My sister and i talked for a long time tonight. I have no words of consolement and feel helpless. She is the one not doing well , where my niece is remaining strong and this also concerns my sister. We do not understand as parents, so how do you explain death to a child? The autopsy is going with cardiac arrhythemia leading to cardiac arrest. My sister says things will never be the same, could never be the same, and in an instant life can change. I talked with many people today who are parents and they cannot even imagine what the parents are going through, especially this time of year, and Christmas presents were bought, wrapped under the tree and will never be opened. This broke my heart. Empty pages in an unfinished novel. I have a much clearer perspective on my little pathetic life. I know time is not in our hands. I know the meaning of borrowed time, and I so get it. Life...cherish it.....do good things for others, be involved....call a friend, visit someone who has noone....listen to a friend ...... cry, laugh, fail, succeed....anything......live life.....peace 
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babydoll1970
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Dec 5 @ 11:47PM
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Great blog..  You give some pretty good advice in the end... Kudos to ya!!!!
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JoelB77
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Dec 5 @ 11:55PM
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I've been through the loss of a child, and it wasn't easy. My son was 3 when it happened, and he took it 'better' (if you can use that word..) than anyone else.
Kids are amazing. They can take mental hits that can decimate adults. This past spring, my son gave ME advice during my divorce with his mother.
Somebody told me once- "Kids are angels on loan from God". Amen
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iam7545
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Dec 6 @ 12:00AM
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Slohand_47
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Dec 6 @ 12:19AM
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I used to think I had to come up with these "perfect" words that would somehow make things better. Those words don't exist. Sometimes...... just being there is the best thing you can give.
A friend of mine lost his brother at a young age. People went through the line at the visitation and left. It was just painful. I sat down in the back and just stayed there for at least an hour or more. He told me after how much it meant to look around and see me there. Keeping vigil as it were.
Your niece will grieve a LOT more when she comes in contact with her peers for the first time.
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chek1678
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Dec 6 @ 12:21AM
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Death is like the four season of the year or the life of a flower.
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SunBabe
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Dec 6 @ 12:25AM
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You'll be there with her next week, right? Maybe a good cry in each others arms will help as much (or more) than trying to talk these things out long distance -- because there IS no concrete answer to all the "Why's"...and all the other intangibles.
Maybe, just maybe, the young girls parents (and friends) had 14 years that might not have been if she had an undetected heart condition. We assume that modern medicine and "ordinary" lives means everything is alright and always will be. But just yesterday my 37 year old neighbor reminded me again that "things just happen" -- I didn't know what happened last winter, but just found out she lost her first child, a baby boy, a week before he was due to be born. It's taken her up til now to be able to accept that the problem was an anomoly (She has a rare blood condition that nobody ever thought to test for -- had they known, her child would have been fine). She now knows the technical "why" but the big "Why" (and understanding) took a lot more time to overcome.
She, too, has learned to see life and the world differently and her life is heading in a new, positive direction these days...her new "awareness" has led her to find inner peace.
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hunt4luv
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Dec 6 @ 12:50AM
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Sometimes you can only Hold em close and let them get rid of their greif as much as possible. Sometimes the sooner the better, God Be with you. 
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JimNastics
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Dec 6 @ 2:52AM
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texasblues
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Dec 6 @ 7:32AM
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Wish I had some great words of wisdom to offer to you and yours, but alas I don't. They say time is the great healer, but memories remain. I hope for your sister and niece those memories aren't of their grieve at the this time of lost, but memories of the joyous time they had together.
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beckyiv42000
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Dec 6 @ 12:05PM
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nothing I could say would ease your pain or your sisters and nieces.. the best thing is to be there for them just a comforting hug does miracles.. it can be the catalyst for them to let go and release all the pent up grief.. there is nothing worse than NOT being able to grieve.. I know this from experience..  many prayers for all you your family and the family of the little angel to be able to grieve and find comfort in each other .
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missliss78
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Dec 6 @ 4:53PM
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sciurusniger
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Dec 6 @ 7:54PM
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No...no words....
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