About a week ago I was going through profiles on a different site, just telling men what was wrong with their profiles, I had been drinking and I could see the mistakes, that they could not. I got mostly negative responses, of course I did, until one was positive. So for 3 days or so we emailed, long emails, not short ones until I gave him my phone number so then we talked till 5 am. and then every day after that. These are not stupid bs phone calls, these are meaningful, indepth phone calls. We have discussed everything from politics to religions and then some. I look forward to his phone calls and his IM's, but I worry that I am not what he is not looking for. Let's face it, I am not the most attractive women, I don't have the body of a super model, or the face of a young girl. I am a woman gracefully aged by the trials that this life has put before me. But what if I am not what he is looking for. This fear has chased me around for a couple of days now. I like him. I like his attitude and passion for life. I am scared, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to appear desperate, but on the other had to ignore him is well to let him go. so where does one draw the line. How far do I push before I am just being pushy. When I was 19 this was easy, I would go for broke, and never look back. But now I am questioning my own actions. Can anyone tell me how far to go before it is just to far?
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texasblues
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Jun 30 @ 2:03AM
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Like they say nothing ventured nothing gained. Done the same as you would have at 19 and good luck with it 
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beckyiv42000
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Jun 30 @ 2:11AM
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Not seeing where you are not attractive  and Im sure he has seen pics of you right?? then let go and take a chance hon..we are our own worst critics trust me..(i do the same thing you are doing all the time  why?? I dunno ) So just go for broke , meet and if nothing more you may have made a good friend right?? If you don't at least try you will be kicking yerself for being scared GO GO GO and dont look back !!! 
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ragtopcookie
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Jun 30 @ 4:09AM
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You worry too much......just go meet the guy and be yourself.....if he cant see how wonderful you are....well then you wont have to waste anymore time with him.....good luck my friend......i wish you all that you want........cookie
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EternalFlame
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Jun 30 @ 7:47AM
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I am a woman gracefully aged by the trials that this life has put before me.
Indeed. And that in itself is more than enough to make you special.
I say meet him...let things progress naturally and even if there's no spark, at least you'll have made a cherished friend.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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edthepoet
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Jun 30 @ 7:56AM
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You said you had meaningful talks, then if he thought your looks would drive him away, he wouldn't keep talking to you.
There's nothing wrong with your looks and he obviously saw your pic and he still talks to you in a respectful way.
Now, is he sounding he rather have you a a friend or in a romantic way. I mean through dropping hints like most people do and why aren't you dropping hints,lol
Here's a big hug to settle your fears.
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Slohand_47
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Jun 30 @ 9:09AM
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You have no control over what he thinks... or wants....... and worrying about it accomplishes nothing. (except raising your blood pressure)
Take care of you...... and think about what you want & need from a friend/relationship. Don't put too high of expectations on this. Take it one day at a time and enjoy it for what it IS...... not what you hope it could be.
Sounds cliche I know......... but Stay in the moment.
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sarina543
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Jun 30 @ 1:37PM
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Thanks to everyone that commented, your encouragement(sp) was very helpful. So last night I sent him an email telling him how I was feeling, well that turned into a phone conversation that did not end until 5:30 this morning. I have no idea where all of this is going, but right now I am happy. He may turn out to be an all out idiot, but I would not have the chance to find out if I had not stepped outside of my comfort zone last night and just said what I needed to say. So now I am gonna have to go for broke, I have already stepped outside of the box, it is just like I am 19 again!!!!
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sweetxy
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Jul 1 @ 10:21PM
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To meet someone if I don't feel rigth I'd not try.
almost one year on MD I met only two gentlemen , very nice dinner,I'm glad they both look greater than what I see in profile.Unfortunately I chose to be in relationship with the other man I met on match.com.I should believe in my own sense since after we first met, something not ok but I and him still trying to work on relationship for a few months ,guess what! all what my sense told me was right. Not worked out!
It really sounds like gambling(who said this..)you will never know!
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