That is my cry to all men, everywhere, who believe they are "just friends" with that "great girl" who pals around with them, flirts with them, is always available when they need a shoulder to cry on and/or a quick "meaningless" role in the hay.
Yes, I spelled role like that for a reason!
Year after year after year, I meet so many men who have these women "friends" and they stop and chat for a while, or flirt, or try to get serious with me or a friend or someone I just happened to notice they were trying to get serious with, and the same thing happens to each and every one of them, usually repeatedly.
Case in point: Stuart: aka: the tattooed wonder aka: Txbone aka: T-bone, aka: clueless man! When I met him someone began hacking his email accounts, and mine, and our messenger accounts, etc. That stopped after a while, when he stopped spending much time talking to me, coincidentally. He had told me, back then, that this had happened to him before, when he had met some other woman online and that he thought she was through being that way.
Then it started up again, every time he started paying attention to me. Then, he met some New York Wiccan biker chick and it went full tilt mad with crazy emails, etc. Well, she had a lot of sexy pictures posted, so obviously the hacker liked her even less. But, while the hacker was hacking his emails because of her they discovered we were still in contact and the craziness escalated to Defcon 10!
Things settled down after a while, after I had told him exactly where to put his head and how far up and the Wiccan ranted and raved her way out of the picture, etc. Then, things started flaring up again, and so it would go; quite noteably, only when he was on my friends list on a site or had started making plans to come see me or had said something very nice to me, though.
Well, this whole time, before he met me, he had the same girl that would hang with him, come over and help him on the weekends when he was having trouble, give him friendly rolls in the hay in between love interests, he'd take her out to dinner, etc. I didn't know it at the time, but he did!
This same girl, the first time I heard about her, was when she came onto a site and started harassing me for talking to him. They had tried everything else, all the back door viruses and all that, and we were still in contact, so she simply paid a few people to do her some favors and went out of her way to get log files falsified, etc. and get her friends to help her out and she lied to him, quite bald-faced, and said I was the one doing this the whole time.
But, if he had thought, for one darned second, he'd have realized what he told me so long ago: this started BEFORE he met me! Before he met the WIccan nasty too.
*ahem* No, I don't like the Wiccan religion stuff, but I called her "the Wiccan nasty" based on her own personality and the fact that I have known her, personally if briefly
So many men have women "friends" of this nature (and probably vice versa). Certainly there is a man on MD who had a woman who was interested in him and she was attacking other women if he showed interest in them, instead, but he thought, despite the late night phone calls, flirting, etc. that it was just friendship.
Wake up! If not for your own sake, then for the sake of all the women that your "friends' will leave ravaged in your wake. Or, if you really are wanting to be friends with these psychotic females, then for their sake. They are insecure, infatuated, possibly in love, and all about you. So, set them straight, marry them, or set them free BEFORE you go off looking for other women!
Because, the rest of us - the few, the proud, the sane - do not relish being stabbed in the back, having our names dragged through the mud, being called liars, being accused of doing what is being done to us, or losing out on possibilities of love based not on who we are but who you have failed to deal with as you should. Be a man!
Right now, I'm at the point where if a man says he has women friends, I don't even want to talk to him. It's a sure sign that all the evils of Bitchdom are about to fall down on my head and I don't deserve that. These women should not be my problem and I am not their solution.
Any man reading this, feel free to reverse it, because, as already mentioned, there are women with the same sort of male "friends'. It doesn't matter what sex you are or what sex you date, in this case. The point is that no one deserves to be treated like crap by you, because you can't grow a set and deal with your "friends" and their bad influences in your life!
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Fender
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Apr 30 @ 7:39PM
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I really can't think of anything to say at all, but wow.
...I have had a good guy friend, we never did anything romantically, or physically. He's not allowed to be my friend anymore because his girlfriend won't let him...I think flirting is a part of human nature unless you take it too far and someone's feelings get hurt in the process.
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QuasiTova
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Apr 30 @ 10:18PM
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AMEN!
This is not the same, but a similar complaint... CRAZY girlfriends.
I have an ex that I have not seen for two years or more, yet every time he gets a new GF, she feels the need to email me, and/or call me to tell me how "happy they are together" and to demand that I leave him alone...
Now remember, I have not seen him in over two years... and even then it was not a friendly encounter.
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 1 @ 9:39PM
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This is not the same, but a similar complaint... CRAZY girlfriends.
Let's call it the same, though, shall we? After all, it's the same sort of crazy! Just a different attachment level for the man and his psycho!
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HopelesslyHopeful
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May 1 @ 9:53PM
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I really can't think of anything to say at all, but wow.
...I have had a good guy friend, we never did anything romantically, or physically. He's not allowed to be my friend anymore because his girlfriend won't let him...I think flirting is a part of human nature unless you take it too far and someone's feelings get hurt in the process.
Yeah, well, Fenderchick .. I sincerely doubt that you'd ever qualify as one of those psycho friends. Maybe one of the psycho gfs would think so or maybe you'd date someone and they'd act like a psycho with the next woman and try to make them jealous by over-emphasizing your relationship or something, but .. I really can't see you planning on how to destroy a woman's life because your man was speaking to her, or planning on how to destroy a woman's life because he is her man and you're only his drinking buddy.
So .. no .. not the same cateogry.
When I said that about men having women friends, it does not mean that I think they shouldn't have them. It's just that I've me so many whose women friends are not, in fact, really friends at all, but are more groupies. It was a statement about being gun shy, not against friendship. Friendship is good, if and when that's what it really is.
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