If you email me and ask a question, prepare for the eventuality that it will be answered.
This is not a guarantee that I will answer, just a warning that, if you ask a question, I might answer it.
Therefore, it is your job, not mine, to make sure that you are fully equipped to deal with whatever the answer is. I shall try not to be rude, but I shall be honest.
So, if the question is "Why don't you give me your email address?" and you are a person I have yet to even have more than the one, demanding, email from, then the answer is going to be something like this:
I do not give out my email address to people whom I don't know at all. I'd be glad to email with you on this site, though, to see if we click.
Or, perhaps, it will be more like this:
Because I am here, on Matchdoctor.com, to meet people. Not to go someplace else to meet them there. I have blogs and forum posts and a profile and pictures on here, to help people decide if they want to know me and in what sort of way, too.
That's the whole reason for being here, right? So, I intend to use it.
These are very polite ways of answering a person who has made a sudden and unwarranted breach of etiquette by starting out an acquaintanceship with demanding to know the sort of information that people are wise not to give out at every turn.
What you should be, is grateful that I was so polite despite the rude fashion in which you approached me. What you should not be is retaliatory, acting as if I am the one who did something wrong, and engaging in insulting behavior regarding my age, race, weight, sex, ID, or etc.
You asked a question, I gave you an answer. It is up to you to figure out if you can live with that answer and if I am worth your time, even so. If I am not, simply because I won't give you more personal information immediately, then it only serves to prove that I was right not to give you my email address to begin with. It helped us to learn how unsuited we are, in temperament, even faster than we might have otherwise.
That being said, there are many fine books on etiquette, social skills training, manners, etc. at your local library. Or, if they do not have them, perhaps you could say please, and thank you, at the right librarian, in just such a manner that he or she would be moved to order them for you, especially.
Have a nice day!
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donny3
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Jan 14 @ 4:55PM
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Ok ............I understand
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A_TRAMP
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Jan 14 @ 4:56PM
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WELL SAID 
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jan 14 @ 4:59PM
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Thank you A_Tramp! I love that ID lol
donny3??? I hope you don't think that was about you. Because, uhm, as far as I remember, it wouldn't be.
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EmmeS61
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Jan 14 @ 5:00PM
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I am often tempted to use the predefined responses but I want to use "choose from this list" and let them pick the one they like best!
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jan 14 @ 5:11PM
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I am often tempted to use the predefined responses but I want to use "choose from this list" and let them pick the one they like best!
LOL I tried that on another site, in their forum, as I was tired of harassing emails, so I posted a general post that gave a list of come-backs, answers, etc. to the things that they kept saying to me, and I told them that from now on they could save us all trouble by simply choosing whichever one they thought most suitable.
Cowardly little fiends went and told lies to the Mods and to my friend, saying I was attacking them, etc. It was an ugly, ugly mess.
This is why I stick with MD, for the Mods are not perfect (sorry Mods, but it's true) but they don't generally join in ganging up on people just because someone else started it. lol
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Lylak
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Jan 14 @ 5:11PM
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Well said & I think u did exactly what should have been done, in those circumstannces. U were very honest, 2 the point & polite, IMHO.  
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jan 14 @ 5:13PM
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U were very honest, 2 the point & polite, IMHO
I like YHO lol
Thank you
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stormbringer99
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Jan 14 @ 5:31PM
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I agree!
I never give out my email until I feel comfortable with that. I go by my timetable not anyone else’s if they don’t like it they don’t have to continue to write me simple solution.
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jan 14 @ 5:38PM
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I never give out my email until I feel comfortable with that. I go by my timetable not anyone else’s if they don’t like it they don’t have to continue to write me simple solution.
I know, right? It's amazing how many people get so jacked up, like it's a personal insult, if you don't want to give them your email address right away; sometimes it's even more, with demands for a phone number and name and pictures, etc.
You know what? I wouldn't even want to date someone that moved that fast, to begin with. I wouldn't trust them alone with my kids, wallet, stove, etc. It screams out "no impulse control" to me.
I mean, the people who first can't handle waiting and then act attacked if you "try to make them" wait. *sigh* I have met people I wanted to know more about immediately and it is hard to wait. But, a little anticipation can be a wonderful thing, once fulfilled.
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SweetCindy957
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Jan 14 @ 5:58PM
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Well said! Let me add that if you do not have a photo on the site, you have not really filled anything out giving me a clue of what you want out of life, other than "an honest woman" and you live half way around the world, don't push your request! When I politely say I am not interested in a long distance relationship, and wish you good luck in your search, what else would you possible need to know? If you do have a photo and your photo does not resemble what you describe, then don't push it! When your profile says you are interested only in chatting on line, well, that is not what I want. If you don't like my answer, OK, then go bug someone else. Your opinion of my looks, my religion, my age, and what ever you think concerning me, is UNIMPORTANT to me! Keep it to yourself! If I was interested in chatting half way around the world, I'd have sent you the information you requested. So, HopelesslyHopeful, I am in full agreement with you! If these people can't stand to hear the polite truth, then they should figure out how to post a photo and fill out the profile!
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Sugar_Lee
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Jan 14 @ 6:01PM
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I just delete no patience...kudos to you!
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georgiapeach42
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Jan 14 @ 6:54PM
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I tell to get a freakin life
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georgiapeach42
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Jan 14 @ 9:19PM
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i got this one today
Hi there ! I'm *****.I ended a long term relationship a while back and now I am looking for a serious lady to start dating again! I want to have lots of fun and I think you might be the right person to get me back into the game. I was browsing ads and really liked yours. I want to know some more! A little about me: I'm adventurous, kind and good-looking. I like watching movies,sports event, shopping and cooking...If you want to know some more, just get back to me. Don't reply to this message directly, cause i'm new to this account. Please use my email address (***********@yahoo.com)instead .... You can also chat with me on this same id.....
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