The Relief of Brief Grief posted 11/24/2007 11:27:08 PM | 2 kudos what's this?     report abuse

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I am writing this blog as a follow up on the prievious few blogs concerning the passing of my father. The event has already impacted my life in both negative and some positive ways. Undoubtedly it will affect certain of my future decisions, perhaps even a few life directives.

Many of you addressed in responses to my last few blogs, your own life experiences. I appreciated those responses.

I think Lil helped me most with the guilt aspect I have been feeling regarding not feeling enough grief. I realized today that I had buried my Dad years ago. I became aware years ago that he was unable (or unwilling) to address the issues that had stood between us in the ways that I would ever be able to relate to. i had to simply forgive. To forget would be harder but for the most part I never really brought the issues up in my mind again until now. I forgave him years ago and have tried to see him for his good points but at the same time I can not overlook the waste he made of many parts of his own life by making many of the poor choices he did. I have as a result been able to live a bit more stable life simply by NOT making those same bad choices. This in no way makes me a better man, just a different man. One good product of this decision, though is that it has made me to be a better dad and certainly (I feel) my kids have been closer to me than his were. I think that the parents of this generation and of the Baby Boomers are all in the same boat. Most of us did the best we could with the knowledge we had at hand. Dr. Spock (spelling? not from Star Trek) influenced my parents in the same degree that Dr Dobson did me. Parenting has come a long way over the years but drug and alcohol abuse is so rampant in our society today I am not sure the advance in communication is serving the benefit it should be. I wish things were different but until I am elected King I guess we will have to do the best we can (that was just a joke, by the way)

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