BandTMom
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May 24 @ 2:16AM
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its is a bond that does not only extend to blood relatives it is one that can be felt and honored by anyone with enough love in their hearts to do so .
Many times my MD family is more of a family than my blood relatives.
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ladybuy2008
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May 24 @ 2:19AM
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Luckily we don't get to pick our family members... some people wouldn't belong to anyone. I'm so blessed to have some really amazing people in my family - my son being the best!
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hpylady1
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May 24 @ 2:34AM
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It is bad that you had to get caught up in all that .. I'm assuming she was your kids grandmother .. which makes it almost impossible to not see the family .. I understand completely .. I have the same problems with my X in laws .. if they start that crap I leave .. I don't need the drama .. lived it .. divorced it ... don't need it... good luck to you .. your a saint dear ..
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ghost42950
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May 24 @ 4:41AM
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 You do the Best You Can
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luvmycats
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May 24 @ 7:16AM
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 Big Hugs my friend. I was almost to the same point at one time with my ex mother in law. We didn't speak for nearly a year. She wasn't nearly as bad as yours though. I don't blame you a bit. Bless you for lasting as long as you did.
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cowboy2x4
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May 24 @ 7:40AM
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Anger is normal,and some people push us into it..as for as choice of words,you only have 1 to explain that to...right?
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katydid438
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May 24 @ 8:20AM
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You were pushed past all reasonable limits. Your MIL behaviour and treatment of her own daughter was shameful. I can't see any reason for you too feel bad. Sometimes strong words can be cathartic 
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Loreli
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May 24 @ 8:39AM
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I know that Karma WILL take care of this Sometimes it's hard to waiy for that....I know.
~Hugz~
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daisy315
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May 24 @ 8:48AM
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Becks, I would have written her off 3 years ago.. you amd your sister in law do not need that shit..
I went through the same thing with my ex MIL for years.. then when she called me years later to apologize for her crummy behavior, I told her it was too damn late for apologies.. my marriage was over partly because of her and there was no taking back the crap that was said and done..
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EternalFlame
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May 24 @ 8:58AM
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I used to keep in contact with my ex's mother only for my kids. She's the only gramma they have...but the woman is psychotic and absolutely HORRIBLE. She's a chronic liar and a master manipulator. Two years ago she screwed up for the last time, and this time my KIDS saw and felt it. They have no desire to talk to her now. I've since moved and changed my number. She has no way to find me. I'm finally free of that controlling, psychotic bitch from Hell.
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sciurusniger
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May 24 @ 8:58AM
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If it walks like a duck, squawks like a duck, well, then....
Sometimes we have to choose between allowing our Selves to be loved so very, very badly, or walking away from the toxicity. One needn't walk away with a hate-filled heart, though; but in the end, if we do not love or respect our own Self enough to avoid those who would deliberately and maliciously hurt us, well, why should anyone else respect us?
I'm so sorry...for all of you. MIL obviously has some serious issues, but they are hers and hers alone. Set the boundaries and stick to them. It is an enormous lesson for the children and certainly a help for you and your SIL to keep your sanity and composure.
Breathe...just breathe....
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MetryTechie
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May 24 @ 9:20AM
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For you, Becky. Breathe.....
And, although it doesn't happen everyday, I agree 100% with sciurusniger. 
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LaughTillYaPuke
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May 24 @ 9:55AM
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You poor woman.
My ex-mother in law is fantastic. In fact, I'm pretty sure that's why I married the man. Good mother-in-laws are hard to find.
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pamdemonium
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May 24 @ 10:36AM
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It's the mother of all words, isn't it? Even when it's fitting, it's a wincer...a bad one..one that leaves the one who said it as bad as the one who deserved it.
Wishing you some peace in your heart. Some comfort. And Becks, let go....she's got issues far beyond normal repair systems. Deep breath, and let it go.
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redtigr
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May 24 @ 10:38AM
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It's not about the word - or words - at all, Hon. It's about the deeds. That woman made herself into an unspeakable blankity-blank all on her own. All you did was put the proper name to it.
Reading what you wrote, it's quite obvious the woman is long overdue for professional (read: psychiatric - or perhaps rehab) help. Those who behave as she has are so completely wrapped up in themselves that they believe others exist only as shadows; puppets to do their bidding.
Those who are without empathy or sympathy are poison - and best left untouched and out of range.
My heart goes out to your sister-in-law .
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kattsmeow
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May 24 @ 12:08PM
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Your SIL is so wonderful too! Guess the "mom" ( I use that term lightly) doesn't know how to love.
It is sad, but then again, I stand up and applaude you for what you did. Someone had to do it, so you were picked.
Bless you my wonderful friend.
~*~
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QtrAcreGalSeeking
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May 24 @ 12:23PM
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Been right here, too... 
Nope, we DON'T pick our family--and thank God.
Seems like most of us here are a helluva lot more evolved, beyond most of them. 
Love you, Sis--and I'd have done the same thing.
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SpiritEnergy
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May 24 @ 1:00PM
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If it walks like a duck, squawks like a duck, well, then....
Oh, Sci!  
There ya go, Becky. You had NO choice. You were just channeling. Yeah, that is what it was...you were feeding back her own energy to her. We do tend to mirror other people's energy, don't we?
But do not worry, Becky, sweet Sister-in-Spirit, all of you will laugh about it when you get to the other side. We will all be overjoyed to see it when everyone realizes how it all really was. It was really JUST a test. You will all be hugging and kissing again! It is that perfect opportunity to practice Forgiveness.
I have a children's book I like to refer to people that have challenges with others they have a hard time being neutral around. It is called "The Little Soul and the Sun" by Neale Donald Walsch. It is SO awesome and healing to the heart and the soul.
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Tiramisu4u
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May 24 @ 1:16PM
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I feel sooo bad for the heartache this has caused your family..  You are human...and have done soo much already...please dont feel bad...
I have been blessed with 3 MIL's in my life...and Have ADORED them all...we continued to stay close over the years...tho, now 2 are gone, I was sooo fortunate to have them in my life.
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PullMyFinger
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May 24 @ 4:19PM
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Personally, I think you went too easy on her. I would have added, pus-leaking piss-ant of a (insert)....
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unionman154
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May 24 @ 6:46PM
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My Evil Twin is hot from reading this. 
I let him out once in a while, I have to admit it feels good to release these negative emtions, but then I get him chained back up.
I let go of the anger.
We all need to release our pressure valves. So we don't blow a gasket.
I don't hold grudges, it only serves to ruin ones mental and physical health.
I have to agree with PMF aka MY HERO. I think you let her off easy.
You're one classy lady who I admire so much.
YOU ROCK. 
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Palomino
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May 29 @ 3:26AM
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Excellent blog and good venting for the soul. Much love to you, Sis. ~*~
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mystery2u888
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Jun 15 @ 9:20AM
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Excellent blog..... ........yes...........Becky...... ........I have known this ...........situation on another........  Karma always comes back.........in time...........now how in the world.................  .. did I miss this one........ 
xoxo
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Guerrero
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Jun 15 @ 10:25AM
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In a few years, the "c word" will be just as common as "bitch" is today ... trust me.
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