nov 19 @ 8:45PM
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Easy on the eyes means good looking, y'all are describing a vain self-serving individual that maybe you failed to look beyond the cover when first meeting/associating with?
Were we all just young at one time, and only some of us maybe had the sense to look beyond and see what was there, or do the majority of us have to come to spending time on the net on a dating site, and in forums, before we attune ourselves to looking within at the same time we look at the outside?
I dunno, anymore when I think of that phrase, I think of some of the stupider sh*t I have done, cause I liked what was on the outside LOL... Oh well sh*t happens!!
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oldgrayindian
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Nov 19 @ 9:13PM
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I will try not to be to trite. But Women and Men that seem to be the center of attention
that have some sort of outer chrisma are a lot of the time very shallow and their looks
are what get the by in this life. But when the looks go and the gift of working the room
fades so do they. I have had my share of friends that women fell down anytime they
came in a room. I still have never figured out why, because if you held any kind of conversation with them it was about themselves and couldn't tell you what anyone else had to say. I almost feel sorry for them. I have to do a lot of political stuff and know how to work a room for a real cause, but if it just a social gathering for my self I would rather have a good conversation with whom ever I happen to be with. If happen to be alone I don't ever go out of the way to flirt. But if you have to be with one of the
people then don't be. I guess in my wordy way I am saying that if you find yourself with self grandising, self important people you might think about why would I want to be with them...they may seem to be great on the outside, but you need in my feelings
be with someone that has a real heart and soul that cares enough to be a we instead
of a me in a relationship
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lefthandedluckie
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Nov 19 @ 10:04PM
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In a significant other we will overlook deficiencies! We may use subtle means to remove the behavior we do not like! That my friend is a major mistake!
Never believe you can change someone to what you believe he/she should be. When you do that you are destroying the person you married or are in a relationship with!
Accept the good with the bad and remember the "other" is doing the exact same thing! Differences can be worked out if one remembers these words....."It takes two to Tango"!
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whatagal
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Nov 19 @ 10:45PM
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I, too, was married to Mr Drop Dead Gorgeous. Eventually, I started thinking, I wish he's just drop dead!
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crazyhorse2000
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Nov 19 @ 10:52PM
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Seems Mr. Lefthand has some experience with relationship conselling ...not
The reason we have disfunctional families and relationships is we try to work things out and they just don't want to work things out. If someone is so into themselves they can hear what their partner has to say then drop the fast quick and in a hurry....it will save our children, ourselves and set the other person free to live their life they they want to....you don't need to be involved in a bad relationship....
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katydid438
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Nov 19 @ 11:06PM
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Looks fade and that alluring physical prowess diminishes over time. Eventually the time arrives when you have to face reality. Hopefully it won't be a shallow dud sitting across the breakfast table from you. 
Easy on the eyes is just the tip of the iceberg!
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hunt4luv
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Nov 20 @ 12:29AM
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I Think we all Need a certain amount of attraction and it is important.
I also beleive the inside shines far brighter then the outside when true beauty lives their. Ive been guilty Of Not seing the beauty of what lived inside before. and when it was gone wishing with all my heart it could be won back, yet it was too late.
I hope I will Not Be that shallow again. kudos.
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GiggleAddiction
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Nov 20 @ 1:24PM
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I, too, was married to Mr Drop Dead Gorgeous. Eventually, I started thinking, I wish he's just drop dead!
Blog closed ~ that says it all!!!!! 
Thanks for posting everyone. Happy Holiday.
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JimNastics
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Nov 21 @ 11:04AM
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from this turkey to you and your family - Happy Thanksgiving, GA !!!
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HighlandsLass
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Nov 21 @ 1:55PM
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Do we ever get over the stage in our lives (if you've been there) ??? Do we ever realize that idiocy/asshole-itis and overall unattractive insides (or lack of character/honesty/loyalty/humility/etc.) will leave us with inevitable heartbreak because of the hazards attached to that "type" of human being.
I have rental property, and twice now I've had tenants that were, according to the 'norm' or at least in their eyes (and in the eyes of my female friends), God's gift. Yes, while I would have once done anything to attract their attention, these days I could care less. One of these guys used to stalk me--- at least it felt like that, but his character, or lack thereof, was such a turn off, he finally found other living quarters. Recognizing the pattern of my behavior was the first step in changing it. Now I'm much less inclined to look at the cover as the revelation of the books contents--- I prefer the in depth reading the entire tome provides.....
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