"People who jump to conclusions rarely alight on them."
(Philip Guedalla)
Yes, you read it here first. I am a moderator. I'm in charge and the final word belongs to me.
Pretty ducky, ain't it?
I certainly think so.
After all, this is my blog. And if I don't want it to be a forum thread, I don't have to respond to everyone's comments with one of my own. And if someone wants to use my blog to pursue some personal agenda, then I don't have to let them. If someone wants to use my comment section to bash another member, I can stop 'em in their tracks. And if someone has proven themselves worth only being ignored by me, then I can simply block them.
The power is deliciously intoxicating.
But it is a truth that with great power comes great responsibility. Therefore, I am a most benevolent moderator. The world is a big place, full of individual points of view, so if someone wants to disagree or take exception with something I write, I don't take it personally, nor do I knee-jerk disallow it. I believe diversity is another, quite wonderful tool we can use to further our learning. I believe in free speech. I do, however, ask that differing points of view be presented politely. And I don't think that's asking too much. This is supposed to be an adult site, where most have had plenty of practice in those basics learned in kindergarten. If someone chooses rudeness, crudeness, or some other snarky and socially unacceptable tack, well, they can just take their attitude to another blog or into the forums.
I do hold a degree of admiration for those who write something in full accordance with the site's rules that has the unfortunate consequence of bringing the aluminum foil hat brigade out in force and then allow them to blather and bleat the blog to the popular list. One can learn a lot about people by watching a free-for-all started by one person who either holds a grudge or simply can't comprehend what they read. But the truth is, I have neither the time nor any real inclination to supervise such a thing.
The way I've come to see it, when I write and post a blog, it is like letting you, the reader, into my home. And in the same way I would expect you to respect my physical home and those who come and go from it, so, too, do I expect the same respect be given to this particular virtual home and its visitors.
Of course, this is only my opinion. But, after all, this is my blog. And since I am its moderator, it is also my choice to make it my rule.
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behonestaboutlove
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Dec 2 @ 11:52AM
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 I respect you and admire you and I think you are a nice and good lady with a good head on your shoulders. I have been secretly learning from you and your blogs and your behavior as I am in a major transition in my life of continuing education and attempting to better myself.   I guess the secret is out. I feel that you are a good role model for myself and many. Flowers for you.  This is a good blog with valid points.  Take Care. 
Jen
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Skydognc
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Dec 2 @ 11:59AM
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I really like this !
(coming from one, known to turn some blogs into discussions, and arguments) .
Blogland, has been a growing experience for me. Coming here, as an "elite" chatter, it has , and is continually evolving for me. Learning moreso daily, now having finally opened my eyes, to what has been stated for over a year now. But also knowing, I have a ways to go yet!
but here's one thing I find true, to me, in my evolving experience. There are writers and blogs, that I totally respect. Although I may post a silly comment, I would try , never to disrespect that blogger, because for me, they deserve dignity.
then there are others, that I am like the wind n a tunnel. Haphazzardly blowing comments, some cruel, distasteful, and angry. I feel, if they can be so blunt, as to post such attacking blogs, or opinionated blogs, or something that is just downright wrong, they get the hurricane they deserve. Not just from me, but others as well. The sad part is, the aftereffect is popularity, which is what they are all about in the first place.
I know it is lack of maturity, in my growth, but I find it terribly difficult, to restrain. It is like a vaccuum, ever sucking its victims into it.
I do like the analogy of the house. alot to ponder there ! I certainly wouldn't act this way, were I a guest in their home!
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oceanlover734
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Dec 2 @ 11:59AM
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I like this part very very much. The way I've come to see it, when I write and post a blog, it is like letting you, the reader, into my home. And in the same way I would expect you to respect my physical home and those who come and go from it, so, too, do I expect the same respect be given to this particular virtual home and its visitors.
I really do think that sums up the whole thing. If we treat each others blogs with respect it would make for a nicer home. I often do not like what someone writes about but I would not trash them. I may if I feel strongly enough voice my thoughts but most times not.
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FrumiousBandersnatch
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Dec 2 @ 12:05PM
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I commend you for both your commitment to civility . . .and your moderation.
It seems to be one of those ironies . . .perhaps rising to the level of an absurdity . . .that our grand benevolent overseers (Da Mods) somehow let the horse get out of the barn way back when. With the chance growing more remote every day . . .I still wonder if they might be able to use your example and bring the Blog-asphere back to its original intended place in the universe.
The cynic in me says that it will probably take both a new horse . . . and a new barn.
I appreciate your continued efforts to provide signal over noise. To rise above the level of those that strive to forumize . . .or chaterize . . .it may be necessary to ignore, and perhaps shun . . . even the Frumious Bandersnatch.
YMMV . . .and always consider the source.
FB
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CrackerJackPat
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Dec 2 @ 12:07PM
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 Great ! Now why didn't I think of this??  (Don't answer that)
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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Dec 2 @ 12:07PM
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Good Blog...kudos to you...
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EternalFlame
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Dec 2 @ 12:08PM
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Sci, I'd like to thank you for always writing something worth reading. For that (and other reasons I'll leave unsaid for now), you have my utmost respect.
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TallBlonde1
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Dec 2 @ 12:09PM
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~*~ Excellent way of putting it.
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Godless
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Dec 2 @ 12:09PM
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So many would benefit from this aspect of personal responsibility. Kudos!
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Sheryll861
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Dec 2 @ 12:09PM
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Sounds great to me!
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Angel603
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Dec 2 @ 12:12PM
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Never let it be said that Sci is ever anything less than a lady.... unlike myself  Another great blog... as always.
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Sheryll861
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Dec 2 @ 12:27PM
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Okay, this blog reminded me so much of my very first blog..... on here anyway. I thought it would be just for folks that were my friends and holy hell.... I was horrified........ nasty, bitter, accusing, stupid, nothing better in their world or life or mind to do, than to abuse me. Well, leave me alone... I was grieving. So, I blocked a few.... since then I am somewhat nasty about nasty remarks. I have been guilty of lashing back..... wish I could say I have not.... but I have. I am not proud of any of such either........ so I want to say I am sad and ashamed of myself for the times I did..... even if warranted.
I have even recently deleted myself..... it is not so good to have to say this.
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blkfoot1954
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Dec 2 @ 12:37PM
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I don't think anyone else has quite put blogland in this light before.I truly hope many listen to this.(somehow I don't think some will).
This is the best.
Have a happy Sunday...
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RainSongSpirit
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Dec 2 @ 12:45PM
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and i for one thank you
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lacyvsq
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Dec 2 @ 12:56PM
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Very ducky!
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luvshorses644
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Dec 2 @ 2:31PM
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I love the way your mind thinks and the words you choose to write.. if that makes me anything but a person that enjoys your blogs .. so be it.
You have stated beautifully what so many people I believe tried to get put into words and failed to bring the point across.
It is true, when we blog, we invite everyone into our homes and world... and I thank you for being creative and saying it so succinctly and politely.
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daisy315
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Dec 2 @ 2:34PM
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very good point Sci.. I never thought of it that way before.. but once again.. you bring a whole new perspective to blogland 
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NDN_Gentleman
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Dec 2 @ 2:34PM
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kudos
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redtigr
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Dec 2 @ 2:38PM
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I respect you (in moderation). I hope you'll be serving up beverages and desserts soon in your home - er, blog.
As always, you are way, way ahead of us/them/it all...
~*~
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chris549547
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Dec 2 @ 2:54PM
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Snappygoddess
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Dec 2 @ 2:56PM
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From my home to yours
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beckyiv42000
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Dec 2 @ 5:04PM
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 hey Mod you rock!!
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carpediem48
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Dec 2 @ 5:26PM
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Thank you
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PullMyFinger
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Dec 2 @ 6:28PM
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We're observing the following risk condition:
ELEVATED
Significant risk of windowlicker attacks
Prior to entry, all visitors will submit to full body scan. If 1st level of security is breached by boogereaters, security contractors will be standing by with toilet plungers, surgical gloves and a can of odorless, non-toxic, biodegradable, non-corosive, non-allergenic and enzyme free cat urine removal spray...
A box of high quality aluminum foil will be gifted to the first 10 psychopaths.
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ForumMod
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Dec 2 @ 6:38PM
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thank you. this is what we've been trying to say all along. bloggers have the responsibility to keep their blogs in check if they want the privelige of comments to their blogs.
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onoudn
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Dec 2 @ 7:20PM
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The way I've come to see it, when I write and post a blog, it is like letting you, the reader, into my home. And in the same way I would expect you to respect my physical home and those who come and go from it, so, too, do I expect the same respect be given to this particular virtual home and its visitors.
Nicely put....and I have to wonder what kind of a community this is that you have to even write such a blog as this ? Not a perfect world though I guess....you get a kudos btw.
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fenderchick
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Dec 2 @ 7:21PM
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KnittinKitten
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Dec 2 @ 7:33PM
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Girl, you just gave me another reason to be happy that I have you on my Favorites List. It's sooooo wonderful to read intelligent, sincere, words of wisdom.......obviously the Mod thinks so, too.
Your Kudo is on its way!
Fondly,
Judy
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PsychoMagnet
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Dec 3 @ 2:09AM
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I watched a snail crawl along the edge of a strait razor. That's my dream. It's my nightmare. Crawling, slithering along the edge of a strait razor... and surviving...
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justme836
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Dec 3 @ 2:18AM
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Ducky it is!
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kattsmeow
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Dec 4 @ 10:55AM
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Being a Mod is so intoxicating isn't it? Better than a shot of alcohol.
Kudo's to you! ( I am running out of then this morning too)
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sweet5red
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Dec 4 @ 10:57PM
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another one that i am sooooooooo proud to call my "sister" and i loves her dearly....Sweet N Louisiana
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katydid438
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Dec 5 @ 1:06PM
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right on the mark once more Sci
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misschoos
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Dec 27 @ 8:59PM
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I try, I just lose myself sometimes.
And one of those little tiny green thingies
BUT don't tell anyone I gave it to you, they all want them. 
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