Hey are you happy?
Are you currently in a relationship with another member on match.doctor?
Well how great is that!
Would you like all of us to share in the happiness that the two of you have found?
Sometimes things can get confusing on here. This is a big community. A lot of us are Newbies like myself. We haven't been here long enough to know who belongs with who. You know who has claimed what "territory" so to speak.
Women don't check out other women's profiles for no good reason. It's usually the woman who posts something in her profile about her man. Women are also the ones who can get "Catty". You know the claws come out when they think you are after their claimed prize. I know of one particular woman who I have the deepest respect for and she knows who she is. I once posted a comment to what her man had said and she thought that I was hitting on him. That wasn't the case at all. I was commenting on the comment not him. She emailed me directly and brought it right to me. I liked her style. That is exactly what I would have done. Having the "balls" to stand up for herself. You go girl. Although she was wrong with her impression it gave us time to talk But that's how communication flows.
If I flirt with a guy who has flirted with me and he is taken but fails to inform me, am I at fault? I don't think so but I may end up in the middle of something that I had not intended.
There are women who will try to steal another woman's man. Some just do it to see if they can. They don't want the guy at all. It's a game. They're running "game."Others try to steal another woman's man because they do want him at all costs.
Then there are those of us, myself included, that don't want another woman's man. God if he's cheating on you he sure in the "hell" will be cheating on me. But sometimes due to circumstances out of our control, we end up in a less than "comfortable" situation to say the least.
I suppose there are men who have to have their egos boosted by flirting with women no matter what their situation is.
So to all you HAPPY couples out in match land. Do you want to step right up and declare your relationship to eliminate the misunderstandings? Sometimes the shit gets deep around here and I don't want to step in it. Otherwise I've got to call on a friend over in the political forums and borrow his waders...LOL
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Apr 21 @ 10:37PM
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Well, I am very happy to say that I met someone from Matchdoctor . We have been together for almost 9 months now . We started meeting last Summer .
We talked and wrote to each other before meeting . And, it just seems right to meet her . So, I did .
It does work, but the effort and Confidence is the key here .
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:40PM
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Does that someone have a user name. Would you like to share. That way maybe others who may be interested will look elsewhere.
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Apr 21 @ 10:42PM
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She used to be a member here . But she doesn't come here no more . It was "Justbe63" .
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:43PM
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Great that's a start. You are taken, friendship only. That's cool.
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loreal
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Apr 21 @ 10:44PM
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Lol, well was I shocked when a got a wink that blew my socks off! Lol...I checked out his profile and we just started talking every day!
We have so much in common at first I didn't think he was real and that it was a joke!
He is just a really wonderful and Great Man! Sends me music, letters, poetry, calls, and we haven't stopped for a day!
He's coming here to meet me...he lives in another country...staying a month and that is just the beginning!
L 
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Apr 21 @ 10:44PM
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People here call me AFB . But my name is Benjamin
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inxs900
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Apr 21 @ 10:45PM
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Hmmm, after six years on here I still have not found anyone not many Alaskan wumman about this site 
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:47PM
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Well I haven't found anyone either but apparently I've stepped in shit or I wouldn't have posted this. I'm trying to solve a problem. I know others have experienced this too.
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:49PM
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Loreal...That's wonderful. When is he coming and how long have you two been communicating?
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VirgoGirl1964
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Apr 21 @ 10:50PM
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Skydog & VGirl Forever!!!! 
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:50PM
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Inxs...Are there many women in Alaska anyway? Just kidding.
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 10:52PM
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Skydog and Virgogirl....Have we seen you two before or am I imagining this?
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Apr 21 @ 10:52PM
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A Problem ? Impossible ! LOL
I am sorry that you're going through a tough moment .
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VirgoGirl1964
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Apr 21 @ 10:54PM
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Not your imagination Blue...it's real and it's wonderful!    
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loreal
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Apr 21 @ 11:01PM
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Several month on both........and there is more...hahaha!
But, perhaps I will blog on that at some point...
Anyway, you are right, when someone heard I had met this man...I got lots of nasty mails...and then they found it was a different guy!
So, yes, people can be weird...
Anyway, he is perfect for me, and we both knew it directly!
L
I will keep ya posted...and great luck to you...it will come...!
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Redwicket
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Apr 21 @ 11:06PM
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Yeah, are there many women in Alaska?
It would be nice if it was posted on both sides
of the couples profile, since women don't usually check out other women.
Sorry you stepped in it Blue, and I'm not wanting to either.
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 11:13PM
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I guess I should have worded this differently as the forum mod said I couldn't ask questions. I though this could provide valuable information.
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jers04
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Apr 21 @ 11:15PM
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Sorry Dear but I'm saving myself for you.
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 11:19PM
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Jers....What a brave soul you are. Which bike do I get to ride?????
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 11:34PM
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Dang...I reached my mail limit for the day. No more emails for me tonight.
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Missy_21484
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Apr 21 @ 11:39PM
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I've been on MD since 2003! Six months later I met a guy on here (who is no longer a member). It was a 4 year rollercoaster and we were on and off. We moved in together and he left me. He wants me back and occasionally I do see him and we talk about things. Its complicated and I'm leaving my options open most definitely. I want a great man!
Other than that I usually talk to people on here on occasion. I"m off and on here. Depending on my shedule (school semesters and work, when I'm not with my son, etc.)
Welcome to the site! =D
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inxs900
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Apr 21 @ 11:46PM
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There are many wumman here in Alaska Blue, I saw one two weeks ago.
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 11:51PM
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Missy....You got on here when I got separated in 2003. I think I've only been on here since Feb. I actually found it through a members profile on another site that I was on for almost a year now and in his profile he mentioned this site. I didn't blog or anything. I posted videos and was befrended by TexasBlues and a couple others who post music videos. I've been in college for the last five years with really not a lot of time for dating or much of anything else. I just know when I'm ready it will be the right time. It just better not be when I have my walker and depends...LOL
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Blueschic
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Apr 21 @ 11:55PM
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Well INXS I saw a man in the woods in Maine three years ago. No wait....that was a moose....LOL
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Angel1964
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Apr 22 @ 1:41AM
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There are many wumman here in Alaska Blue, I saw one two weeks ago.
Oh my…. Now that’s funny…
I say move to MA.. You’d be fighting off with a stick…
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Blondino
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Apr 22 @ 6:51AM
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No ..........
<<<< hint hint boys Blondino is still " available " 
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chek1678
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Apr 22 @ 7:14AM
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No relationship for me yet. Friendship, yes! I have been touched by many and I truly hope that I have touched them also. The question is not out of line and it is a good question to ask. Like you, I do not wish to step on anyone's toes here or in real life.
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BeachCrete
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Apr 22 @ 7:22AM
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Do you want to step right up and declare your relationship to eliminate the misunderstandings?
YES I DO ! ! !
We started out simply as friends a little more than a year ago,she was involved with someone and I was kinda new to this site, so friendship was all that was desired at that time. Slowly we got to know one another more and more and when the time was right, we grew to be more than just friends...She is a wonderful woman and I have fallen for her, as I hope she has for me too....we were reluctant about making this public becuase we didn't want to to be the object of attention to people who get the kicks out of causing problems for couples who make it public. After discussing this at length we agreed that no one could stop our feelings for one another no matter what they said or how hard they tried. 
I have fallen for scorpiogirl36 and she is an amazing lady! 
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HollyDaze
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Apr 22 @ 9:46AM
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I met cn63bug on here... Chris in the real world. We're getting married in September! He is truly what I've been saving myself for. All my other relationships were perparing me to meet HIM. I went through a lot of unsatisfying relationships... learning what I would and would not tolerate. He is absolutely the perfect man for me. I'm so thrilled that we found each other!
He treats me like a princess and my son absolutely adores him! He is my night in shining armor and now I get to live happily ever after. It's so great!
There are men out there and no matter how many you have to go through to find the perfect one... remember it only TAKES one to make your world a brighter place. Good luck!
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 8:01PM
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Wow Beach who would have thought that. I seem to miss a lot on here. So Beach and Scorpio are in a relationship. That means hands off ladies and gents. I wish you both the best of luck.
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raindancer3
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Apr 22 @ 8:37PM
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WOW is right! I thought it was Painter and Beach. People fall in out of relationships so quickly.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 8:48PM
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Holly....I am so happy for you both. You're getting married...Congratulations. It gives me and a lot of others the hope that MD does work. I think the greatest compliment that you could have given him was to say he is your Knight and Shining Armor. He must be quite a guy. I hope you will post pictures.
Hands off folks!
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sweetsongs17
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Apr 22 @ 8:52PM
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I suppose there are men who have to have their egos boosted by flirting with women no matter what their situation is.
So to all you HAPPY couples out in match land. Do you want to step right up and declare your relationship to eliminate the misunderstandings? Sometimes the shit gets deep around here and I don't want to step in it. Otherwise I've got to call on a friend over in the political forums and borrow his waders...LOL
You have made some interesting points, Blues. I think that there are probably guys who like to have their egos boosted by on line women. But I would imagine that it is the same way in the workplace with flirting with coworkers. Certainly it would be alot eaiser to flirt on line and less of a fear of rejection.
I think personal on line relationships should remain private and personal, untill that couple is comfortable with each other and solid in with what they expect from each other. I am not saying that they should stay away from each other on line or not interact, but why put it out there for everyone to see forever? How about this sernario, you break up with a MD person, start public "dating" or flirting on line are you ready for you new SO to read about your former SO?
Hey, if you like someones' postings, comments, blogs or whatever, just email them. Don't make any comment that you wouldn't want your future SO to read.
If the relationship is completely committed and exclusive, perhaps a pic of the couple on a profile would make things very clear. In my humble opinion, I think alot of the "in a relationship", "not looking" "only here for friend or forums" comments are disguarded by someone who is interested in that particular person.
Blues, you opened up a very interesting topic, one of which I have debated before with friends. Kudo's to you. Sweetsongs
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 9:10PM
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Sweetsongs....I agree with a lot of what you said. I think one must remember that once said something can't be taken back. Choose your words carefully just as you chose how to display them. If you don't want everyone privy to your innermost thoughts then keep them private and share them through email. That way any future or past SO doesn't have to deal with public postings coming back to haunt or embarrass them.
With that said thought that wasn't the purpose of this blog. It was simply to be used for members who are in a relationship to simply declare that. The purpose of online dating is to date. First you have to know who is available to date. For whatever reason those things aren't always spelled out in a profile. Sometimes people can be less than honorable with their intentions. IMHO The couples picture makes perfect sense to me. So does declaring in a profile who you are involved with.
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Classy_Blonde
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Apr 22 @ 11:04PM
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As of earlier today, I am now engaged to be married. He proposed to me in a photo comment, when I was dating "Asshole", so I had to decline.
I recently sent him a "shout out", and he has again asked me to marry him, so I said yes, but it will have to be a long engagement, because I need to lose some weight first. He was agreeable.
He also said I could go ahead and make a public announcement.
I realized later, I had forgotten to get his name.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:16PM
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Classy....Should we congratulate you or say WTF....LOL
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honeybear285
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Apr 22 @ 11:50PM
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Gee Classy..... I think you should at least know his name if you are getting married.....don't you?..... check back on your photo comment and find him....then write his name on your hand in permanent marker....keep practicing saying it until you know it by heart.....
Oh yeah....... uhhhhh.....lots of luck ......I think you will need it..
Peace and Love
Honeybear
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Palomino
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Apr 23 @ 3:05AM
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My profile says looking for "friendship only" and "I'm still in love with my soulmate, so I'm not looking to date. I'm here for the friendships I have made."
His profile says "friendship only" and "not looking". Both are vague, I know, but that's where we're at right now. No online declarations.
Good blog, Blues.
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vindybella
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Apr 23 @ 1:01PM
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Yep..I too have met the man I love on here..we are together now and life is great! We both still come here to chat with friends yet are absolutely happier than we could have ever imagined being! A friendship that blossomed into love. Nothing could be better! It does happen!
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Palomino
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Apr 26 @ 3:15PM
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Here ya go, Blues.
http://www.matchdoctor.com/thread_2_28010_1/Are_You_In_A_Relationship.html
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jers04
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Apr 26 @ 3:31PM
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Hi Blues. Sorry that I didn't answer your question. I sold the Harley so I just ride the chopper.
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BaNiNBoston
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Apr 26 @ 3:39PM
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WOW is right! I thought it was Painter and Beach. People fall in out of relationships so quickly.
They do tend to move quickly here, then again it is the inter-net!!!! 
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Sho1105
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May 1 @ 2:09AM
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Blues,
I met you ..kinda ... does that count? At least I can keep the memories of unanswered email... 
Sho
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Blueschic
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May 1 @ 2:20AM
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Sho...You are definitely a friend. So yes it does count!
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