The girls talk alot to their friends and the friends hip me to what they are thinking. If my mom asked me questions I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings and would not tell her the truth if i thought it would hurt her. My friends I would tell the truth.
No matter what he does his girls are not wanting to be at his lovers house.
My oldest likes her four year old child but both girls say they want to poke their daddy's nose everytime he gets close to the woman and when she does things I did when daddy and I were together and acts like his wife or their mom they want to poke her nose. He sees it as one big happy family . He has her, his girls, and her child and it is heaven for him. They told their friend that they see it as daddy and another woman and her daughter and they always think of me and miss me and it doesn't feel right or like a family to them. They say it never will.
I did ask them once. when I do get married again will you feel that he is just another man and that he is not daddy and will you give him a hard time and not like him? Both said, momma you didn't leave daddy he left you and you need to have someone to love you, it is not your fault daddy didn't love you anymore. I said, what about daddy doesn't he deserve love? They replied; Daddy left you momma that was wrong, he had love and he left anyway momma. He promised us when he left the first time and came back that he would never leave again no matter what. We are mad at him. The girls friend told me that the girls love their dad but they are not letting him off the hook for leaving and he is going to find out that those girls are smart as can be and make up their own minds about things.
Sarah says she wants to see her daddy but she hates that she can't see just him alone. No matter how nice the woman is to her she doesn't like her. she will be nice to her for daddy but she doesn't like her and never will. When the friend asked why sarah does not like her sarah said, sometimes you just don't like somebody and you don't know why you just don't like them. I just don't like her.
Melissa told her friend she likes everyone because the bible says you should but she wishes she was not with her daddy. It is not always easy to like her. She said daddy thinks she is better than mom but she is not better than her mom . She said that she will be nice to her for daddy so his feelings don't get hurt and that she likes kristy a lot and that she loves children and it is not Kristys fault that Kristy's momma and daddy are not together and that Kristys momma is not doing the right things. I concur. It is never the childrens fault.
He said there was to much water under the bridge for us to try and to work to save our marriage. Back then he was wrong we could have saved our marriage if he had not wanted to be with someone else. Add one woman, a child and the things he has done since he left and you add some major flood water to that bridge.
It is a shame though.
If things were different the year would open with him and I getting excited about income tax and making all kinds of plans for our new home and land with the girls. Instead he is living in his lovers house, driving her car, and making plans for his future with her.
Funny how life works sometimes.
If you had told me I would be getting divorced I would have told you that your crazy. He and I were always called the perfect couple and everyone wanted to have what we had. I guess that they were seeing something he just couldn't see anymore.
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