Life is great. God gave us a lot to live for, but the most important thing that was given to us is the capability of loving people. So I wonder why some people who were given such a beautiful gift as this would squander it by being so picky? I think that if people strive more to find out what a person is like on the inside, people would be happier with the person they end up with. Too often people rely on looks before they even give someone the time of day. With this way of thinking you will never find that diamond in the rough. Divorce is at such a high rate nowadays that you have to wonder if people are starting to forget what real love is all about. But then again, God seems to be less and less on people's mind too. Coincidence? I think not.
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hunt4luv
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Dec 24 @ 1:42AM
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I Agree yet If one takes care to be sure they have found the right one b4 jumping in the chances of success are better. the heart is much more important then the outside. yet the total package is important as well.
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ragtopcookie
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Dec 24 @ 2:32AM
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and i agree with you sir....except there has to be an attraction for me......not looking for the moon here....just somebody who i think is attractive both inside and out......cookie
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Dec 24 @ 3:05AM
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Mostly I agree with you.. .except for one thing I'd say different, for sure.
I don't think it's wrong to find someone's looks attractive and therefore decide that's who you'll be trying to talk to, first. Up to a certain extent, that's just perfectly normal.
Where it goes wrong is when you have a Jennifer Aniston and an Angelina Jolie type in the same room, and the Jennifer Aniston type is being called an ugly worthless pig and told to just go home and slit her wrists because she's too ugly to get or keep a man anyway .. simply because she's not what some men consider the most beautiful woman in the room. Because, quite frankly, she's still out of most men's league looks wise.
That's not the only place it goes wrong, but that sort of thing happens a lot. Sometimes the difference between "hot" or "not" is simply how skimpy the costume is. You'll see thirty guys flocking around one woman and treating every other woman in the room like crap .. and the other guys, the ones not flocked around her, justify that behavior "Well, boys will be boys." or "Hey, if my gf wasn't here, I'd be doing the same thing." as if that makes it alright to treat a whole room full of women like dirt!
Where else it all goes terribly wrong, though, and this is what I was thinking about originally, is when it comes to people you've already given the time of day to. I have been asked by many, many men (and a few women) to comfort them over their loss of the great love of their life .. or what should have been. It was someone who treated them like gold, who helped them when they were broke, who held them when they were sad, who was happy to see them on the good days and the bad, who they grew to love and who they knew loved them. And these poor little people with their pity parties go "If only he dressed better" or "If only she were hotter." And it's not even that they are not attracted to the person physically but just that they wouldn't have something worthy of being an ornament that fitted how they wanted others to view them.
I think it's really really sick to find someone you care for, who cares for you, that you find attractive, and all that . and turn them away because someone else might laugh at you or tell you that you shouldn't find them attractive.
People like that should watch 'Valley Girls' a few times and then just grow up!
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herc2007
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Dec 24 @ 5:05AM
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i posted a blog on superficial wommen.it ponders a lot of what you ask.i understand that women want to look good,hell i'd like to look good.god didnt make us all that way though.my ex was a very pretty person inside and out until she decided she could look better.truth is our happiness ended when she decided not to go to church anymore..i dont know any real answer will be found to either of our questions,but i do agree that taking god out of it hurts.
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LovelyLady48
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Dec 24 @ 5:16AM
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I agree with you, I DO however (and I am sure this happens to everyone, not just women) but, there are 2 things I look to avoid, someone who claims to be my age *even younger, which is OK if it is not a blatant lie, and depending on how much younger or older* BUT I have seen men who emailed me, and claimed to be not even 40, and ANYONE can clearly see some are on the backside of their sixties..then the problem of someone one HAS NOT MET YET, who tells you that you are everything they have looked for how in the world can they know YET?. I feel a few emails and some messaging, a few phone calls, and no being pushy (Unless this goes on for several months with no reason not to meet in person).and I also have the pet peeve with God being taken out of the equation as well, I have 3 daughter's and one who is engaged, has always been taught that there is a God, maybe not the way some percieve it for who can know? but spirituality has always been a part of their life, Her fiance' does not believe in God. and since then she has decided the same, whether it is to make him happy I don't know, I don't think he asked her to change, but she doesn't want ridicule from him, and there is a tendency for that.. maybe that is why some profess not to believe, I say the old song has it's place in this day and time... "NOTHING from NOTHING leaves NO-THING, which is my view on God, there HAD to be creation, and who we call GOD created, but then I also believe that there is one...just one all powerful God for all beliefs...if we are, then something had to make us, even if there was a big bang something had to make it... if we came from monkeys and apes, why are there still monkeys and apes????
I find that as I have so much time to people watch... since I am not in a relationship myself, (I think I have become a bit gunshy..no pun intended) that
Humor is one thing that helps a relationship grow.. relaxing enough to talk to someone online, I can remember when I first went online even shy people were not shy because, it was usually a far fetched idea that the 2 would meet, and when people were not sending their pictures, well, often, people WOULD find that they had after talking, joking around, and even heart to heart talks, of confiding in someone as a friend a bond would form... but then again... no one allows for even that to happen anymore... there is no more mystery, and so many people have an instantly "we need to meet" mentality, well, even if people meet quick, (I am speaking for myself) sex is not going to happen right away, just as if I had met them on the phone, or by mail through a cousin, for this is exactly like that, minus the cousin, and being careful is not wrong.... I told my daughter, that it is certainly NOT looks that are the first thing to look for.. because I may meet someone in person that not every woman I know will be attracted to....and it surprises me, the reason I find the man attractive is that there IS a spark, and we have SOMETHING in common....just a pretty face on a man surely is not, just as with a woman, a sign that this is MR right, or even MR right now...
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