Where have all the decent men gone?? I am on a couple different dating sites and all I ever get messages from are either young men that want nothing but sex or old guys and I am pretty sure they only want sex too. Then I get a bunch of emails from guys that are from Nigeria or whatever, like that isn't getting old. So, I wonder if thier are any decent men left out there that want to just get to know someone have a normal relationship. What happened to that? 
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Philosopher8659
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Nov 23 @ 12:22PM
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Often the problem is not in the measured, but in the measurer. This is a problem confronted by philosophy and religion alike.
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Kandykammy
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Nov 23 @ 12:26PM
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They all want just sex, unless they are impotent, then you know what they want. 
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burnslikethesun
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Nov 23 @ 12:35PM
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become what you seek, and you will find what you are looking for.
I dont live up to what others may think, i live up to what I think of me. Perhaps, is the worry of judgement that keeps the " decent" men away.
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MahonMacRi
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Nov 23 @ 12:40PM
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There are still a few of us out here, believe it or not; some like me have chosen to retire from the field altogether (because, in my case, only freaks and crazies are ever interested in me!) while still others are looking but not enjoying much success.
The problem isn't confined to a shortage of decent men, as there also seems to be a severe shortage of decent women, too!
As in all other endeavours, one must be patient...why rush what could be one of the most important decisions of your life?
Just my .02's worth, sincerely,  "Mac"
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NORA072952
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Nov 23 @ 12:48PM
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Just be careful, even with men your own age group! I corresponded with one from Florida for about a month back in July and we talked about my coming down there, after about a month and I didn't just up and run to him he stopped calling and emailing me. Then in October I received another email telling me how sorry he was for treating me the way he did and would I forgive him! So again I was exactly what he wanted in his life and we talked about me coming down there, I didn't just pack up and run to Florida so it has been over 2 weeks now and not a word from him! What in the hell do men think we are? Guess this is what the term "traveling whore" means!
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NORA072952
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Nov 23 @ 1:04PM
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Oh if anyone is interested in knowing who he is just email me. 
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warmplace411
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Nov 23 @ 1:23PM
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When in the first couple of exchanges, they are hammering you with, how soon can you visit, when are you coming to meet, why are you not here yet so we can meet face to face, I find that a real turn off. Lets me know they don't really care to get to know me personally, just there is an open space in their bed they are wanting to fill, temporally. 
Your lucky if your not bumping into the one before or the one scheduled after you. And they are saying.....Trust Me......  I'm honest, sincer and quality  Sorry guys, actions speak louder than words. My motto...Never make someone a priority, when they only make you an option.
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nolimitholdum
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Nov 23 @ 1:28PM
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all men are sex starved animals
Now whats the problum
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Addie2000
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Nov 23 @ 1:29PM
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Unfortunately I have to agree with you. The "gentlemen" I have been in contact with on this website and others have been a bunch of phonies. I just keep hoping there will be one that is sincere. . . .and all you need is that one.
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NascarFan1
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Nov 23 @ 1:35PM
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Well I don't know what to say here, so let's start with something than hit you with the cold hard facts. First and foremost, don't seem alone out there, there are as many women out there doing the Scamming thing as much as the guys are. My first introduction with them was with a Russian woman that claimed she loved me and wanted me. I was very vulnerable at the time and she really captured my heart, but needless to say when she asked for money for a visa, I knew it was a scam, as I knew she couldn't come here without my first going there! Ever since them it seems like they are just a dime a dozen. As far as the sex thing goes, yea I'm ashamed to say it, but it's a big motivator for most all guys! There aren't many times a guy will say no to it! Nora, all I can say for your situtation is just this, to me it sounds like the guy was just wanted to know if he could have you, and when you were ready to leave, he backed off, knowing he could have you. Sorry for the way he treated you, but if you ever want to try dating a guy from Minnesota, here I am!
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burnslikethesun
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Nov 23 @ 1:47PM
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HA! ok so ya met someone here. And you start talking and talking talking tlaking and talikng. and when im tired of the talking of the doing and want to do the doing of what we were talking about POOF. shes gone.
So, pick better, there are guys out theres, my fellow brothers that are very serious when it comes to the want and treating of a relationship. It goes both ways ya know.
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NORA072952
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Nov 23 @ 1:53PM
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The part that really got me to thinking was when we first started talking I asked him about coming to Georgia for a visit, and I was told "I haven't lost anything in Georgia!" So if you are considering meeting him, you will have to go there, and foot the bill! Sorry but I won't do all the giving, even if you have 12 inches!!
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cricket747
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Nov 23 @ 2:09PM
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It isn't a matter of decent men or decent women - it is the matter of finding the one that suits your personality.
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SunBabe
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Nov 23 @ 2:26PM
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There are hundreds of decent men right here on MD -- "decent" and even outstanding. It's often a matter of good communications which helps in getting to know each other better. Not all "decent" (or even outstanding) men (or women) are destined to be a match for each other, but that doesn't reduce their qualities one iota.
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CHARLIgurl1
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Nov 23 @ 2:47PM
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The key thing in my mind, is that when communication starts between two people, a friendship has to bond first. Getting to know someone through a friendship based deal, really lets you know whether they are decent as you put it or not.
I guess I must be one of the lucky ones, I've met the love of my life here on MD, and yes, we started off as friends.  
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tentfire
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Nov 23 @ 2:51PM
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burnslike....."become what you seek...."
Does that mean get a sex change operation?
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sphynxsmile
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Nov 23 @ 2:58PM
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I think burnslikethesun is so right. It all boils down to liking yourself and being you!
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goodcatch57
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Nov 23 @ 3:19PM
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After looking at your profile, I see why guys hit you up for sex. You ask for it.
You list "intimate activities" and say you want to explore your sexuality. So...what do you expect? Guys that want to explore will be all over that.
Don't be dissapointed that decent guys don't hit on you. I would like to consider myself a decent guy, but would run away from any profile that warns me not to stifle someones sexuality. To me, thats personal stuff and will be disgust when the time is right not in my profile. And I'm allergic to cats...
But thats just me...
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patches820
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Nov 23 @ 3:32PM
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To Goodcatch57
I do not believe exploring your sexuality is a bad thing. I do not claim to want to explore my sexuality with every tom, dick, and harry. Just with my Ideal match. That is why it is called an IDEAL match.
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Josuha
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Nov 23 @ 3:44PM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DxxI173UOvE
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goodcatch57
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Nov 23 @ 3:47PM
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I agree. It's good to explore and there is nothing bad about it at all.
But if your getting a lot of guys/gals wanting sex and only sex, I would definitely reconsider your marketing strategy.
For instance, If mentioned I only like large breasted women in my profile and I suddenly got a bunch of emails from large breasted women wanting me to see their boobs...well, I asked for it.
Guys pick up on the sex word faster then anything, if you mention it in your profile, expect at least a few sex maniacs to respond to the bait.
I don't like big boobs by the way...so please, no emails.
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