Am I the last man alive who has not been divorced? Ok, so maybe that statement is a little far-fetched. Or is it? According to the website of National Center for Health Statistics(NCHS), in the year of 2005, 2,230,000 couples got married. To break this down, 7.5 people out of every 1,000 got married. In that same year, 3.6 people out of every 1,000 got divorced. That is nearly a 50% divorce rate. If you people think this is high, imagine what the divorce rate is here on Matchdoctor? HAHA, ok, maybe that was a bad joke.
Alright, so these numbers seem to be a little high to me so I wanted another source. So I went to Divorce Guide.com to see what were their numbers like. This is their statistics;
The current US divorce rate is approximately 50% of marriages. That is, about 1 in 2 marriages can be expected to end in divorce proceedings. Approximately 60% of the American population is married, and as many as half of these marriages will last at least 15 years. The median length of a marriage that ends in divorce in the United States is a little under 8 years. It is estimated that on average, it takes a full year between divorce proceedings beginning and the court granting the petition. Approximately 20 million Americans are currently divorced.
This website also gave the top 10 reasons for divorce, and they are;
1. Infidelity - It says that 1/3 of all divorces end for this reason and that over 1/2 of all marriages have adultery occuring in it.
2. Communication breakdown
3. Physical, psychological, or emotional abuse
4. Financial issues
5. Sexual incompatibility
6. Boredom
7. Religious and cultural strains
8. Child rearing
9. Addiction
10. Differences in priorities and expectations
So with all this information, what do we learn from all of it?
Maybe people do not know what love is and find out the hard way? I mean if you truly loved your spouse, would any of these reasons even come to your mind? If you truly loved your spouse, how can you even look at them if you cheated on them? If you truly love your spouse, how can you strike or harm that person? It seems to me that love is becoming a thing of the past.
Maybe people are substituting lust for love? How many people are having sex and then falling in love with that person? I always thought that you are suppose to have sex with the one you love. It would seem that we have it backwards now.
Maybe people feel the pressure to get married so they rush into it? Most likely that the person they married is not a person they actually love. We have all heard about that biological clock.
There are many reasons why people get married and an equally numbered of reasons for people divorcing. But in many cases the people who suffer the worse are the children, especially if the divorce is nasty. In the bible, Jesus is quoted as giving His opinion on divorce;
Marriage and Divorce
"But from the beginning of creation, God 'made them male and female.' For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man seperate." Mark 10:6-9
Jesus does say in the book of Mathew that Sexual Immorality)Adultery is the only reason for divorce.
I guess in the end we as a people, if we want marriage to work again, we need to get a little old fashion. Marriage use to work. But these marriages worked because people were in real love when they got married. Many people, unlike today, waited till they got married before they had sex. Many people use to have only one sex partner for life. But most important, marriage was more important then the top 10 reasons given for divorce. Today, the top 10 reasons are more important then the marriage itself. I want to get married someday, I just think I am doing the right thing by waiting for the right one instead of rushing into the wrong one.
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mordru
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Mar 6 @ 5:36PM
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Its called not being willing to talk to each other.A marriage is a partnership.For a marriage to last both people have to be willing to work on it.To many people give up when theres a bump in the road.
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ragtopcookie
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Mar 6 @ 5:41PM
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well now.....the voice of reason speaks out......if youve never been married.....and quiote stats about divorce......and say youre glad youve never rushed into anything......just how can you even hope to understand marriage......let alone...divorce.....so until youve been on a team....played on the field.....and won or lost.....you might want to stay in the stands and watch for awhile first.....leave the whys ands and buts to those that have been there.......cookie
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needmyfairmaiden
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Mar 6 @ 5:44PM
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An excellent blog! I think marrying too young is a huge problem. When you are in your late teens through your early 20's, you are not nearly the person you are going to round out to be, and too many young people get married, and then don't like who the person they marry turns into in a few years. Communication is another biggy. Nobody can possibly expect to be able to guess what another person thinks, wants, or needs. We tend to bottle up our dissapointments, never say a thing about them, and when they get to big to hold inside anymore, we blow up. You can't expect too much, and you can't expect too little, you'll be dissapointed either way. Have some standards, but don't shoot for perfection. Thanks for a great blog!!
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Exsecratus_Sicarius
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Mar 6 @ 5:47PM
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It all comes down to respect.
Respecting your partner, and the relationship with your partner, makes all the difference.
Because, with having respect, one makes a conscious decision to not commit any of the following:
1. Infidelity
2. Communication breakdown
3. Physical, psychological, or emotional abuse
4. Financial issues
5. Sexual incompatibility
6. Boredom
7. Religious and cultural strains
8. Child rearing
9. Addiction
10. Differences in priorities and expectations
Further, with respect for each other and for the relationship, problem solving take place and therefore overcome any of [2 - 10] (if you commit adultery, you should just die).
Yahweh's disciple, best post yet!
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chris549547
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Mar 6 @ 5:57PM
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the comments above say everything I want to say 
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RareQuestor
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Mar 6 @ 10:41PM
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I have heard it said that the divorce rate is so high today not because people are less capable of love, but rather because we are unwilling to live without love. Love was relatively rare in a marriage until the 20th century and even in this day and age there are still a few cultures where it does not matter whether you love or hate your spouse; all that matters is whether your family or your community approve of the marriage.
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