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The news of my death have been greatly exaggerated.......Mark Twain
It seems that we were all victims of a terrible hoax and it saddens me beyond words. It was reported that a former MD member passed away on Friday from Pancreatic Cancer. The news came from the past member's "cousin" and fellow MD member.
Guess what......the "cousin" is actually that person's second identity and there was no death. This has been verified by 3 other people and searches of obituaries for details on services, also by someone who had been told that this may occur but they didn't really think it would happen.
I, along with several others that I know, spent the weekend in grief over the loss of a friend only to be shocked during the last 24 hours with the confirmation of this cruel hoax. At this point I don't know which hurts more......the thought that I had lost a friend to death or the fact that I have lost a friend to betrayal and lies.
Although I know it's not my responsibility to do so.......I apoligize to everyone that this has affected and to those who offered their heart felt condolences to the family. I don't think we will ever get one from them.
I guess I have learned the hard way to keep my heart to myself, I can't afford to have it handed back to me like this again. Please be careful yourselves.
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Skydognc
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Jun 17 @ 3:53PM
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and here I was accused of not having a heart because I wasnt sympathetic..
I am however sympathetic to those who walked in the goodness of heir heart.
and the Lord knoweth the heart!
Cart  Cart
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teacuppoms
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Jun 17 @ 3:56PM
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cart i thought u switched to mulitply
and yes i heard here of the death of a lady and although i didnt know her i felt sad and offered my condolences
why would anyone play such a horrible prank?
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KnittinKitten
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Jun 17 @ 3:56PM
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This type of incident, unfortunately, is not unknown to me. I received an announcement of the death of a gal in an auto accident. I have spoken to her many times since that time and we will never know who created such a cold, vengeful thing.
I do not think I know the person to whom you are referring, but, since you cannot post names on here, without ending up in jail, may I suggest that you just be available to any who message you in private email, letting them know the name of the person who was supposed to have died, and the name of the person who gave you this information.
I think it's important for us to know these names so that our interaction here on the site can be more comfortable, knowing we are not corresponding with that person. If I read your blog correctly, the "cousin" is actually the "dead person" who has taken a new name?  
KK
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ladybuy2008
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Jun 17 @ 4:18PM
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Very sad indeed, and does not surprise me on MD. There are so much BS on here, it's pathetic. I'm sorry that you got hurt by this cartay! I'll bet there are other deaths on here that were faked, but that is there problem, not ours.
It's called mental illness and they need help, but we are not therapists so not much we can do but warn others. Good blog.
Hugs!
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misschoos
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Jun 17 @ 4:27PM
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~*~
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EternalFlame
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Jun 17 @ 4:39PM
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Oh, Cart! I'm so sorry this happened to you! Sometimes people aren't exactly what they seem, and it's awful to find out we've been fooled. Big hugs to you!
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Fender
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Jun 17 @ 4:43PM
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Cartcart your wonderful...
That was evil, dirty and nasty beyond belief, to fake your own death for sypathy, shame on you. I thought she was a nice lady, now I see she obviously has some problems, mental illness being the main one...
I am so sorry you had to go through all of this. It's not fair Cart and it makes me not want to trust anyone at all...
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missliss78
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Jun 17 @ 5:09PM
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Big hugs to you, cartay.
I have always thought you were such a nice lady.
As I'd read many times about that person's illness, I often wondered how someone under those conditions could be so bitter as she had presented herself to me in public & in a rash of private emails.
I'm very sorry you have suffered through this... 
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Ginstl
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Jun 17 @ 5:19PM
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I was quite upset about her alledged death. I guess the jokes on all of us.
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luvmycats
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Jun 17 @ 5:24PM
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I don't know who she is, nor was. I did see something posted about it, and felt bad for her friends.
 Car.
I am disappointed for a couple of you that commented though. Yes, she may indeed have a mental illness, but its PEOPLE LIKE YOU, that cause her not to be able to seek help for it. Don't point an accusing finger, instead, encourage her to seek help.
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BrendaInWisconsin
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Jun 17 @ 5:49PM
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I agree with fenderchick. sadly this happens all over the net involving those with a "sick" need for attention. 
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mystery2u888
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Jun 17 @ 6:00PM
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It was not you.. ...and I have seen it before.. ..........but.............those that ........  create multiple profiles.......and the worse kind to seek attn....... trying to say they had passed away............is really sick and to want attn so badly......from others.. here...........they have no self conscious or care about anybody else only those who are scammers............as that person appears to do such a hoax on innocent people here......................karma....  ....will get them back.........that is not a laughing matter in my opinion as.........someone here may have a family member or friend who is going thru cancer........and ..........everyone's heart goes out.....to them......  ..........that is why I now am extremley careful..........what......is real.........and what is fake..... remember it wasn't you................
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ttomtarr
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Jun 17 @ 6:24PM
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Dear Cartay,
Don't harden your heart because of the stupid act of some rude fool.
That would be a loss to all of us, and most of all you, turning a hoax into a robbery.
Please stay your sweet self !
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tentfire
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Jun 17 @ 6:26PM
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OMG! I heard about this person's "death" via a phone call from another member, obviously upset. It upset me and I posted my heartfelt condolences on a blog I found about this person absolutely confirming this person's death.
I think this is one of the lowest things a person can do. I'm at a loss for words now.
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teddybearagain
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Jun 17 @ 6:36PM
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Amazing, ..absolutely amazing that people truly give their friendship, their hearts, and themselves and then a "story" like this happens. I am sorry indeed Cart, that you befriended someone, gave her your heart, and then the "joke" turns out to be on you. Good Lord, what has happened to our society in a whole that people actually think it's ok to treat someone like this? I rarely go off on a rant on this site, or in "my other life", but this has me upset, pissed, and feeling awful for all who were involved in her life. Amazing!!! And so the MD saga continues, ..stay tuned folks, more to come I'm sure ...
Cart, .. You are an AWESOME lady, with a heart of gold, as are MANY on this site. My pain is for you, my anger is towards her. Don't EVER stop giving and loving the way you do because of this.
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poeticcougar
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Jun 17 @ 6:41PM
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OMG that is sick! CartCart....here's a BIG hug for you Love ya my fave babysitter on the planet
Mental illness or not, what happened was WRONG! Disgraceful, shameful, and downright hateful. Do not weave people into your lowly web for in the end the spider does end up squished on a shoe! This can't even be considered a joke, multiple persoanlity or not, for all the hurt and crying that was caused....
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bardnsage
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Jun 17 @ 7:02PM
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Don't harden your heart because of the stupid act of some rude fool.
That would be a loss to all of us, and most of all you, turning a hoax into a robbery.
DITTO.
We can't control the actions of others, only our responses to them.
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kattsmeow
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Jun 17 @ 7:18PM
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Wow, this takes me back to the old MD boards. We had something similair happen then with a person.
I am sorry Cartay,
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suzzieq356
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Jun 17 @ 7:19PM
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Love you Cart....
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sloriver
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Jun 17 @ 8:29PM
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A few years ago the sister of a friend contacted me to tell me my friend had been killed in a plane crash in Denver the month before. I was sick at heart. I told a mutual friend who became suspicious. It seems I'm a little gullable and never suspect people of dishonesty. This mutual friend checked with the Federal Aviation Administration and found there were no plane crashes in colorado that month and no fatalities in a plane crash in three years. I was the victim of this once upon a time friend who wanted to attend her own funeral, I suppose.
It's impossible to understand. I truly believe there is mental illness involved when a person seeks attention this way. I'm sorry you had to feel such a loss for the ego boost of such a person.
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imlost2
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Jun 17 @ 9:05PM
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As I said on the other blog, I feel sorry for her if she felt she needed to find out if anyone loved her, that she had to actually see for herself if anyone cared. Now she probably has lost her most valued friends and has gained nothing. She's known as a liar and has cheated herself out of what could have been great relationships from MD. It's truely sad. She's probably going to me more lonlier now than ever. Truely sad for sure. tc Lost
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Tiramisu4u
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Jun 17 @ 9:55PM
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WHAT??????? Ohhhh noooo..... 
WTF is WRONG with people????
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EmmeS61
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Jun 17 @ 10:12PM
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I am sorry that you got hurt my friend. You deserve so much better.
What an evil thing to do. To prey on people in that way. Turning emotions into knots. Stirring up feelings of people who have battled illness and of those who have lost people to illness. An unforgivable act of cruelty. It truly saddens me to find out what some are capable of.
Hugs to you Cart... take some time and heal, but don't let your heart get hardened. I have to believe that this type of person is the exception, not the rule.
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daisy315
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Jun 17 @ 11:07PM
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For the past few weeks, I have been grieving for a wonderful friend of mine that has but a couple of weeks left at the most.. the thought of losing him has been sheer agony.. and then comes along some POS that would pull this kind of crap on people that they supoosedly care for..
Shame on you.. shame on you.. this will most certainly come back to bite you in the ass in the worst way.. I hope I am around to watch it sneak up on your nasty ass .. don't expect any sympathy from me... you might get something you aren't expecting instead
I am sorry Carty.. that you were the victim of such a terrible hoax..
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Palomino
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Jun 18 @ 1:15AM
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I'm so sorry you had to worry and grieve for no reason, Cartay. I have had this happen to me twice now and one person I had met at an MD gathering. I was shocked, hurt and angry but I would never let someone like that take away my compassion for others. I don't think you will put your heart away, either, my friend.
~*~
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hunt4luv
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Jun 22 @ 11:11AM
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One should be careful of claims of sickness for attention.
who knows what they may bring upon themselves.
Whoever you are I wish you no ill.
What will be will be.
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