It started in a yahoo chat room about 6 years ago. The message was short and sweet, "Are you my Robert Kincaid" I knew this gal had been reading my poetry. She had found the link to my site and decided I appealed to her. I had no idea who Robert Kincaid could possibly be, so in an attempt to buy some time I wrote, "maybe in some ways... let me think about it for a minute" Meanwhile I was already doing an internet search for the character from "Bridges of Madison County" It only took a second to determine and respond that I was not "The last real cowboy" but that Robert Kincaid by being the Smithsonian photographer that he was, however romantic, was equally devoid of that distinction. "But the more important question is: 'Could you be Francesca Johnson?", I asked.
So began a romantic interplay of two souls via the Internet which lasted several months. Unfortunately she lived in Avon Park Florida which was about 1200 miles away fro me. She wrote and called me several times daily. I had no funds for such high long distance bills but she insisted in footing them. I liked her ways and her words and the awesome and romantic person I perceived her to be. Day by day I longed to see her face beyond the various pictures she sent and to hold her close to me. She expressed to me she felt exactly the same way. I dared not embrace these feelings for someone who existed only in a keyboard and telephone lines. If I could meet her face to face, even for ten minutes, I felt then I would know. One day I reached the point I could stand it no longer. I packed my bags and drove to Florida. I told her I was coming. She was apprehensive but excited. I left messages on her phone detailing my progress as I drove. I reached her home by 4 am and slept in the car until I knew she had awakened by the lights in the windows. I waited a bit then called her again. No answer. Then again and again ten minutes later in case she was in the shower. Then I hesitantly rang the doorbell. Nobody answered. Twice more and I saw the face of her son coming towards the door. Then heard the blood curding scream, "Don't open the damn door"
That was enough for me. I drove about two blocks away and then called her house. I asked her what was going on. She said, "I didn't think you would REALLY come" So I hung up the phone and explored the area down to Sebring and then back again. She did not answer her phone for about three times so I started the trip home. I got the next call from her as I was crossing the bridge over the Mississippi River. She asked me, "Why did you leave? If you had waited I might have met you tonight" "I am sorry", I said, " but there is something wrong. Francesca would have opened the door. I do not know why you acted that way, but I took the chance"
I drove on home and except for some accidental emails she sent me on her group list, I never heard from her again... nor did I ever care too.
Now ask me why I hesitate about long distance relationships.... can I tell you a story ....(even two)!!!.... steven
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SallyF

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Dec 14 @ 11:06PM
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but...but...but....you'll never have to wonder "what if" :-)
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sweetthing937

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Dec 14 @ 11:12PM
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wow...that may top all that i've heard so far!...funny how we go through some of the things we do with internet dating and still hanging around eh?...is that what they call faith?...LOL
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Journeyhawk

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Dec 14 @ 11:37PM
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I am sorry things turned out so bad for you. I am sure that others have had better experiences with long distance relationships. It would be interesting to know just how many actually DO work out.
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Chickapea

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Dec 15 @ 12:47AM
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First I could not believe that you frove that far to meet someone lol, Then I couldn,t believe you went home so quick. I can understand her reluctance to meet you suddenly and maybe I would have panicked also. She obviously never believed you were coming. Did she actually tell you to drive to her house ? Next time get a room when you arrive and then ask the lady to dinner , Never ever show up on a ladies doorstep . Although you are a very habdsome man , Its a scary world out there and us Ladies like to be prepared. You no doubt caught her in her house robe , with her hair sticking uo like a chicken and a cig in her mouth. Not exactly the way a woman wants a man to see her . GOOD STORY
SAD BUT GOOD
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wordsenchanting

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Dec 15 @ 12:52AM
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I never had any regrets. I took a chance on love. I invested time and money in the possibility of what I felt was an awesome relationship. I would do it all again. Closer to home this time though. I would feel sorry for anyone who was afraid to take that chance. It would provide a lifetime of regrets. steve
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wordsenchanting

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Dec 15 @ 1:01AM
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Chickapea...
The lady gave me her address. She said she was in love with me. I have to base her reaction against my own. I could not have turned someone away who I was in love with. I would have sprung out the door to greet her. She refused to answer her phone. She lied aboutr not believing I was coming since I kept contact all the way
I believe in only two possibilities. the first is that she may have been married and someone at the door was a threat to her secret life. The second is that she sent someone elses picture and that she could not confront me as herself. Whatever the reason it remains that she did lie. She admitted that later on the phone call. That is enough to end any budding relationship
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equuisdancer

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Dec 15 @ 1:04AM
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WOW...her loss!! It's nice to know there are some guys on here who arn't just playing and DO follow through! for trying you've got to be one special guy!
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530Meliss

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Dec 15 @ 1:40AM
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I've always felt that remembering lies would be too much work. Sorry you found out she wasn't the one for you. I hope you enjoyed the trip despite her.
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sweetthing937

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Dec 15 @ 7:02AM
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it wasn't as though you'd only been talking days...this had been going on for months...i believe as you...there were lies as to who she was...too bad for her she missed out on someone who is who honest and true to his word...we can't look at these times as being being a waste...but as a learning experience and move on...i know it was very disappointing and hurtful, but you seem to have such a positive outlook on life...keep smiling
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EternalFlame

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Dec 15 @ 10:12AM
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...but you took the chance, and that's what matters.
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sweetgypsysoul

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Dec 16 @ 8:03AM
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What was he thinking when I insisted on driving the 7 hours to meet him after chatting for only a little more than a week? I wonder? He was standing on the street, using a cell phone to direct me to his web. Maybe we were the exception to the rule .. people who turned out to be who we'd presented ourselves to be .. only better in the flesh .. way better in the flesh.
Keep putting your heart out there. ~Love like you've never been hurt, and all those other mooshy, cliche sentiments. You'll find her.
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KnittinKitten

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Jan 7 @ 4:24PM
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Steven:
My kids bought me a web cam....Most of the men with whom I correspond also have them. So far, I have only knowingly corresponded with only one scammer...and, who knows whose picture he used. (I dumped him when he asked for money.)
Perhaps you might consider buying a camera. It's definitely a worthwhile, inexpensive purchase.....for BOTH men and women!. No surprises.
I agree that, if driving a long distance, you should make arrangements at a nearby motel......and, don't EXPECT her to spend the night there with you......wait until you meet.....that chemistry is elusive!. Have you seen my posting, "And Another One Bit The Dust"....you'll have a laugh.
Sincerely,
JUDY
Yer getting my last kudo for the day! You earned them all.
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wordsenchanting

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Jan 7 @ 6:21PM
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Those were the early days of computers for me. Web Cams were barely on the market yet. I have one now though I don't often use it. I did not have the time to spend to get a motel, nor the cash at the time. My intent was to SEE this lady if no more than 1/2 hour and confirm if this was REAL and if I felt the same things in person. I felt the trip was succesful albeit a bit of a tragedy. By the way, could you send me some money?? Please???? lol
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