Do you ever think you want something so bad...
and yet are so afraid of actually getting it...
that you subconsciously sabotage your own efforts?
It seems like any time I want something...
that I overthink it... and overplan it...
and end up scaring the hell out of
MYSELF and whoever else is involved...
and end up with nothing...
Maybe is it not good to want something so bad....
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ladybuy2008
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Jun 10 @ 1:06PM
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It's called the Law of Attraction. Whatever you TRULY believe, will happen. So if you think something will go wrong, it will. If you believe you don't deserve something, you won't get it.
You may be thinking yourself out of what you do want. Imagine only good thoughts and see how your life changes...
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edthepoet
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Jun 10 @ 1:12PM
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Though, I am not that way, I have a lot of friends who share the same fear as you.
Actually, I have the opposite problem, I often delay things because I know I reach my goals quite easily. Therefore I have way too many projects going on at once.
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QuasiTova
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Jun 10 @ 1:21PM
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I don't think I am thinking myself out of it...
I think it is more that I get too involved in making it happen...
kind of like jumping into a freezing pool without testing the temperature first.
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Hansumm
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Jun 10 @ 6:32PM
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HI...I am so guilty of this. I once met a girl and had a great time with, and laughed all night, and even a bit of smooching. I wanted to do something wonderful for her, so I sent her flowers. Okay...here is the rub. I shopped for a vase, that was one of the most beautiful I had ever seen and it was large to boot. The only kind of roses that could fit, were these special roses from france with ultra large flowers and super long stems...I meaan really long. I had 3 dozen rose to help fill the vase and other folliage to compliment it. After I was done helping the florist design this baby, I was sure it would show how I felt.
well, it backfired. It was so epic, that she was upset with me for embarassing her at work. Needless to say, the relationship ended as soon as it began like some magnificent italiian engineered fireworks.....It was as though I stuck a stick of TNT in any possibllity of it having a normal course. Yep, pure sabotage. 
Wanting something so bad seems inspire behavior to insure that natural spontaniety is squished. 
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shepster101
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Jun 10 @ 6:35PM
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OMG I hope you learn to relax and just let things happen. If you're "scaring" everyone involved with "over doing" things, that's just too sad. Sometime we are our own worst enemy. Let your kharma work for you.
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unionman154
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Jun 10 @ 6:37PM
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You're tripping my trigger with your thoughts here. ~*~
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QuasiTova
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Jun 10 @ 6:40PM
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Oh wow, Hansumm.... that is exactly what I am talking about.....
That is so like something I would do...
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Redwicket
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Jun 10 @ 6:41PM
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Well Yeah, you Are thinking yourself out of it...You think that you Need to keep doing
things to make it happen, instead of just relaxing and being yourself (enjoying the Journey)
thus allowing the person to get to know who you are, you're stressing yourself out and
becoming someone you are not.
Try a intention technique of Dr Dyer's...Imagine yourself surrounded by the conditions
that you wish to have happen in your life. Put all of the energy into such visualizations
instead of acting out what you think you need to be doing...and just be yourself, Relax!
Start by loving yourself first...that's where loving someone else Really starts.
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QuasiTova
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Jun 10 @ 6:44PM
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I am working on that, Shepster...
it is just easier said that done 
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QuasiTova
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Jun 10 @ 6:45PM
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Is tripping your trigger a good thing or a bad thing, Unionman? 
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callmemax
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Jun 10 @ 10:04PM
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why not continue to do the things you want? when the right guy comes along, he'll accept you for being you--- even if you are a little over the top, sometimes. it'll lead to a good laugh, by both of you. or not...
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justjohn_69
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Jun 11 @ 12:05AM
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Aha !!!! But just what is a "want" ? Is it the same as an "I would like", or a "wouldn't it be nice" ? I really don't think so.
When one wants, I think it implies a sense of control. Not that there is anything wrong with that, as all of us suffer from that little demon.
What is truly amazing is what happens when you begin to recognize, within yourself, why you want, and what that means.
Just a little food for thought ! 
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MarkAndy
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Jun 11 @ 6:50PM
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The Old Sailor
by A.A. Milne
There was once an old sailor my grandfather knew
Who had so many things which he wanted to do
That, whenever he thought it was time to begin,
He couldn't because of the state he was in.
He was shipwrecked, and lived on a island for weeks,
And he wanted a hat, and he wanted some breeks;
And he wanted some nets, or a line and some hooks
For the turtles and things which you read of in books.
And, thinking of this, he remembered a thing
Which he wanted (for water) and that was a spring;
And he thought that to talk to he'd look for, and keep
(If he found it) a goat, or some chickens and sheep.
Then, because of the weather, he wanted a hut
With a door (to come in by) which opened and shut
(With a jerk, which was useful if snakes were about),
And a very strong lock to keep savages out.
He began on the fish-hooks, and when he'd begun
He decided he couldn't because of the sun.
So he knew what he ought to begin with, and that
Was to find, or to make, a large sun-stopping hat.
He was making the hat with some leaves from a tree,
When he thought, "I'm as hot as a body can be,
And I've nothing to take for my terrible thirst;
So I'll look for a spring, and I'll look for it first."
Then he thought as he started, "Oh, dear and oh, dear!
I'll be lonely tomorrow with nobody here!"
So he made in his note-book a couple of notes:
"I must first find some chickens" and "No, I mean goats."
He had just seen a goat (which he knew by the shape)
When he thought, "But I must have boat for escape.
But a boat means a sail, which means needles and thread;
So I'd better sit down and make needles instead."
He began on a needle, but thought as he worked,
That, if this was an island where savages lurked,
Sitting safe in his hut he'd have nothing to fear,
Whereas now they might suddenly breathe in his ear!
So he thought of his hut ... and he thought of his boat,
And his hat and his breeks, and his chickens and goat,
And the hooks (for his food) and the spring (for his thirst) ...
But he never could think which he ought to do first.
And so in the end he did nothing at all,
But basked on the shingle wrapped up in a shawl.
And I think it was dreadful the way he behaved -
He did nothing but bask until he was saved!
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QuasiTova
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Jun 11 @ 6:57PM
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Heh, that sounds like me, MarkAndy.
Thanks for posting it :)
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