classic57
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Apr 22 @ 10:04PM
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ModernDante
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Apr 22 @ 10:05PM
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A relationship is what the people involved make of it. They can be friends only (that would be called friendship), date once in a while (Casual dating), more intense intmate encounters....you get the picture.
Everyone wants something different, so you got to state what you want. Some people only want a one night stand (to each his own). Some want something more pernament (like marriage).
It all depends on the people involved.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:10PM
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ModernDante...Thanks for clearing that up. I just assumed that "relationship" meant exclusitivity with another person. I see that it can be used in the loosest of terms to really mean not much at all. Did I interpret this right?
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missliss78
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Apr 22 @ 10:14PM
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Blues, I am appreciating ModernDante's explanation, as well, but I must say...IMO, committed relationships are NOT a thing of the past for me & I would be happy to find one to a part of!
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BaNiNBoston
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Apr 22 @ 10:15PM
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 on here that about covers it for the most part!!!! (except for a very very small few)
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:17PM
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Missliss....I am with you girl. I thought that is what finding that "one" person was all about.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:21PM
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BaNiNBoston........Holy crap....you have got to be kidding me!! Used up, discarded, next....is the theme for the day?
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aFriendlyBlogger
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Apr 22 @ 10:24PM
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A Relationship is something Sacred . If it is done right, it will prevail for a Lifetime . If it fails, it will be just " A Distance Memory ".
A friend of mine onced told me , " It takes two people to build a solid Relationship.But it only takes One to tear it all apart ."
Two must take responsibilty for their own mistakes . If the Relationship fails. It's because of three main factors:
1. Miscommunication
2. Trust
3. Consistency
Although, there are more factors to a Realtionship . Without those three, it isn't worth remembering .
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IrisRain
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Apr 22 @ 10:24PM
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Somewhere in recent history people began having really casual "encounters". Maybe it's been going on forever and "those" people were just in hiding because it was so taboo.
But you know, a full relationship and all it's perks should be special...not something to be shared with everyone you break bread with! I do NOT want to walk into a party and know intimate details about half the males in the room....from first hand experience.
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Skydognc
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Apr 22 @ 10:26PM
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. I just assumed that "relationship" meant exclusitivity with another person.
imvho, relationship means only one thing,
exclusive monogamous one to one committment.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:29PM
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AFB...very thought provoking comment. Gives us much to think about. Thanks.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:32PM
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Iris....Then how can a casual encounter be called a relationship? I'd say it can't. I think a relationship should also include respect for the SO.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:34PM
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Skydog.....I agree with your definition but I'm not sure it's the prevailing definition on here.
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dallas1995
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Apr 22 @ 10:34PM
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 The secret of life is to appreciate the pleasure of being terribly, terribly deceived.
Oscar Wilde, A Woman of No Importance, Act 3
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:35PM
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Dallas....I for one am DEAD in the water then!!!!
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TroutFishing
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Apr 22 @ 10:44PM
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Many claim to be "In a Relationship" with someone they have
YET to meet in person.
There is reality - then there is our interpretation.
I agree with the old-fashioned definition and if I were in one,
my profile would be gone from here.
Your results may vary.
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dallas1995
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Apr 22 @ 10:44PM
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When the gods wish to punish us, they answer our prayers.
Oscar Wilde, An Ideal husband, 1893
sad but true
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JimNastics
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Apr 22 @ 10:46PM
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relationship; (noun)
1) The condition or fact of being related; connection or association
2) Connection by blood or marriage; kinship
3) A particular type of connection between people related to or having dealings with each other
4) A romantic or sexual involvement
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Jeffky49
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Apr 22 @ 10:46PM
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Blue, I can't speak for anyone else here..........but I am Old School when it comes to relationships. One on one...........exclusively. I have been on this site for nearly two years and have never been "involved" with anyone here until I did meet someone special here recently. I immediately updated my profile so that anyone who reads it knows I am no longer looking. Too bad all can't be as honest about what they want and preserve a few "Old School" traditions and morals.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:46PM
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TroutFishing......Spoken with wisdom! I'm giving you a kudo and it's my blog...LOL
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:47PM
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Dallas....You're killing ME!!!!
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dallas1995
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Apr 22 @ 10:48PM
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Suffering is one very long moment. We cannot divide it by seasons.
Oscar Wilde, De Profundis
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:50PM
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Jim....I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say to have sexual involvement the other person should be physically present? Not virtual reality.....
Jim...how about giving us your own definition
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:52PM
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My view on the name Match Doctor should maybe be Meat Market...at least that how my friend refers to online "dating".
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Bionic_Angel
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Apr 22 @ 10:54PM
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What people have online before they meet is an "attachment" not a relationship.
We have relationships with our friends, family, work colleagues, clients and business partners but surely the word "relationship" on what is primarily a dating site means a committed relationship which generally includes being in love and all that goes with that.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:55PM
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Congratulations Jeff.....Let's hear it for Old School. I just described myself as Old School to someone the other day.
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jers04
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Apr 22 @ 10:56PM
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"rent a date" ? I'm available. Any one inerested?
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 10:58PM
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Angel......Great assessment. Attachment...that seems to describe what it is.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:00PM
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Jers....Do you haggle over price?...LOL
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dallas1995
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Apr 22 @ 11:01PM
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Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.
Oscar Wilde, De Profundis, 1905
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JimNastics
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Apr 22 @ 11:01PM
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Jim...how about giving us your own definition
I prefer to speak English, rather than make up my own definitions.
That's often the problem with communication, a person says one thing,
but due to their own personal definitions, they meant something else.
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chek1678
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Apr 22 @ 11:02PM
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I know this may not be the case on here but I will speak my peace. A relationship is a total commitment between two parties. This is built upon with trust, honesty, knowledge, respect, responsibility and response. It's about caring and giving to each other without demand. It should be a natural thing and should flow like water between the two parties involved. Removing anyone of the stone, and just what do you have.......you figure it out.
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IrisRain
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Apr 22 @ 11:06PM
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Sexual Relations....Relations + not wanting to think of oneself as a WHORE spells relationship (I didn't say a real relationship but a convoluted, created, make me feel good about myself definition of why I'm a slut...male or female)
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:08PM
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Dallas....I like to get other people's opinions, input and draw my own conclusions.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:09PM
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Jim...Didn't mean to put you on the spot!
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:09PM
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Chek...Do you find that to be the case on here?
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:13PM
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Iris...I wasn't saying that you said a relationship equaled a casual encounter. I was asking how a casual encounter could be considered a relationship. Maybe the way I worded it could have been better.
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Blueschic
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Apr 22 @ 11:13PM
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Nite all. I gotta go.
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IrisRain
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Apr 22 @ 11:23PM
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Gosh Blue, I didn't take it wrong I just think humans try to justify what they do and dress it up so they feel better about their choices. Society has identified that relationshiips are good, casual encounters = low moral character. So to justify what "we" do we call it a relationship to feel better about ourselves.
It is not a relationship unless there is some commitment. .....I'm sure we all have stories about a situation we thought was a relationship to find out the other party wasn't invested. Whoopie, ain't life GRAND 
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dallas1995
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Apr 23 @ 12:19AM
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Life is far too important a thing ever to talk seriously about.
Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere's Fan, 1892, Act I
These quotes by Mr. Wilde are to be interpreted by each of us...they are not intended to be punitive in any way shape or means...I heatedly agree with all who have posted ...and the reason why I agree is because the people who posted them have spoken from the heart...may you live long and prosper  enjoy the ride
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freefish533
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Apr 23 @ 12:57AM
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I totoally agree with Jeffky49, old school, so I read his profile. His comments touched my heart!
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Josuha
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Apr 23 @ 1:36AM
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Thanks for clearing that up. I just assumed that "relationship" meant exclusitivity with another person.
Your living in Babylon.
Don't try to understand it.
Just flee to the mountains.
They're nuts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8C8AVWLhwI
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inxs900
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Apr 23 @ 3:12AM
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Well this depends,
Is it an open relationship ?
Is it a sexual relationship ?
Is it a friendship relationship ?
Is it personal relationship ?
Is it a physical relationship ?
Friends with benefits relationship ?
A loving relationship ?
A lusting relationship ?
It,s important to understand exactly what physical traits, behaviors, values, beliefs, and interests are important to you so that you can focus on what you want in your relationship instead of what you don't want.
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PROVIDENCE_BOSTON
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Apr 23 @ 8:58AM
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I can not ask a question as informed by the moderator....
....and you also cannot use the blogs for something that BELONGS in the FORUM section....
....in addition screen names also are not to be used in BLOGS and/or RESPONSES.
Some people here just don't get it ????
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dallas1995
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Apr 23 @ 10:06AM
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well...one thing is for sure...we all have our sacred opinions, not to be trounced by fact, rules or politeness...and as always, dissent is viewed as attack by those entrenched in their own opinions...live long and prosper...oh...and...enjoy the ride...for it is a personal journey that all have in common...and thanks for allowing my opinions to be viewed by those who do
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anutosh
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Apr 23 @ 10:15AM
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i WAS having a relationship with someone i had not met
then i met her ... OUCH!
people just do not have the honesty to say what they really want
one day i will meet an honest woman and live happily ever after
i do not know anything about forums all i know is i was happy to read your blog
NIL ILLIGITAMAS CARBORUNDUM
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dallas1995
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Apr 23 @ 10:29AM
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Nill illigitimi carborundum - Do not let the bastards get you down
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Kat_luvr
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Apr 23 @ 11:13AM
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Someone may get passed from this one to that one to the next one in a particular circle of friends until they've made their complete rounds. We had names for ppl like that, especially the women...........  .....G/F We are from a totally different generation.Some changes are NOT for the Better  .....Eddie Murphy said, ".....Now we got aids....What happens after that? Man puts his dick in and they both explode?"................Sad world we live in w/o som,e kind of Morals.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:28PM
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PROVIDENCE BOSTON...here I go breaking the rules again. It just doesn't matter how hard I try I'm a rebel at heart. Arrest me. I'm guilty. If you check I did not ask a question but a few other blogs have. Are you policing their blogs also or do you selectively police just a few? What is your problem? Apparently a lot of people have comments on this topic or there wouldn't be as much response as there has been. You will never be pleased until all your criteria are met. It ain't happening. The best advice I can give you is to WRITE YOUR OWN BLOG then you can comment until you're blue in the face provided anyone wants to engage you. If you're not here to contribute to the conversation then refrain from commenting at all. If you'd like to join in instead of constantly criticizing someone then please do.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:30PM
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Thanks Dallas.....your opinion was greatly appreciated and understood.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:33PM
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Hi freefish...nice to have you here. Yes we like Old School and Jeff.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:38PM
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Now Joshua.....How many men am I going to find in the mountains. Well Jeremiah Johnson would be a good start. Oh yeh...Jeremiah Johnson, I'm taking off this chastity belt and heading to the mountains.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:41PM
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INXS...you've got my mind spinning with all these relationships. Until I can figure this out I'm putting the chastity belt back on.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:44PM
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Anutosh...I like your way of thinking. I take it your meeting wasn't a good one? I don't like the forums at all. I'd much rather stay here if the police would leave me alone. I'm a fugitive of the forums in hiding here in blogland.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:45PM
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Dallas...I like the way you translate.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 1:49PM
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Katluvr.....We still have those names. We are from a different generation. We had our flaws...shhhh. don't tell the younger generation. But good God almighty haven't we grown up? Some adults on here are still so High Schoolish.
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chek1678
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Apr 23 @ 2:28PM
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Good thing I took my Sarcasma Suppresant today after the one comment to your blog. I tend to believe you have more smarts then he will every have between his ears. You go girl!!!! Give them a bit of power and it goes to their head.
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Slohand_47
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Apr 23 @ 6:28PM
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Figuring out the definition of a relationship is like telling what time it is. Right now, it's 5:15pm. I got up at 7:15am. Everything changes as you put time into it.
I would describe it is a way of defining your "status" as it were, with others. If you were to take your child to the emergency room...... one of the questions is...... what is your relationship to the patient.
When you meet someone, the "relationship" is first date. It can progress to friendship without possibly ever going any farther. You can be casually dating and may or may not be exclusive. Etc, etc, etc. Just like love, most people would have a different, yet similar definition.
So....... while the goal might be a committed relationship (or love affair as the old timers called it) it has to progress through many stages to get there.
Making a "new" friend is pretty cool and a success in my mind. How many times have we dated a few times..... figured they were not a good long term match....... break up and never talk to them again?
Hope some of this made sense to you.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 7:45PM
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You know Chek it never changes. Same old story complain, complain, complain. I really think some people think that their complaining gets them somewhere, or at least they derive satisfaction from the attention, however limited that may be. I'm very inquisitive and I learn from listening. The more input the better. It doesn't matter if it is negative or positive as long as contributes to the discussion. You know the old saying S*** or get off the pot. I can take constructive criticism. I certainly don't force my views upon anyone and the last time I checked I didn't have anyone tied up force feeding them my opinions. Although sometimes a "swift kick" may be in order.
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Blueschic
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Apr 23 @ 8:02PM
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Slohand......You said when you meet someone the relationship is the first date. What if it is all online from beginning to end and no meeting ever takes place yet you are attributing all sorts of things to your SO and the "relationship". Is it a committed relationship or a love affair? This virtual reality stuff is a hard concept to grasp in relationship to actual reality. Is phone sex a substitute for real sex? Is it possible for a whole relationship to commense and go through all the stages and end without meeting? Was that indeed a relationship?
I just assumed that a relationship would start by emailing, then phone conversation and then progress to a face to face meeting. If all that was positive then it would progress to more of a conventional relationship. True or not?
Although my first dates don't seem to progress past the first date I am still friends with 75% of the men that I've met. The other 25% have been wack-a-loons. So legitimate friends for me don't go by the wayside as you suggested. IMHO. But honestly MD seems to be a whole different animal.
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leprichaun_magic
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May 4 @ 8:19PM
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..BTW...
its very true ..
as Inxs and bionic Angel say ,,
You have different Relationships with different People.....
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