Knowledge is Power posted 6/15/2008 9:59:51 PM | 45 kudos what's this?     report abuse tagged: players, married, relationships, honesty

LaughTillYaPuke

In this strange and bizarre world of online dating, it is very easy for one person to deceive another. Now I am a trusting soul and I tend to take people at their word. But I have also learned that it pays to be savvy, and my Daddy didn't raise a fool. There are many ways to go about finding out if a person is telling the truth, and I have mastered a system that has not failed me yet. I have now caught two men from online in some pretty incredible lies.

Now we all know that when a man only gives you his cell phone number and not his home phone it should raise a few questions in a girls mind. But there are other ways to find out the truth without having to rely on the other person to always be completely honest. I realize that what I am about to post here will cause some people to scream "Invasion of Privacy!" I really couldn't give a shit. I have found that honest people have no problem with you checking them out. It is only those with much to hide that freak out when you tell them what you have done. So, let's take a look at how to catch a liar/cheater shall we? This will cost you approximately $15.00 a year and will allow you to catch as many pathological liars as you have time for.

First of all, you DO need their personal email address. Once you have that, you have the world at your finger tips. Yahoo, Hotmail, Gmail, Outlook, they are as good as hooking someone up to a lie detector test.

You now need to subscribe to a tracking program. I have found that the easiest to work with is "Point of Mail." They are cheap, reliable, and the results are instantaneous. And that kind of turn around time if perfect for an instant gratification girl like me. Let's say I'm going to check out Jim, my good friend on here. Once I have paid my $15.00, I simply type his address as follows...


Jim @ madeupemail.com.POINTOFMAIL.COM

I have highlighted for you the new addition. This add on to his email address is undetectable. I simply write him an email, attach those few letters and send it off. Within less than 3 seconds I will have a confirmation email from POM (point of mail) telling me that my email has been sent. BUT....as soon as he opens that email, they will immediately contact me and let me know he opened it. I will also receive his IP address, who his service provider is, his mailing address, AND they will also tell me if he copy/pastes anything from my emails, or even if he should forward my emails to others.

I know....breathe deep, it gets even better..... I can set up my email with the click of a button, that if he SHOULD try to copy/paste something from my emails, (let's say some suggestive pictures) it will become impossible for him to do so. AND if he really pisses me off????? I can destroy the email while it is sitting in his email box. And there he would sit trying to figure out where that email went. How beautiful is this? But for right now, let's focus on extracting the information that we need.

I have checked out many men from online, but 2 came up so dirty on this first step that they required a bit more searching. How did they come up dirty you ask? Because when I got the confirmation email...the IP address was owned by a woman. And I now had her name. AND her address. Just to keep things anonymous, let's say that it came up in my good friend Pammy's name. I now have a way to contact her don't I? But now it's time to go to Google.

I Google her name...."Pammy Anonymous" and the city and state. Google will promptly give me her address and telephone number. How nice of them! I then switch over into google maps, and I now can see her lovely house. Heck, let's live a little and do a street view. This is always fun if you can see the man's car in the driveway or on the street out front.

Well now, we could stop here. He MAY just be living with his sister after all. But will you really be able to sleep with not knowing? I didn't think so. We have a couple of options here. We can do a reverse IP search on google and get HER email address and contact her that way, OR...we can just call the girl and shoot this horse in the head. If you know me at all, you know that I would choose the quick painless death, for everyone involved.

Just call the woman. You can pretend to be a telemarketer, or you can pretend to be a long lost friend, or....you could just tell the woman who you are. It's your choice. This last time, I chose to pretend to be a friend. And this is how it played out. Again, we will be using my friends names here so as to protect the not-so-innocent.

Hello?

Hi Pam, is Jim there? (Remember, I'm pretending to know her. This is surprisingly effective as most people won't admit straight off the bat that they can't figure out who you are)

No, he's at work right now.

Darn it. He get's off at 11:00 tonight again?

Yeah, I think so. Although who the hell ever knows what that man is doing! (Yep, you guessed it....this woman has been run through the ringer. And that one comment alone told me volumes.)

Do you know if he has his cell with him tonight?

I think so. He never puts that thing down the last couple of weeks (Bingo!)

Yeah, well...he doesn't always have it on. Do you have his work number handy? I don't know where the hell I put it.

And you guessed it people, I now had his work number.

Now...many people have caller ID, so it is sometimes easier to just pretend to be a telemarketer. It is your choice and you need to pick what is the most comfortable for you. I chose to go a step farther. I called his place of employment and pretended to be from a loan company verifying his employment and his salient points. Home address, phone number, years worked and his position with the company.

I now know that this man has been living with a woman for quite a while. And that woman sounds pretty f***ing tired of dealing with his crap. I also know much more about him don't I? But in the end, I know that I never want to have contact with him again. And THAT is what this is all about.

Now, EVERY man that I have tracked I have told them (afterwards of course) Except for this last one, he'll be figuring it out pretty quick when he reads this blog. But every man that I was honest with and had told them what I had done....wasn't fazed in the least. EXCEPT for the one who got caught with his pants down. The rest of those innocent men thought it was a riot and was actually proud of my Nancy Drew like skills. I have now checked 11 men from online. That is about $1.30 each. But not having to go through he emotional hell of falling for a taken man...well boys and girls...that's priceless.

So I thank you for coming on this journey with me, I hope you enjoyed the ride. And while the school year is over for me, I hope that I may still be capable of teaching people new things. Because, after all, knowledge is power.

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