Never been on a date .... posted 1/16/2008 6:56:44 PM | 1 kudo what's this?     report abuse tagged: perspective, dating, romance, reality

HopelesslyHopeful

Someone who shall remain nameless, but was exceedingly annoying this morning, brought up that I had never had a date, wrote it as if "Oh, I'm so surprised" and then told me he was lying, more or less. It was very odd.

Got me to thinking, though, how much we assume things based on a very short statement. Does me never having had a date, for instance, sound to you like I was at home, all alone? Does it make you think of dusty old librarian spinster types? Was I pining and crying, wishing that I could be attractive to someone, oh just anyone, and not have to be alone in this cold miserable world? ... I ask, rhetorically.

I know it does to some people, and apparently it did to him. But, I have four children! I have mentioned the lover I had during my teenage years who still tells me I am his favorite fantasy, both past and present. So, how do those things fit in with the other things.

The fact is that I never had a date because I've always been more the type of person to spend time with friends. If one of those friends becomes something more than that, well, we already know each other, been out to eat, still go out to eat, etc. But, it's not a date! It's just life, with a slight alteration.

I've gone to dinner with people, I've had parties thrown in my honor, I have organized and helped organize social events of various natures, I was in a band and I did modeling and I was worshipped both from afar and from anear. I've gone to movies, I've gone on walks, I've had sex with people, I've had lovers I went to visit and I had lovers who visited me; I had live in lovers, I had a husband, I had people I would go out to "run into" that were looking to "run into" me too, because we loved to dance together. I have been in love, I have been loved .. though unfortunately, not with/by the same people, mostly at all. lol I get proposed to fairly regularly and I get asked out a lot, both online and offline in "real life".

I just have never been on a date!

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