We were supposed to go the 12th to court and set custody , support and visitation but with this awful weather we could not go.
He lives with is lover now and he feels he has the perfect woman for him.
He hasn't paid support since November 15th . it is hard as heck on me and my girls.
With the power off because of the storms my job was closed for three days and with my pay already being low It is pure selfish on his part not to give me the money so I can at least pay the bills. That way his babys can have things that they need like new coats to replace the ones they have used for two years. They keep them warm but they do not look that great and have stains on them. I will make sure they are replaced asp.
The girls said he took them to Wal-mart and him and his woman bought lots of gifts for the tree. They know he didn't give me any money and they both say they are mad at him they say he does not care about them. I am thinking and not saying out loud. What a jerk! He cares more about buying them gifts they can play with than he cares if they have the things they need. He just wants to make sure I can't buy them nice gifts so he looks like the big provider of Christmas for them and his woman. Yeah right, they both say their daddy always bought things he and they wanted and not what we needed and they say he can not make up for leaving by spending lots of money on them. Melissa is still mad because she asked for a pair of new T shoes before the first really cold weather set in and he said next payday and then instead he took them to frontier city. I bought her a pair of shoes out of my paycheck two days before the temp dropped. My check was only $120.00 that week. Their daddy's check is always $840 + dollars every two weeks. She said mom you have always bought what we need, dad just buys what we want.
When he does buy something for them he says you can leave it here ( at his womans house) and use it when you come over. That one is not going over big with them.
He always has been a child in a mans body and he is still being that way. His perfect world is one where he has lots of things and is always spending money having fun. He has to be the center of your world and everything else pails to him or he becomes a jerk. Sounds like he has a woman that like me will spoil him and let him have his way.
I am tired of being on hold. I want to be able to get the support order set so he will have to pay regular and then I can finally get my bills in order, my budget set, and go on with my life. I had no idea a divorce could take so long now days. You don't just go to court one time you set everything at first then you go to classes then you go back and then you still have six months before you can marry again. You also can't have anyone move in unmarried because you can't have anyone sleep over while the children are in the house.
I am so alone and wanting so much to move on with my life and it seems that he is the winner here. He has his woman, her home, her car and he has moved on.
Funny that when we met I was a size twelve, had my own home, and my own car and treated him very much like she is doing now.
I will be free in 2008 to meet someone. He had better be tired of being single and ready to get married or he will only be sleeping over at my house every other weekend and on holidays until he gets ready to be married. It is ok, I know when the time is right I will find the perfect man for me. I was single when I met hubby and i will be single when I meet the man that I pray will be my one, my only, and the one that stays until death does us part.
I am working on myself so much now and I can't even picture a new man even when I try. I so want to have someone though. It helps to know that I culdn't picture a man by my side when he showed up either.
I am looking for the direction that I should go in my life . I am so wanting to improve my life, myself and make all the changes so that I can give my girls a greater life and to find my way to the wonderful life I am destined to have. I hope there is a kind and gentle man with a big heart to share it with me, but if not then I guess i will make a trip to the adult toy store and thank God I have friends to be there when I need a hug and a shoulder.
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Peachdejour
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Dec 15 @ 11:26PM
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We have the opposite problem here. My step dad pays a lot of child support for my step sister and all she gets are good will clothes that don't fit her right. We buy her new coats and clothes etc and she is forced to give them to her other siblings and will come back with coats with holes and blood stains on them. She wears the same pair of shoes until they are almost not shoes anymore but her mother goes on expensive cruises twice a year. It makes me so sick.
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roadqueenx2
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Jan 5 @ 8:49AM
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My ex drug our divorce out for almost 3 years.He moved his girlfriend in the first weekend I was gone, and I think delaying the divorce helped him not have to make another commitment. Plus, it kept me struggling to survive while I waited on the property to be settled up.Divorce is hell especially if there are children as in your case. Gettting a court order will not insure that he pay the necessary support. But, I would make sure if he is in contempt, it will be his expense at paying your lawyer if you have to take him back to court.And, get all the medical & dental(braces), book rental, school trips, cars & possible insurance,college, etc figured out now, so you do not have to continue going back to court.And, Chatty, don't be so eager to jump back into the frying pan again.If a man has all the "benefits" every other weekend, he may be less likely to want to give up his freedom.Of course, this is just my opinion. Take care, Chatty, and Happy 2008!!!
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