BLAMESHIFTERS! Coming soon to FOX! posted 4/26/2008 3:07:42 PM | 29 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: commentary, blame, stupid, people

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Boo at GhostHunters, laugh at Most Haunted, dismiss the lie of Destination Truth and say vaya con dios to Paranormal State - BLAMESHIFTERS are here and they're here to stay. Follow the antics of friends, family and spouses as they succumb to the paranormal phenomenon of:

BUUUHLAAAMESHIIFTIING! echo, echo, echo...

You've all been subjected to it, maybe you've even used this tactic in your own relationship or work environment. Awfully easy isn't it? Why suffer the consequences of accepting blame when it can be magically placed on someone else's shoulders?

Typical human trait, I'm thinking. I doubt a raccoon caught in the act of raiding a trash can will immediately start pointing fingers at the squirrel. "Seriously, listen to me, it wasn't me, it was that GODDAMN squirrel. You know his type, dammit; they're vicious; oh sure, he's cute and shit, but honestly, look at me, I'm fkng cuddly...errr...HE DID IT!"

I wonder how many women can attest to the fact that abusive spouses oftentimes utilize BLAMESHIFTING when justifying physical or emotional abuse? How many times have you watched interviews on TV following a murderous rampage by a young man or woman and the phenomenon of BLAMESHIFTING rears its ugly head?

"My son, he's a good boy, I can't believe he mowed down those people, he's kind, loving and he sends me cards on Mothers Day. He started running with a bad crowd recently, he'd never ever ever do this, I swear...it's his friends fault, they made him pummel the head of that young woman with an aluminum baseball bat! Same group of boys he was with when he was detained for tying firecrackers to the neighbors cat, innocent childhood games, he's a good boy...."

Yeah, whatthefkever. Or maybe you've heard this?

"YOU FKNG BITCH! I WORK ALL DAY TO COME HOME TO THIS! YOU'RE A FAT FKNG PIECE OF SHIT! I NEED FKN BEER, YOU WHORE, THE KIDS CAN EAT FRUIT LOOPS FOR DINNER! (Thwap, Thwap, Thwap!) NOW DON'T MAKE ME HIT YOU AGAIN! IT'S YOUR FAULT, YA STUPID BITCH!"

Mmmm hmmm....

How many have been involved with someone in a relationship sans abuse, but their behavior isn't up to your standards? Sometimes it takes a little time to discover behavior that isn't exactly your cup of tea, so you take measures to either end the relationship or try to reason with them, hoping the unacceptable behavior stops. You adopt the role of co-dependent for just a little while, hoping, praying the behavior will somehow magically work itself out. What happens when you have no other recourse than to end it? Well, more times than not the offended will immediately start blaming YOU for the demise. They'll start pointing fingers at YOU. YOU'RE the bad person, YOU'RE TO BLAME. You're supposed to accept them as they are, regardless of the level of fkuptedness THEY possess.

Single bars, clubs and Internet dating sites are filled with stories of love gone bad. I don't know about you, but it seems to me that all the bad or offending spouses have gone the way of the sock; they disappear or have fallen behind the dryer of bad people, never to be seen or heard from again. I suggest you listen to people you come in contact with. Do you EVER hear someone say, "Yeah, I fked up, I took him/her for granted, I violated the trust we had and the marriage/relationship ended. It was my fault and I'll live with the repercussions for the rest of my life."

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say "Rarely, if ever". It's always someone else's fault. BLAMESHIFTING! echo, echo, echo...

So let’s say you’re a friend of someone who BLAMESHIFTS. How do YOU handle it? I’ll bet you enable the behavior. You’ll ignore the reality of the situation and immediately coddle the offender, “Awe, you poor thing, how dare he/she/they treat you that way? Here, let me hug your BLAMESHIFTING ASS and make things better. I know it hurts, I know the bad behavior displayed wasn’t you, it was HIM/HER/THEM. It’s ok; here, want a lifesaver?"

Is that your idea of friendship? Does being a friend require you to enable bad behavior, no matter what kind is displayed? Or does being a friend mean that you recognize bad behavior and bring it to task. Oh, of course, you don’t want to be mean or appear as if you don’t care, instead you take the low road and enable; it’s easier on you, easier on them and no one gets hurt except the target of the Blameshifter. Fk em, you’re ok, the BLAMESHIFTER is ok. What do you fkn care right? Some bloody friend you are.

Of course, those that do take BLAMESHIFTERS to task are mean people, insensitive louts. How dare they NOT enable the poor sap but instead bring them to task. What kind of person would do this?



Realists, maybe?

Now, if you'll excuse me, I ate like 6 buffalo wings this afternoon; time to take the kids to the pool. Of course, a rather noxious smell NOT akin to petunias will invade the neighborhood, but I'll just BLAMESHIFT that towards the cat...or an unusual display of spontaneous squirrel pooting....

As always, much love....Obi Wan Blognobi

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