just lookin for some military wives that can give some advice if I need it! My husband just left for his first deployment, I'm not sure what to expect. If you want, message me please!!
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jers04
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Jun 26 @ 10:55PM
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Hi. I'm not a mlitary wife but I did spend 25 yrs in the Army. If I can help please email me. 
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lostinmesaaz
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Jun 26 @ 11:12PM
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Not much to expect. You just pray every day he will come home safe/ unharmed.
You go on like any other day. Trying to find happiness in everthing you do. Don't watch the new it will help so you won't be even more afraid seeing what he is dealing with. If you have children talk to them about their dad every day so they can also learn to handle him being gone for a short while. I'll send a prayer for his safe return like my son when he had to go. Ta Ta God Speed...
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bardnsage
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Jun 26 @ 11:59PM
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Try to remember the time diference, and understand that he has not much freedom when he can and can not get a phone, email, etc....
Be as supportive as possible.
Not that I'm saying or implying anything, but no Dear John crap. It will keep till he gets home.
Remember, NO NEWS is good news. The services do not pretend that you need notified of anything, when everything is OK.
Go to the website, UNMETNEEDS.COM. You may never need this organization, but it's good to know where some resources might be,,,
Network with the wives of the other guys in his unit. Email is fine.
Write,,,, not just emails, but actual letters. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, or have great news or bad news.....just write. There is one strand, one slim connection to home that is still sacred..... mail call. There is no substitute for opening a letter, and reading. Even if it is just a few pages about your day.
(This is rather a touchy subject to write about, so excuse me,,,,,) Do not send dirty photos, unless he asks for them. All kinds of reasons,,,,,but just trust me on this. Mention in a letter that "Some of the other wives are sending them, what does he think,,,," and then let him lead on that. Nuff about that....
Send him some care packages,,, it doesn't have to be fancy. Big brown envelope with a letter and some of his favorite mags is a good start. If he doesn't have any,,,, pick him a couple based on his hobbies. Don't put anything cute in the magazine, cause these things get passed around,,,,,alot. Other things that could go into a care package are comfort items, etc. Listen to his letters, network with the other wives, etc. My favorite things, I got were, baby powder, playing cards, my own freaking brand of tooth paste - I'm allergic to mint, slim jims - taste of home, stuff like that.
If there were any ongoing projects when he left, keep him informed about them.
OK,,,,that's a good start,,,, Good luck, and don't forget to pray.
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mystery2u888
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Jun 27 @ 1:21AM
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I am so sorry  I know how hard it is...  ...there are many here and I have my friends that have left.....and just wishing the best.......I wait for them to call or email me.......time goes very slow but.....with friends and support.......it's a blessing for the time to go by....... 
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roro83
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Jun 27 @ 1:30AM
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Thank you so much, all of you !! It eases so much that I have some people that can give me small help like this. Nobody in my area, that I know of, is even willing to share information like this. I really truly appreciate it!
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