 Happy Sunday All. I had hid my profile for a while, then I re-grouped and it's nice to be back in the realm of you all.
My question isn't my usual rant, just a simple one.
When you feel overwhelmed, maybe "out of sorts" or even lost in some way, do you reach out for those you love/care for/rely on/need or do you withdraw? I completely recluse. And I mean in a BIG way. No phones, no computer, no anythng but a LOT of thinking, reflecting, attempting some type of inner growth, etc. I had a melt-down recently, not sure why or what cause it, but I just disappear. I mean there were cadaver dogs looking for me. Of course, they found me alive an well, but I'm curious. How do you handle your life when it just seems unbearable/unfixable/etc.????  (And I don't mean the routine loneliness.....I mean a "funk" as some call it. The inability to even smile at times. Laughter being the last on the list....that type of stuff.) 
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caffie1
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Dec 9 @ 4:06PM
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Gig.....wow ....it is so good to come back though with a different outlook on whats to come.....what doesn't kill you ..only makes you stronger...i really believe this.....living proof...... 
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QtrAcreGalSeeking
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Dec 9 @ 4:07PM
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Take a look at my "Dead Skunk..." blog; my friends and acquaiintances give new definition, to the term "resurrection", when I melt down..
I DO believe, however, that, in order to contract with Loved Ones, that they endure such, YOU'VE GOT TO ENDURE THEIRS..
Guess I'm offering to fill that position for you...
Hang in there, you're not alone 
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Kentuck
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Dec 9 @ 4:12PM
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There are a lot of ways to cope with problems or as you say ""out of Sorts""
It is good to with draw and have a good old fashion heart to heart but reality chat with youself. But, be honest and don't blame other people. The usual answer is what can ""I"" ""I"" do to go forward.
Chatting with friends will allow you to hear yourself explain what your are feeling.
I am doing the same thing and will write a blog on it. Lonley ot am I really lonley at the top.
Just remember, never blame others for your own problems--for you have the ability to walk away.
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mystery2u888
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Dec 9 @ 4:25PM
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 Hey Girly..........I stay away from the computer  and phone too..  ..everyone copes in different ways...........I like to do things that make me feel happy and good.  .....stay away from people that may not understand your situation.......how you are feeling......stay away from negative influences.........I go get pampered and go shopping but.  ....I also talk to my closest friends who have been there .......and give me the RIGHT SUPPORT......that I need...it is very important to be able to actually talk to someone.........who listens well...  ......even though you can be in a funk and want to step back regroup and dissappear.....  .......you need to let those feelings out........and it feels good to have a open ear.......open mind....  ......so that you don't get more in a funk or frustrated because although some say they understand........the bottom line is they really don't..  .....and when your not feeling the best.........you need positive input.........from people who really care  about you and that are willing to listen..........really listen.........not just say it........I always say actions speak louder than words........a good cry.....a good dinner.......a good movie......the right words can mean all the difference in the world to have someone say the right thing to you.................communication is key .......it is how I live my life and how I love to have my friends around me ..............to keep me grounded and stable..... 
People who don't do this........you may think twice if they are the people you want to surround yourself with............giving up on you and not being there for you......is not someone......that will be there for you in the long run.........unfortunately...... I think you will feel better when you just take time for you..........if laying down an not talking to anyone till you feel the need.......do that.......
xoxo
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armybear
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Dec 9 @ 4:29PM
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I have been there, I think most, if not all have been there!
you just do whatever makes you feel better.
I know I sometimes have to just kicked back, stay away from the pc, dont answer the phone, etc.
you hang in there!
HUGz
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observed50
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Dec 9 @ 4:41PM
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For me, when I get big hits, I tend to withdraw and seek respite. In September this year, a business partner and founder of our work in West Africa, did a series of things over a 4-5 day period that basically 'blew-up' what we had spent two years working on in West Africa, with the result being 14 highly skilled actors walking away from him, and because of his 'founder' position, away from all we were doing.
Though I sense what I was seeing is early stages of Alzheimer's or Dementia (partner is 68), nonetheless, his belligerence and bizarre behavior simply wasn't tolerable to world-class actors who have too many options to put up with such junk. So everyone in the organization on this side of the Atlantic, walked.
Because so much of the work we were doing was coming through my networks and efforts, when this partner slid off into his swamp, he didn't destroy opportunity...just immediate mechanisms for delivery. But nonetheless, it was two years of work, largely sweat equity, and thousands of hours and meetings, that were all deeply derailed by those few days.
It didn't hit me at first. But several weeks later, I recognized I didn't want to answer personal emails, phone calls, or leave the house for meetings. I recognized I was withdrawing and simply licking wounds, and breathing.
Last weekend, I had folks here at the house for several days from across the country, as we finally begin to reassemble pieces. People from the previous group have been pushing on me to get involved and do some things with them immediately, and I simply had no urge, could find no urgency, to do so, despite being financially strapped after the demise of the group.
But like you...I want space. I want time. I want quiet. To reflect. To listen. To feel the things that I might learn, and to grieve the path, and let it go. It feels good to again begin sensing a path, and a reason. But I also recognize its okay to go slow, to let my body and mind find each other again after wandering around in the fog for a bit.
And I have to admit...I love quiet. That's why I live on a farm 15 miles away from the nearest city.
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Pinkpassion35
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Dec 9 @ 4:49PM
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Hide...and withdraw...hmmmm....but someone close always pulls me back up again 
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sunsamza
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Dec 9 @ 5:21PM
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Wow.....when you look at your picture you see this beautiful lady literally glowing.
You have an incredible smile!
You would never think you had a trouble in the world.
But, the fact is we all have our bad days, our bad weeks, our bad months.
We all melt down...! 
Right now, I am sitting in the room with my Mother. Hospice just left and she is
finally resting quietly and here I am on MD (crazy) trying to stay in touch with some sort of life....
There is nothing better than friendship to pick you up.
Sending you ....((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Hansumm
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Dec 9 @ 6:04PM
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Melt down?...lemme see, if it is ice cream, which you are, then you would have been a milk shake! In my eye, that is still pretty yummy.
Nice to see you again...
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Journeyhawk
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Dec 9 @ 6:07PM
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It has been a while since I have had to experience this ... Thank God!
When the storms of life come, I withdraw to a place of quiet serenity and peace ... as peaceful of a place as I can find. I have a few places along the river where I go, listen to the water flow on it's restless journey and I think, journal, or read. It is very rare that I will talk to any person. I have a dear friend or two and may call them but mostly, I just "recluse" as you say and work on getting myself centered. I am no good to myself or anyone else if I am not centered.
The closest friend in my heart that I talk to is God. He is there whenever I need Him the most. I find comfort in that. I don't have to apologize or explain. He knows my heart. If it weren't for Him, I would have no peace. It is as simple as that ... just Him and me. I know if He is FOR me, then it does not matter who else is against me, or even what the perceived problem really is. He can handle it so much better than I.
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Kat_luvr
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Dec 9 @ 7:31PM
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shut the door draw the shades, and turn off the pc.............I withdraw!
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GiggleAddiction
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Dec 9 @ 7:34PM
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Guess I'm offering to fill that position for you... Thank you ~ much.
.....stay away from people that may not understand your situation.......how you are feeling......stay away from negative influences......... I couldn't agree more. I think that is when I turtle the most. When I want to talk and someone always has it worse. It's always more painful than what I'm feeling. Well, it might be, but I rarely speak so when I do, it must mean something. I couldn't agree more.
a good cry.....a good dinner.......a good movie......the right words can mean all the difference in the world to have someone say the right thing to you.................communication is key .......it is how I live my life and how I love to have my friends around me ..............to keep me grounded and stable..... I think my issue is that I'm the sounding board most often. I think it's my own fault, but sometimes those people forget that I have issues, too. That is my own fault for too many years of the plastered smile that really isn't always a smile, it's more of a "fuk this" with teeth. 
You have an incredible smile! Thank you. My exhusband used to say "You have the best F-U smile in history." I guess we can't believe everything we see. LMAO 
I am no good to myself or anyone else if I am not centered That is soooooooooo me. If I can't be who I am, there is a BIG issue. And not being centered, for me, is vital. Overwhelmed, overstressed, over anything and all I want to do is turtle. I love that saying. It is what I do. The lights go off, I scruntch in and you won't see me for a few days or longer sometimes. The I come out and it's all better usually.
Thanks all for the comments, much help. Happy holidays to you all.
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oppositeview
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Dec 9 @ 10:24PM
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I tend to fill my mind with other things. Movies, music, reading. To not think about my 'problems' for a little while.
I tend to stay away from communication devices as well.
I'm open to meeting friends during these periods.
My mind will figure out the answer if I stay out of the way.
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sputter49
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Dec 9 @ 11:26PM
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Your situation is quite easy to understand. You have an open and giving heart… and few you will chose to turn away. Unfortunately, there are those who seek open hearts such as yours to deposit “their” trials and tribulations upon you. You embrace them with open arms and accept; gladly… the refuse of “their” lives to the point you eventually simply… “overload”. You retreat for a period sufficient to dump “their” garbage.
The solution? Redefine your definition of “friends”. Become more aware of those with excess and a preoccupation of the “garbage” in their lives. They are not your friends… they just need to find a receptacle to deposit their refuse. Just throw the lid on… and say.. “not here, honey!”
You’ll be just fine. (smile)
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JimNastics
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Dec 10 @ 2:17AM
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Just go out dancing !  
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beckyiv42000
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Dec 10 @ 3:46AM
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I cant believe this but I agree with Jim  
but it has been shown that dancing not only lifts your spirits ... listening to the music.. but the exercise from it revs up your Endorphins and puts you in a good mood... even just dancing around and spinning in circles like a kid.. remember being a kid and you would just love to skip and dance around for no reason?? the reason was because it was FUN!!!
orrrr engage in sex.. another Endorphin release 
any form of exercise can do it though so why not do one that is fun??
info on endorphins and moods
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TroutFishing
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Dec 22 @ 2:20PM
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It has been scientifically proven that you cannot be
active and depressed at the same time. Therefore
when feeling down - just DO anything.
In the summer I go for a bike ride.
In the winter I surround myself with audio and video
projects. That's what hobbies are for - to pursue
our interests and to reflect on some of the pretty
neat things we have done before. Both tend to
cheer us up.
Have Fun.
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