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Starts With Goodbye ~ Lessons Learned

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  Palomino

Dedicated to a wonderful man that I have loved like no other in my life. We gave it a helluva good shot, babe, but distance and borders won out after all. We were at that crossroad and I had to make a choice. I chose to live my life without heartbreak from always missing you in hopes that I can find the life that I used to have without the emotional turmoil. I'll love you until the day I die and I only wish the very best and much happiness for you. The Lord knows you deserve that. Thank you for loving me and I'm sorry that I wasn't strong enough.

"Starts With Goodbye" ~ Carrie Underwood

http://youtube.com/watch?v=2kY8jQ26nsQ

I was sitting on my doorstep,
I hung up the phone and it fell out of my hand,
But I knew I had to do it,
And he wouldn't understand,
So hard to see myself without him,
I felt a piece of my heart break,
But when you're standing at a crossroad,
There's a choice you gotta make.

[Chorus:]
I guess it's gonna have to hurt,
I guess I'm gonna have to cry,
And let go of some things I've loved,
To get to the other side,
I guess it's gonna break me down,
Like falling when you try to fly,
It's sad, but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life,
Starts with goodbye.

I know there's a blue horizon,
Somewhere up ahead, just waiting for me,
Getting there means leaving things behind,
Sometimes life's so bitter sweet.

[Chorus:]
I guess it's gonna have to hurt,
I guess I'm gonna have to cry,
And let go of some things I've loved,
To get to the other side,
I guess it's gonna break me down,
Like falling when you try to fly,
It's sad, but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life,
Starts with goodbye.

Time, time heals,
The wounds that you feel,
Somehow, right now.

[Chorus:]
I guess it's gonna have to hurt,
I guess I'm gonna have to cry,
And let go of some things I've loved,
To get to the other side,
I guess it's gonna break me down,
Like falling when you try to fly,
It's sad, but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life,
Starts with goodbye,
I guess I'm gonna have to cry,
And let go of some things I've loved,
To get to the other side,
Starts with goodbye,
The only way you try to find,
Moving on with the rest of your life,
Starts with goodbye,
Na na na na na na na.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

"Lessons Learned" ~ Carrie Underwood

http://youtube.com/watch?v=7mSm19ETQvg

There's some things that I regret,
Some words I wish had gone unsaid,
Some starts,
That had some bitter endings,
Been some bad times I've been through,
Damage I cannot undo,
Some things,
I wish I could do all all over again,
But it don't really matter,
Life gets that much harder,
It makes you that much stronger,
Oh, some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were,
Lessons learned.

[Chorus:]
And every tear that had to fall from my eyes,
Everyday I wondered how I'd get through the night,
Every change, life has thrown me,
I'm thankful, for every break in my heart,
I'm grateful, for every scar,
Some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were lessons learned.

There's mistakes that I have made,
Some chances I just threw away,
Some roads,
I never should've taken,
Been some signs I didn't see,
Hearts that I hurt needlessly,
Some wounds,
That I wish I could have one more chance to mend,
But it don't make no difference,
The past can't be rewritten,
You get the life you're given,
Oh, some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were,
Lessons learned.

[Chorus:]
And every tear that had to fall from my eyes,
Everyday I wondered how I'd get through the night,
Every change, life has thrown me,
I'm thankful, for every break in my heart,
I'm grateful, for every scar,
Some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were lessons learned.

And all the things that break you,
Are all the things that make you strong,
You can't change the past,
Cause it's gone,
And you just gotta move on,
Because it's all,
Lessons learned.

[Chorus:]
And every tear that had to fall from my eyes,
Everyday I wondered how I'd get through the night,
Every change, life has thrown me,
I'm thankful, for every break in my heart,
I'm grateful, for every scar,
Some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were lessons learned,
Oh, some pages turned,
Some bridges burned,
But there were lessons learned,
Lessons learned.

~*~*~*~*~

Your Princess Ivy always....









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Comments:
kattsmeow

Jan 6 @ 11:26PM  
missliss78

Jan 6 @ 11:26PM  
Such a beautiful blog.
I hate to be the first to comment on it, but I must.
I am so sorry.
I don't know either of you, but my heart bleeds for you & what might could have been. Godspeed you both......
Empath

Jan 6 @ 11:37PM  
Noooooooooooooooooooo

Pali, say it isn't so!!!

Hugs to both of you!!!!
Snappygoddess

Jan 6 @ 11:51PM  
Oh no...I am so sorry it hasn't worked out for you

Nothing I can say will make the pain any more bearable.. please know my heart hurts for you both
azgirl701

Jan 7 @ 12:09AM  
sounds like what my boyfriends said to me men sucks you give them your heart and soul and they step on it lie nothing
SallyF

Jan 7 @ 12:52AM  
What a beautiful tribute to the time and love you shared. I'm so sorry.
beckyiv42000

Jan 7 @ 12:55AM  
ToucherinSparks

Jan 7 @ 1:10AM  
Oh gee, I just found out about this. I'm so sorry for you and Robo. I know how impossible it seems to deal with the distance and US/Canada problem. That Canada stuff makes me want to pull my hair out sometimes. I'm really sorry that it was too much for you two, but I do understand.

Best of luck to you both.
JChic515

Jan 7 @ 1:11AM  
I don't know you but I feel your pain. My mom always told me everyone we meet comes into our lives for one reason or another and if you can look back at the time spent with that person and remember even one fond memory then that person was worth knowing if even only for that small piece of time.
sweet5red

Jan 7 @ 1:24AM  
im sorry
pali...


Artist: Krauss Alison
Song: Every Time You Say Goodbye

Look at the sky baby
What do you see?
Looks like the tears that I cry
Fallin' down like rain on the ground
Every time you say goodbye

Take a look around now
Why don't you feel
The way that cold wind stings and bites
And your words just are like arrows through my heart
Every time you say goodbye

There's a restless feeling knocking at my door today
There's a shadow hanging 'round my garden gate
I read between the lines of words you can't disguise
Love has gone away, and put these tears in my eyes

Look at the sky baby, see how it cries?
Ain't it just like my tears
Fallin' down like rain on the ground
Every time you say goodbye

There's a restless feeling knocking at my door today
There's a shadow hanging 'round my garden gate
I read between the lines of words you can't disguise
Love has gone away, and put these tears in my eyes

There's a restless feeling knocking at my door today
There's a shadow hanging 'round my garden gate
I read between the lines of words you can't disguise
Love has gone away, and put these tears in my eyes

mystery2u888

Jan 7 @ 2:28AM  
Pali, I am so sorry .........I feel your pain.... .....I know your pain.. ...and I am always going to be here for you......




love you girlfriend.........you know all you have to do is reach out to me and I am here.... xoxo




PrettyGreenEyes578

Jan 7 @ 4:43AM  
Hugs to you my friend.

SpiritEnergy

Jan 7 @ 5:15AM  
Annie_Girl

Jan 7 @ 5:39AM  
Pali....I'm sorry it had to end...but what a way to end a relationship...by still loving him but loving yourself enough to know when to say "enough."

As a true romantic, I always wonder WHY NOT. What a shame.
Skydognc

Jan 7 @ 5:48AM  
dammit Palimino !

what am I gonna do wit you !

That kinda love comes once in a lifetime! some people spend their whole life searching and never finding it.

distance is hard, but not impossible. To at least have the one you love , in your thoughts at night, is better than to not have love........ just a thought !

all I can say is, I waited my whole life for mt Feetz. If we were still oceans apart, I would still wait for her. The best in life, takes time, patience, and endurance.

I wish you would reconsider, and I am so very sorry this happened, for both of you !

Sky....


luvshorses644

Jan 7 @ 6:25AM  
Pali... lady...

I've felt the pain of distance with relationships and I understand what type of strain and stress that can put on anyone.

I also believe in what JChic stated that everyone comes into our lives for a reason. The two of you shared a love that will still live on. What a tribute to your hearts. And there are no words that I can say that will take away the hurt, but knowing when to say goodbye is never easy, but sometimes must be done.

It is a lovely thing to have had a love like you both shared for the time you did, some never know this type. I will pray that the pain you feel gets less each day.

I am sorry...
luvmycats

Jan 7 @ 6:35AM  
Oh Pali. I am only just beginning to understand all you two had to go through with the distance. Fortunately we don't have to deal with borders.

My heart goes out to you dear one.
sciurusniger

Jan 7 @ 7:23AM  
blkfoot1954

Jan 7 @ 8:24AM  
I am so sorry..I wish you both could have been together..Distance can be so hard,but then the the borders also..Hugsssssssss to you and the man you love.
Loreli

Jan 7 @ 9:35AM  
My heart breaks for both of you.
I wish you both the best....maybe even rethinking this.

But you know what's best.
My shoulder is here if you need one.
EternalFlame

Jan 7 @ 11:34AM  
Oh god Pali...I'm so sorry...and I know what you're going thru...more than you know!

Take care of you

misschoos

Jan 7 @ 11:53AM  
honesty2laughter

Jan 7 @ 12:42PM  
Pal
Goodbye's are not always Hello's are not always But God is always God.May he bless the both of you.Whatever road you he choose to travel.My prayers are that God will guide you both.Hand 2 Hand,Heart 2 Heart,Memories 2 Memories.But always Love 2 Love God Bless G/F
lacyvsq

Jan 7 @ 1:40PM  
Aww Pali...I am so sorry! But I want to echo Annie and say what a beautiful way to say goodbye. Take good care of yourself!
lacyvsq

Jan 7 @ 1:40PM  
Aww Pali...I am so sorry! But I want to echo Annie and say what a beautiful way to say goodbye. Take good care of yourself!
Winelover

Jan 7 @ 3:12PM  
I'm so sorry to hear this Pali ! hopefully something will happen in the future to bring you two back together without all the heartache.
ol_hillbilly

Jan 7 @ 4:56PM  
Damn! I was really hopin youd finally found that, which you so much deserve.

Hugs,
Luckygem

Jan 7 @ 6:30PM  
My HEART is hurting for both of you, I know that this was very hard for you to do, you are a very warm, caring and loving person...........
PullMyFinger

Jan 7 @ 10:04PM  
That's rough Pali....I do hope both of you work through this and find happiness.

Sloan

Jan 8 @ 2:50AM  
Aww Pali, I'm sorry to hear about you and Robo. I would probably have done the same, but I suppose I'm far more cynical and bitter than you. LoL.

Did it at least end on good terms?? (Other than the heartbreak, anyway??)
SunBabe

Jan 8 @ 3:21AM  
You've both learned what it is to truly love and be loved. That is a treasure no one can ever take away from either of you -- ever.
unionman154

Jan 8 @ 11:45AM  
No love is ever wasted. I wish the best for you.
Heaveninawildflower

Jan 8 @ 7:01PM  
Aw Pali, I'm so sorry for you both...I hope you both find a good place someday, however it happens.

EternalFlame

Jan 9 @ 1:46AM  
Pali, please read the email I sent you a couple of days ago.
Palomino

Jan 9 @ 2:29AM  
I want to thank everyone for the nice comments. I'm sorry for not replying earlier or writing back in email, but I just haven't been able to do that just yet. I will hopefully be able to write soon.

RoboBabe. I know you've read this and though we haven't talked since you got home, please know that I love you and so wish it would have worked out. Be happy, my love.
carpediem48

Jan 9 @ 2:55AM  
Pali
Why do I feel that where there is till a love 'connection' that it 'isn't' over
How 'I' feel is not necessarily relevant,,,and I don't know where this 'feeling' is coming from
More hugs for you both
AvalancheBlonde

Jan 9 @ 8:55PM  
Oh dear Pali,

I am so sad for you. I hate to read this, just know that we all are praying the pain will ease for you and that you guys can work through it all.

Palomino

Jan 10 @ 7:44PM  
"I Need You Tonight" ~ Backstreet Boys

Open up your heart to me
And say what's on your mind, oh yes
I know that we have been through so much pain
But I still need you in my life this time

And I need you tonight
I need you right now
I know deep within my heart
It doesn't matter if it's wrong or right
I really need you tonight

I figured out what to say to you
But sometimes the words they,
they come out so wrong, always they do
And I know in time that you will understand
That what we have is so right this time

And I need you tonight
I need you right now
I know deep within my heart
It doesn't matter if it's wrong or right

All those endless times we tried to make it last forever more
And baby I know
I need you
I know deep within my heart
It doesn't matter if it's wrong or right
I really need you, oh

I need you tonight (I need you, oh I need you baby)
I need you right now (It's gotta be this, it's gotta be this)
I know deep within my heart
No, it doesn't matter if it's wrong or it's right
All I know is baby
I really need you tonight
carpediem48

Jan 12 @ 1:34AM  
Sometimes the other person IS right for you
Sometimes what IS wrong has nothing to do with the the 'rightness'
between two people

So many times when I've heard couples respond to a comment about how great it is that they are 'still' together they immediately respond with this comment,,,,,"It hasn't been all 'easy',,,we've had our tough times"

The couple's who ARE right for each other are the ones who deal with
the 'other' stuff that's 'wrong'
signme

Jan 12 @ 6:41PM  
Oh Pali--I'm so so sorry Sweetie. Please know that there are many of us here who care for you and feel the pain you are going through. We are here for you.
Palomino

Jan 13 @ 7:12AM  
A good friend on here told me to rely on my friends when I am hurting like I was. I told him that I didn't want to bother people with my problems...that I could get through them soon enough. But you know what? He was right. I did need the support of my friends here. If not for you all that commented, wrote, called or listened to me vent; I might surely have lost my mind. I also had the support of my family and my mom who let me cry my heart out on her shoulders. She even told me to call Robo and tell him that I had changed my mind...that she knew I was strong enough to wait for him.

I did not write this blog to garner attention or sympathy, as some may think. I wrote this blog because I am a VERY emotional person and I couldn't think of another way to vent my anger and pain but to create this tribute to a love that I gave up on. It didn't make the pain any less, after all, but I did receive the support of so many good people on this site. For that I am truly blessed. Katt, Becks, Sunny, Lacey and Soli...thank you for the phone calls. Katy, thanks for trying to reach me, but you know how that goes...as per your latest blog. Skydog and Carpe...thanks for the kick in the pants that I needed and Spirit for the "push". ;) EF...I'm still going to make that call! :)

Now I'm not going to get any sappier and start naming everyone that I wrote back and forth with here and on another message board...people that helped me up or calmed me down and naming everyone who was so nice in their comments on this blog. That would make this reply even sillier because you all know who you are and how much you are loved.

I would hope that no one would be afraid to air their emotions on their blogs for fear of looking for "sympathy points". Honestly...who really WANTS that? I didn't. I needed help and support and that's what I found here. I was in such pain that I thought I would truly die of a broken heart. If it weren't for my religious beliefs I may have even contemplated some other way to avoid the heartbreak. So it makes me sad to think that someone else would blog about "gaining sympathy votes"...or whatever the exact words were. People come here for help quite often and we should all be ready to lend an ear and give support.

Annnnyway...what I discovered this week was that although I have such good friends to help me through rough times, it was my very best friend that I needed to talk to the most...and I had told him to never call me again. So I swallowed my pride and I called him. (Thanks Mom) I realized that I could be alone and miserable for the rest of my life or I could be alone yet loving a wonderful man that I could still talk to on the phone. Because although I don't have his arms around me, I can still feel his love from a distance. (Thank you Charli)

So yes, I'll try again to wait for you Robo. No, I'm still not strong without you. And yes I'm sure I'll shed a lot more tears, pout and throw hissy fits because you're not here. But you've put up with it for this long, I think you might love me enough to put up with it awhile longer. I know it hasn't been easy for either of us but I believe in our love.

Lessons Learned ~ Hello



luvmycats

Jan 13 @ 8:14AM  
Again, I know what you speak of. All of my early blogs were about my heart ache. I wasn't looking for sympathy either, just support. I got it too, just as you knew you would. MOST people here do have a heart and understand, to the rest of them...

I am so glad you and Robo are giving it another go. Like others have said, that special love only comes around once in a lifetime and we have to Grab Hold of it and not let go.

carpediem48

Jan 13 @ 8:28AM  


BY GEORGE,,I THINK SHE'S
GOT IT

Loreli

Jan 13 @ 9:04AM  

And, we'll all be strong for you, with you!
sciurusniger

Jan 13 @ 9:53AM  
If something is meant to be, it will be. But no one ever said it comes easily.

Blogs ARE a place to "vent", to put thoughts into words. If we wish, we can get other's thoughts and ideas; support or kicks in the butt. Sometimes a stranger's eyes see what we can't. All goodness in my book.

Life is an ever-changing experience so what is felt one day may not last. There is nothing wrong with that, surely it is part of the learning.

I'm sorry some may see the dark night of the soul of another as merely a ploy for sympathy. Perhaps it is, in a way, but what would this world be for any of us without the support of others?

I hope things work out for you.

kattsmeow

Jan 13 @ 11:24AM  
Bless you and Robo Pal. You know both of you were in my thoughts and prayers.

Hey, Did you notice I was a good girl, and sat back and waited to see what would happen? Do I get prize?

I am joking of course.

I also understand how things change in a heart beat. I also am one of those people that go on emotional roller coasters. It is ok,,,,it is called life.
Classy_Blonde

Jan 13 @ 11:37AM  
I knew it was just a matter of time, but since you have outwardly talked to all of us, I am going to voice my thoughts here too.

I think you and I are alike in more ways than just our wanderlust. We are both very open and honest. I know there are those who feel we should not air our laundry in public. I tend to think others learn from what we reveal. We also learn from the feedback we get. Maybe we do need to do a self check. Maybe we are out of line. However, maybe what we are going through is valid. Sciur brought up a good point. Sometimes we do pity others. We hurt for them. We pray for their deliverance from whatever it is that is tormenting them. We are friends here, and we share our triumphs and our failures.

This is my concern. No one doubts your love for one another, but one of you is going to have to bite the bullet (IMHO), or you are going to end up traveling down this road again. No matter who decides to pull up roots, sacrifices will be made. That is a given. Don't sit on the fence. Make arrangements, pack your bags, and do what you need to do. We can all make excuses until the cows come home.

I know I am being pretty direct, but it makes me sad to see you both hurting. I don't want to be here, in the future, feeling hurt for you again. My moving comment is not directed to anyone in particular. I'm saying ONE of you needs to make a geographical move. You two need to decide which one.

I'm saying this in love, to you both.
tahoma

Jan 13 @ 5:14PM  
Yippee!!!!! Pali hasn't given up on LOVE!!!!!!! I couldn't be happier that you have come to realize that your one true love is indeed worth both waiting for and fighting for. I know you have it in you to be strong and you know you have the most supportive group of friends a girl could want. Hold on to your heart and call that man while you are in bed, just before you go to sleep, and you will feel the warmth of his love embrace you just as if he were there.

I'm rooting for you
carpediem48

Jan 13 @ 9:04PM  
I'm thinking of that song,,,,,

When I need you
I just??????and I'm near you
Then there's a line about,,,,'miles and miles'

Does anybody know the song I'm talking about???
It's an oldie but a 'goodie'

Sometimes we have to actually take the 'detour' to 'experience'
that we need to 'backtrack' to the 'main' road again

I'm thinking of the kid in the backseat who keeps wondering,,,,
"Are we there yet????"

You guys may not be 'there' yet,,,,re a 'geographical' destination,,,,but
If you are both in the 'same vehicle' ,,,you will be

Sweetheart83446

Jan 14 @ 12:06AM  
I just saw this blog and I was devastated. And then I read the comments and then i was happy...

Dang you for making me go on this emotional rollercoaster.

Pali, good luck to you both. You are both awesome people and I know...happiness will find you both.
missliss78

Jan 14 @ 7:03PM  
Tears of happiness!

If something is meant to be, it will be. But no one ever said it comes easily.

Wishing you BOTH the absolute best!

While here, I'm reminded of a couple of lines from an old .38Special song....

You see it all around you
Good lovin' gone bad
And usually it's too late when you, realize what you had.........

Just Hold On Loosely, but don't let go
If you cling to tightly,
you're gonna lose control
SpiritEnergy

Jan 14 @ 9:39PM  
Whew! "Spiritual KICK!" (Yall both need a lil EXTRA push.) Oh, some NEW chit has been coming up lately. I will just whisper to Spirit that yall just MIGHT want some more work done in that Accomplishment block that has been goin around. You know, sort of like a virus, gets ya DOWN! "Spiritual KICK!" Clear all the old stuff, the new stuff and...cross check, wrap up, mop up.
AngelLight

Jan 14 @ 10:00PM  
We love you Pali

Anything you need, you just let anyone of us know.....

AngelLight
redtigr

Jan 14 @ 10:37PM  
I just want to add my best wishes to you both. So many of us are rooting for you!!
honesty2laughter

Jan 16 @ 2:15AM  
~A~ just a lil of my 2cents.Now we all know Crying Wolf means lieing about what has or is happening in ones life ect Must be real bad to know the hurt for others and have it not bother you at all.But even more important.To cry Wolf in all honesty and have no one come my Mother used to say.Hate is as hate does.Mean is as mean does ugly is as ugly does.I'am happy to be among all these people who anytime you CRY WOLF i'l be there.

American Idol started out with a Bang

As always God Bless
Palomino

Jan 16 @ 7:19AM  
Well, H2L, I wasn't crying wolf because I wasn't lying. We did say our "final" goodbyes at the airport. I was certain that I couldn't go through the emotional turmoil anymore of an LDR, so I ended it. As the days went by, I realized how much worse it was to know that I would never see him again or hear his voice on the phone. So I didn't cry wolf. I made a wrong decision that hurt us so badly that I had to vent it here on a blog. When we realized that we should try again, I thought it best to correct that decision on this blog, as well.

I know what you meant though, girlfriend, and thank you. The blog also was not a ploy for sympathy. It was a purging of my soul and yes...I was feeling sorry for MYSELF. Selfish, yes...but sometimes that what it takes to heal. Also, there are a lot of LDRs on this site. Perhaps this blog can give some insight to the insanity that some of those relationships can cause.

Yes, Classy. One of us has to move and that has pretty much been decided. It will be awhile yet, though. So if I "freak out" again on another blog...feel free to slap some sense in me!
cars58

Jan 29 @ 9:57AM  
Remember that a little love goes a long way.
Remember that a lot... goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment.
Life's treasures are people... together.
Realize that it's never too late.
Do ordinary things in an extraordinary way.
Have health and hope and happiness.
Take the time to wish upon a star.
And don't ever forget... for even a day...
How very special you are to ME AND US,
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