A lot of bisexuals and homosexuals talk about "gay rights", but the fact is, it's not about special interests...it's about human rights.
Do you really, honestly believe that a bisexual or homosexual person is any different from you? Are you that indoctrinated by your religion or your upbringing to believe that we don't love, feel, or even f***ing bleed the same way you do?
You know what, that's not the issue, because no matter how far we advance in society, there's still going to be stupid people who believe that just because someone doesn't f*** the opposite sex, or doesn't prefer either sex, they're a different person and don't deserve the same rights.
Did you know that we fall in love? Did you know we fall deeply in love, and we're able to love, and to care, and to want and care for and love children the same way you do? Did you know that we hurt, and we feel happiness, and we cry and we laugh? Did you know we think about more than sex, or do you believe that f***ing lie? Do you know we have bad hair days, and do you know we have the same problems you do?
The issue is that we're not protected from people like you who don't know these things...and would seek to not include us in society (you're allowed to not hire us if you know we're gay or bi...can you imagine being turned down for a job if your potential employer knew you were straight?) or hurt us. The issue also is that we're not allowed to marry the loves of our lives in a lot of states, and we're not allowed to have children in a lot of states the way you are, because there's people who seek to push their morals and their "values" on everybody else.
Put yourself in this position:
You aren't allowed to marry your opposite sex partner, and he or she is on his or her deathbed.
You aren't allowed into the room to say goodbye. The hospital basically tells you to go f*** yourself. And society has no sympathy, because apparently who you are (which you can't control...a lot of you say you can't control that you're straight, and it's the same way with us) is immoral and unacceptable.
That's what we have to face.
All of this is what we have to face.
Because of freaking Leviticus, and Saddam and Gommorah, or however you spell them. The truth is, I don't care, because they have no relevance in my life, and should have no relevance in policymaking.
I bleed the same colour as you people...and so do the rest of us.
And no, I won't try to improve my attitude.
My sister is sick as hell and I'm just a bit on edge....
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diverdown512
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Jan 17 @ 8:07PM
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It's funny that homosexuality is mentioned once or twice, if at all, in the New Testament, while judging other people shows up on every other page. But so many people have no problem whatsoever in judging everyone else. They must think God is just kidding about judging. I know they think that they could do a better job than God did with Creation. Certain groups of people must have been mistakes...
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PullMyFinger
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Jan 17 @ 8:20PM
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Ya know, being a white heterosexual male and COMPLETELY comfortable with my OBVIOUS masculinity....when younger and full of shit...ok, fuller of shit...I did have that preconception that gays were somehow....less than or leaning a little left of center. It wasn't until later in life where I LEARNED the lesson you so eloquently gifted us with here. I also learned to like broccoli about the same time, and cauliflower, and brussel sprouts. Every one of those lessons in one way or another improved my wonderfully fabulous life.
Now, whenever you bring religion into anything, you're bound to get a ton of whack-jobs drooling all over themselves, I think they learn to be that way when attending ReligiousBigotryU. I'm guessing they'd die to have another crusade....maybe we'd get lucky.
Kudos, well written. I certainly hope your sister is better and wouldn't wish her to be ill anymore, but if we can figure something out to where you can get on edge more often without worrying about ill siblings, I'm all for it. I like this edgy thing.
You write better than people twice....three times your age.
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honeybear285
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Jan 17 @ 8:20PM
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A person should be accepted and judged on who they are...the goodness within their hearts.....sexual preferences should play no part in how a person is treated.....oops, let me take that back....most sexual preferences should play no part in how a person is treated......one exception would be child predators.....but we won't go there.
LGQ.....I think you are a good person....your blogs, comments are well-written and well thought out....you show compassion, respect, and knowledge.....
You are just fine the way you are....don't even try to change, be true to yourself.....and don't give a rat's ass about the others.
Peace and Love
Honeybear
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Danishandy
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Jan 17 @ 8:32PM
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i hate it when people treat me different.......just because I am a lesbian......  
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comfortablynumb
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Jan 17 @ 8:32PM
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i say let gays marry just don't let them divorce
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CHARLIgurl1
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Jan 17 @ 8:34PM
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One of my best friends is a Lesbian.. we've been friends for over 20 years.. and Ive seen the difficulties she's faced.
In a Pub in England, I could openly show affection to my boyfriend, but she could only smile at her partner for the fear of being thrown out.
Society itself is run on what the major faiths and governments think is 'right'.. whatever 'right can be defined as.
She even over 20 years ago had sex with a man to have a child, because she knew that adopting thru the normal channels would be more than difficult.
She's one of the nicest people I know, and has brought her daughter up with more love than some hetrosexuals I know.
The problem is.. that change isnt something that people like. Especially for things like this.. they have been raised with generations of people.. family.. church.. and schools.. telling them what IS right.
We're all conditioned in one way or another. What one will accept freely, another will condem.
We are all humans, its not the people that are to blame, its the system and generations of it.
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eastham
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Jan 17 @ 8:47PM
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For all of the crying in certain quarters about the "marriage penalty", there are over 4,000 provisions in federal law, especially the tax code, that benefit married people.
Britney Spears could have bought her first husband (that marriage lasted 2 days) a Rolls Royce and under the tax code, he'd never have to pay a cent in gift tax. A gay couple could be together for 20 years, and if one partner gave the other a Honda Civic, the recipient would have to pay the gift tax as if they were strangers.
This is wrong.
In our country, marriage is both a civil and a religious state. They have two different sets of criteria. Just because you are eligible to be married by one, doesn't mean you meet the criteria of another. Divorced individuals are free to marry under civil law, but are not automatically allowed in marry in Catholic or Orthodox churches, unless certain criteria are met. Conversely, there are churches and synogagues that have performed blessing ceremonies for gay couples.
When the Commonwealth of Massachusetts changed its laws to permit gay marriage, that change did not mandate that every gay couple that wished to be married in any church had that right. Evangelical, Catholic, Lutheran, etc churches that wished to ban gay weddings still had every right to do so. On the one year anniversary of the adoption of the gay marriage amendment, a state senator who had vehemently opposed gay marriage, Senator Tumulty, held a press conference and had the grace to admit he was wrong. The world didn't end and a good number of Massachusetts' children now had loving and legal homes. He asked the people of Massachusetts to forgive him and they did. Would that there were more people in this world would have the grace to admit when they were wrong.
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diceknight
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Jan 17 @ 8:50PM
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There's a lot more reasons to hate someone other than their sexuality. People are a pretty despicable sort of creature, if you look hard enough you can find thousands of other valid reasons to wish they were dead.
Oh, and guys? Stop thinking it's cute and funny to call yourself a lesbian. It's not cute, and it's not funny. At all. It's moronic. Duhhh, we get it, you like women. You think you're making clever wordplay and reinforcing the fact that you're available to any listening women. You're not. Stop it. You're annoying.
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HopelesslyHopeful
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Jan 17 @ 8:50PM
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*ahem* I completely disagree with you, except on the parts that I agree with you about.
Or, is it that I completely agree with you, except on the parts that I disagree with you about?
Anyway, I don't think it should be any part of policy making and I don't think it shows a lack of certain values that would matter more to other people, like, say, adultery. Of course, there are a lot of adulterous homosexuals and bisexuals in the world, because they are married to one sex and cheating on them with the other, but, still: adultery is a different issue.
I wouldn't hire or not hire someone based on their sexual orientation unless I thought it was one that was likely to harm others in a very real, right on the spot, sort of way: rapists, child molesters, adulterers, animal abusers, etc. and I would not refuse to work with them based on that, either.
But, I do believe there are very good reasons not to be homosexual or bisexual, just as I believe there are good reasons not to be an adulterer or anything else that is considered to be a sin of that nature. I also believe that everyone has a choice. Please, a lot of sex goes on in jails between "heterosexuals" so obviously, if they don't have their first choice, they'll take what they can get. If it goes one way, it goes the other too. Everyone has preferences.. some people get over them and some people choose to swing with them.
To say that society has no sympathy for persons that suffer, is a little strong though. I don't like homosexuality, I don't like bisexuality, but if I see a man standing there wishing he could say goodbye to someone he loves I don't go "Oh gee, but he's gay: he's faking that emotion!" and most hospitals do let relatives in. They don't check birth certificates, marriage licenses, etc. So, since sins don't matter, how hard is it to say "He's my brother." They let my neighbors nephew in to see him when he was dying from AIDS and my daughter went with him.
That hospital had no issues that the man was gay, but they sure treated him badly for being poor!
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eastham
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Jan 17 @ 8:59PM
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I wouldn't hire or not hire someone based on their sexual orientation unless I thought it was one that was likely to harm others in a very real, right on the spot, sort of way: rapists, child molesters, adulterers, animal abusers, etc. and I would not refuse to work with them based on that, either.
Sexual predation is not tied to one preference over another. Indeed there are far more men preying on little girls than on little boys.
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LipGlossQueen9
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Jan 17 @ 9:01PM
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Diceknight is right.
Men, when you do this, don't you realise you are being inherently sexist and subconsciously taking away the exclusivity of a woman's right to the title of "lesbian"? Yeah, you're gonna laugh, but it's because you don't even realise you're doing it.
It's not funny, in fact, it makes you look sexist, uneducated, and stupid.
I would never even give a man the time of day who called himself a "Lesbian".
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CHARLIgurl1
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Jan 17 @ 9:05PM
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If a man told me he was a 'Lesbian'.. I'd ask him.. "And what part of Lesbania are you from?"
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diceknight
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Jan 17 @ 9:13PM
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Queers,
Go to Hell.
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Sweetheart83446
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Jan 17 @ 9:14PM
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babydoll1970
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Jan 17 @ 9:15PM
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I say to each their own... No matter who a person loves, they still love.. I like a person for how they treat other people and not who they prefer to date.. Two of my best friends are "an item" --one recently switched-- and I wouldn't trade either of them for the world..
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eButterfly8
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Jan 17 @ 9:18PM
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Separation of Church and State doesn't exist anymore, it's sickening.
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iam7545
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Jan 18 @ 1:13AM
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lgq - great blog!
Being a child of the 60's - peace, love, jazz - all that -  I have always been open minded about gays. At first it was to be cool. As time went on I never found any reason not to be accepting.
I remember the first time the REAL issues hit me. Jodi, a lesbian and good friend from high school invited me to a party many moons ago. I didn't read the whole silly invitation - just the part about food. time and bring a date. So I took a date and of course I told her that Jodi was gay. I figured it was just a party 
Well this PARTY was a "fertility" party. Everyone there was Gay but me and my date Nicki. There was a Minister that performed a faux marriage ceremony and then passed around this weird object. All of Jodis friends passed on blessings as she and her partner Joan were trying to have a Baby via artificial insemination. Kinda like the Woody Allen flick SLEEPER!
As the "object" made its way to me I began to feel weird. I didn't have much time to weigh the issue and intellectualize it.
What happened was this. I looked at my lifelong friend Jodi, then I looked into her eyes. I thought about what a great woman she was and what a great friend she always was. I wanted her to be happy!
It hit me - there was no issue here. At all.
The object was a huge freakin clay RABBIT! I held it and from the bottom of my heart wished them all of the best.
I was glad no one took a picture of me holding that FREAKIN RABBIT!
kudos LGQ - Be happy my friend!
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EmmeS61
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Jan 18 @ 9:42PM
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Love is love, I don't have a problem with it either way. Have a cousin who killed himself at 22 because he couldn't deal with the homophobia out there. I am sure there are those who would say "good". As for me, I would like to see a more accepting world. Don't have to agree, just tolerate.
You are who you are, be confident and proud 
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misschoos
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Mar 22 @ 5:29PM
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You aren't allowed to marry your opposite sex partner,
You are allowed to in the UK, it's called a 'civil partnership'
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/7274505.stm
As for sexuality, I don't think it's an issue to be aired. Everyone has one.
I sat in bar one night on a Spanish island with two lesbians, and one
of the people they had met approached me and said 'are you a lesbian too?'
I said 'excuse me? wtf is my sexuality to do with you?'
He was none the wiser, quite taken aback in fact.
you're allowed to not hire us if you know we're gay or bi That is not an issue here either.
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onoudn
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Mar 22 @ 6:09PM
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Maybe if they allowed people to marry each other according to whether they loved each other or not----and the government go out our of the business of regulating how we feel about each other, the divorce rate might actually have more successful marriages.
Great blog.....and I wish you well girl.
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onoudn
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Mar 22 @ 6:12PM
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What in tarnation..... please edit the first post.....went out when I meant to cancel and re-type.....I got a a little excited...
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