Because we choose to be...even if we don't realize it.
Most people cannot quite grasp the root of their singleness. Yes, sometimes it really is just that "I haven't met the right one" but more often than not, it's something within ourselves that keeps us single.
If one knows themselves well, this "factor" that holds them back from a fulfilling relationship is known and is something that one works to resolve. But, if not so enlightened, one often feels puzzled as to why they remain alone.
It's so much easier to identify why other people are single! How can they not see it when it's so blazingly obvious how broken they are, or how needy they are, or how hung up they are with the past or how very bitter they are! And of course, one cannot just walk up to another (or send them an email) and say, "Hey! You're bitter! That's why you're dateless and alone!" Even if delivered by a close friend, that kind of message is damn harsh!
We're all subject to the human condition (unless well medicated) and sometimes that is hard to grasp. Once we can wrap our minds around it, we are opened up unto ourselves and in this, real connection is made with others as well. No matter if one knows the reasons behind their single status, true patience is required. And wouldn't you know it, patience is one of many virtues that elude me.
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Angel1964
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Jun 1 @ 11:04PM
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Its not always easy to see what’s right in front of our faces…
Why? I have no idea.. If I did I’d probably make a fortune on it….
Or at least know what it is I need, when I need it…LOL..
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JChic515
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Jun 1 @ 11:32PM
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This is so true but I am one of the people who actually knows why I am single! I tend to be attracted to the "alpha male" types and all the bs that comes along with it! I chose the wrong guys ..and I have a fear of comitment!
But knowing why you are single and doing something to change the things that make me this way two totally different stories!
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smartfunnygirl
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Jun 1 @ 11:39PM
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You are so right..It is sad but if we would listen to someone telling us why we are single maybe we wont be single. WHY I am single?? never mind I know why I just am trying to work on it now. lol i hope i am working on the right thing. lol
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imlost2
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Jun 2 @ 12:13AM
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I was trying to say this in a way in another blog. Everyone needs something out of a relationship, or they remain single. They are all looking for something that satisfies their needs. People say you can just give yourself, just give your heart, etc. well it's not so easy to do if the person you are giving it to doesn't notice. Why bother if there's no affection back, that's exactly what causes divorces not relationships. This is the real world not a story book, I don't know how many times I have read in blogs, you get back what you give out. People give their hearts and fall in love, because of the way the other person makes them feel, that's the whole point of love. Everyone knows to make a relationship work it can't be one sided.
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katydid438
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Jun 2 @ 12:36AM
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Very good question for sure. Many are alone out of choice, there is no doubt about that and perfectly ok. Just as many never have the opportunity to meet some one....but wanting and needing are two different things..........you are not defined by the fact that you are in a relationship or not......I prefer want rather than need 
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Schmoopy
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Jun 2 @ 12:42AM
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i ask myself that everyday. Why am I still single???? it is a mystery to me. guess i am destined to be alone
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ragtopcookie
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Jun 2 @ 4:25AM
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Well said.......i guess we all have our reasons.........cookie
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LaughTillYaPuke
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Jun 2 @ 6:43AM
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So true! 
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mystery2u888
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Jun 2 @ 9:04AM
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Patience is a virtue..  ..............that is what others seem to forget........many seem to realize things are going to happen overnight.......and .......it does not happen that way..............  Many need to clear there plate......before adding more bulk .......because if they are still living in the past..............they have not let go and are not able to make that transition in the future ......  ......to start off fresh.........nobody should continue there past relationships and move forward to the next one ............. it reaks havoc..................  You must start off fresh.........with old doors closed...not partially closed..........completely closed.........so new doors open..........they also must be mentally ready for it.......some prefer to be single.......some are extremley independent........ They need to accept those things until they are ready to share there lives with another...........that is up to each individual.......... 
Great Blog......sweetie...... xoxo
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wandaful123
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Jun 2 @ 10:36AM
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"Know Thyself"....
Well said.
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cowboy2x4
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Jun 2 @ 9:39PM
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my thoughts exactly sweetie,great blog!!!
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