What do you mean I’m not woman enough???
I’m at work having lunch about a month ago or so.… Ok, yeah I know this sounds like a Jerry Springer moment… however I’m having lunch with my ex-husbands g/f… They live together. Yes she works at the same place I do… Yes, we get along good. Anyway, I don’t know if she meant to do it or what it was, but she starts telling me about all the things they do now… (things he never or wouldn’t do with me when we were married)
They play miniature golf. He wouldn’t go when I was married to him..
They go out to dinner all the time, and to different places, anywhere she wants to go… Um.. Not when I was married to him, we went to where he wanted to go and not that much, mostly because money was tight. He almost always picked the place.
He sends her roses every month… For there one year Anniversary he sent them to work. When I was married to him, he never got me flowers form a florist, it was always the grocery store.. I thought it was because he didn’t think to do that, or maybe it was a money issue.. I don’t know. Oh and roses are my favorite.
He wants to go out all the time now. When I was married to him the only thing he wanted to do was sit in his chair and watch TV…
So after being told all that, she asks me if he sounds like a different guy and if I want him back now?… I say, Yes, he sounds different then, I looked at her and said, Nope… I don’t! I don’t want him back.. This other guy starts saying, (not sure if he was kidding or what was his motive) He starts saying Wow, he sounds like he’s a new man… Maybe it was you! Maybe you just wasn’t woman enough to bring it out of him.. I was still thinking about why I didn’t want him back… (yes, he did something to me that I couldn’t get passed and he refused to go to counseling. That’s part of why I left him) I just took it and said, You may be right! I didn’t know what else to say… I think back and don’t’ understand what or why that all had been said? What he said was very hurtful. My ex-husband moved into her place, and even if he helps with the rent and bills, they both make more than I do… So he has more money now to blow… So, that could explain a lot… He also might have learned from passed mistakes.. So that could be a reason…
Or I may have to face, maybe I wasn’t woman enough… Maybe I wasn’t good enough. I always tried my best to make him happy. I started to look back, why am I the one that always got less… No baby shower. No wedding shower. No honeymoon. We never took a vacation that didn’t’ evolve seeing family. Oh it gets better, My ex b/f and I had an on again off again relationship till we broke up for good a year ago… We had separated for a month or so, and I find out he went out with someone and sent her flowers to her office… Nope, never send me a damn thing… Yeah, it made me sink a little inside when I found out, but never held it against him…That’s how I felt sitting there listening to these people talk.. I just sank… part of me wanted to say, Do you know what he did to me!!!! I didn’t. say anything. I sat, I sank lower inside. I cried the hole way home. I wondered why I’m so unworthy? Why would someone say that to someone they hardly know… this guy was new at work… He didn’t know me.. Was he kidding? Am I really not woman enough? Part of me wanted to start spilling out all the things he did to me and Say, does he sound like a different guy? Do you still want him now? However, I didn’t.. I kept my mouth shut… Who knows, maybe if I was more of a woman, I would have defended myself… Put them in there place.. Then I think, that would have only caused more problems!. So, being the woman I am, I took it. I said nothing. I guess in the back of my mind I know the truth! I know what really happened. I’m moving on… Sorry, but in my book that Does make me Woman Enough!
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bubblyb
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Jun 14 @ 6:15PM
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You go Girlfriend!!!! Yes, you are Woman enough!!! Don't give up.......... one day you will find the one for you. 
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fenderchick
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Jun 14 @ 6:17PM
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I'm sure you were woman enough...
He just wasn't man enough to love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Who cares about flowers and mini-golf, maybe underneath that he is still the jerk that you used to have!
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ragtopcookie
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Jun 14 @ 6:36PM
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Youre not woman enough...to take my man......sounds just like a country song.....in fact.....i think it is.........cookie
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Blueschic
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Jun 14 @ 6:42PM
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Angel.....Some other woman is also reaping the benefits of what I sacrificed for. My ex is different now too in some ways. She has the same personality as he does and one that I wouldn't have for all the money in the world. He's hen pecked too. Everyone knows it and I love the thought of it...LOL...I'm bad. I wouldn't take roses, miniature golf or anything to take mine back. I have peace of mind and I was too much woman for him...NO Doubt. Don't let some fool erode your confidence. You'll find the right guy and make sure he treats you like a queen or kick him to the curb!!!
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hpylady1
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Jun 14 @ 7:19PM
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You are a better person than any of them .. shame on them for being such asses .. I have been throwed in with my X and his wife many times and she gives me a hug when she leaves .. so this year I stopped it .. I was in my and my Xs house .. with them giving my son his 40th B'day party .. it was some day wow.
It was nice and yes I felt like a much stronger woman when I left .. and you should too .. less of a woman would have taken both of their heads off right there while they were having lunch... you did good 
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hereshannon
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Jun 14 @ 9:32PM
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The event that you just described is precisely why we should not socialize with our ex's new girlfriend. What a horrifying experience, I can't even imagine in my wildest nightmare having a conversation with my ex's new husband!! Some things in life should be avoided at all costs, and conversations with the ex's new squeeze tops the list.
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ANGRY_MUPPET
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Jun 14 @ 9:34PM
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Sorry, but in my book that Does make me Woman Enough!
.,yup.,sure does .,some other dude is driving my caddy now and my X  .,sure hope the transmission lasts longer than i thought it might .,dont wish any harm on anyone 
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Angel1964
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Jun 14 @ 10:23PM
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.,yup.,sure does
Awwwww... Thanks! 
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Angel1964
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Jun 14 @ 10:29PM
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I try to get along with my ex husband... I guess I don't understand why there has to be so much nastiness...For the most part we all get along… I just don’t know what was going on that day.. The more I keep thinking about it the more hurtful I think what that guy at work said was… She asked me once what happened and I wouldn’t tell her.. She doesn’t even know that he was seeing someone else when he started dating her.. I’m not saying a word… I’m not about to be the one to open that can of worms… Let her find out on her own… I’m staying out of it!
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sybnann
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Jun 14 @ 10:32PM
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Well angel, it all boils down to the fact that WE cannot ever control ANOTHERS behavior, nor are WE responisble for it.
Also, we can only change how we percieve others and the particular situation, rather than blaming ourselves.
Cheer up, it couldnt have been you. We don't "cause" people to act the way they do or don't. I had to learn all this the hard way, believe me. I hope this helps!!
  (they're not quite roses, but you deserve them!!!!)
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