....this is hard...never done this before...but then...never knew he was alive....
Happy Fathers Day, Daddy....first time I called you that...and has been what...45
years? You disappeared when my twin and I were 3 months old....just *poof*....
Mom waited for 6 years to have you declared legally dead...she kept hopin you
would walk in the door again...the same door she watched you walk out of on the
way to work 6 years earlier.
I never thought too much about it...had a step-father for many years till he died...he was my only dad I knew.
Till the call from my daughter 2 years ago..*Mom...are you sitting down?*
*I found your dad...alive...in Mesa, Arizona.......
WTF????? Thats crazy.....he's dead. *no mom...I have been tracing him...caused a hit on his families Web Site...looking for *the twins*..for over 40 years....*
Long story short...I talked with his family...even my half sisters, who remember my sis and I..the twin babies he brought over to them to see one day when we were 2 months old.
I wont go into the rest...but he doesnt want us to contact him...he has been running for many years..and is an old man and very tired. Everything about him when he married my mom was a lie...age, nationality, and even his name...
I wont bother him...but would give up everything I have in my life just to hear his voice...just to say...*I Love You....Happy Fathers Day to my DAD* 
Some day I may blog about what I have learned from the family Historian....it totally blew me away...and need I say my mom is soooo PISSED!!!!
My twin has gone to San Francisco to meet one of my half sisters...I dont want anything to do with any of them...sue me...
This was a start for me...a hard one...and one that has now let me cry....
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TroutFishing
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Jun 15 @ 12:21AM
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I heard recently that psychologists think that 85% of families are dysfunctional.
Life causes a lot of people to do unexplainable things.
The pressure you feel inside is what does it - not what
is actually happening.
We will never know why some things happen.
Sometimes it is better we do not.
  
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EmmeS61
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Jun 15 @ 12:21AM
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No words... just hugs. 
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WhoopDeDoo
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Jun 15 @ 12:28AM
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.but would give up everything I have in my life just to hear his voice
why?
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Jacksonboy
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Jun 15 @ 12:31AM
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callmemax
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Jun 15 @ 12:46AM
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being a sperm donor does not automatically make a man a "dad." or not...
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ragtopcookie
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Jun 15 @ 1:28AM
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Well it sounds to me that you turned out just fine without his help......and i also agree it takes more to be a father than just conception..........a son is a son until he finds him a wife......but a daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life.......happy fathers day my friend........cookie
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sloriver
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Jun 15 @ 2:12AM
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There's a deep need in all of us to know our roots and to know the people who gave us life if not a life. I understand your reluctance to meet his other family and in the end, it's all about you, sweet girl. What makes you happy and gives YOU the most comfort. You can't do the wrong thing. For you and your sister who were the victims of a father who abandoned you, there is no wrong that you can do. I hope you will find some peace from this kowledge of a father you thought was dead. Perhaps it would have been best not to know.
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ttomtarr
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Jun 15 @ 8:49AM
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My Mom passed away about 12 years ago. She was a unique woman, and I will never meet another like her. I very much miss her, even now.
About 3 years ago, I was telling this to a very much elder lady friend, and she offered to adopt me, a 62 year old man. Now she gets Mother's day cards, regular emails, and has someone to care for her. She more than reciprocates.
It is love, that makes a parent, and if your step father was a loving Dad, you got more than most recieve. It is also not to late to find a new stepfather.
Whose love is more real, someone who was dealt you in a biological shuffle, or someone who has chosen you to love?
I have been in both roles, both are equally important, but the latter loves by choice.
Remember with love the man who raised you, and pity the fool who walked away from life's greatest treasure.
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ANGRY_MUPPET
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Jun 15 @ 9:20AM
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the blog title says it all i think.,today is a confusing and difficult day for you.,and your mom.,
i met a sister i never knew i had this past January.,glad i did.,she was tenacious in her search.,said she found us thru a newspaper article about me.,we grew up an ocean apart.,but we had the exact same nickname.,we were amazed by that.,
after the shock,hurt and anger settles.,you may change your mind about meeting your half sisters.,i'm glad i met mine.,.,she is a wonderful person..it wasn't her fault.,
the rest is in an email 
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mystery2u888
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Jun 15 @ 9:27AM
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cowboy2x4
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Jun 15 @ 9:41AM
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From what I can see....that man walked away from a daughter who could have possibly changed his entire world....
big mistake Dad...Happy Father's Day,my lost brother!!!
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Tiramisu4u
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Jun 15 @ 10:22AM
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TY, all..... ....I usually am pretty private about personal stuff...now will have
to finish the story.....and trust me...it is pretty sad...and almost unbelievable...but have requested, and gotton verification of facts....
Someday..will tell you all...
Bless all you Fathers out there.....and also the mothers that had to become Fathers....
*pssst*...have decided I want Cookie to be my dad*...  
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MrPaul
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Jun 15 @ 2:11PM
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God bless you dear lady
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dallas1995
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Jun 15 @ 7:38PM
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my father lived to be 75...died of pancreatic cancer...celebrated my mom amd his 50th wedding anniversary a year before he passed...I know my father loved me...and I never heard those words from him...not even on his death bed...I am a father...and my two sons spent the weekend with me...good times...I tell them I love them often...
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IB4U
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Jun 15 @ 11:17PM
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My heart goes out to you....
But the important thing is that you have turned out to be the person you are...
With all of life's tragidies and blessings you have been strong enough to over come and still be a loving caring person....
Let the tears flow and be true to yourself....Look ahead to a bright future and know you are loved by your family and others....Those tears may have been surpressed for many years, get them out and move on....
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Slohand_47
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Jul 8 @ 11:35PM
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I'ts been a few weeks and my memory is fuzzy........ but I think it was Senator Obama on Fathers day who said in a speech........ Anyone can father a child, but it takes a man to stay and raise a child.
I can't know what you feel....... but I wouldn't give too much emotional power to a person who wasn't much more than a sperm donor. He left because HE wasn't worth it........ not you and your family.
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