"If A Man Wants You" posted 4/1/2008 4:09:46 AM | 2 kudos what's this?     report abuse

Blueschic

Although this is not my composition it was sent to me by a very dear male friend. I'm sure it will "step on some toes." I thought it worth sharing anyway. I don't expect all to agree..if it helps you... great ...if it offends ...sorry.

If A Man Wants You

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what truly makes you happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't be "friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry then when he got them pregnant
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important that you are…even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him a quasi-god.
HE IS A MAN, NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you
.All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending.
Compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
Dating is fun…even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you EVERYTHING.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies (and men)…You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another women PREPARE.
They say it takes only a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget

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