Every once in a while, I run across a profile or profile picture that so moves me that I feel compelled to write the lady. It doesn't matter if she's 6' 1" and a political operative for the RNC, or half a world away and probably having someone screen her mail and read the good ones. I just stumble on one of those faces that for one brief instant I think, "Man, I could look at THAT every morning for the next 50 years, NO problem!" or read an intelligent, well-written, properly spelled and punctuated profile that says everything I would like to hear a lady say. And I write them a brief note. Just to tell that that they don't know me from Adam, and they have no reason to care what my opinion is one way or another, but I was impressed by their face, or the brief glance into their personality. Sometimes I'm even quick to reassure them that I understand we are not a match, based on what they have said they're looking for or some other condition I feel I can't fulfill, and I have no intention of trying to make them like me or be interested in me or anything like that. And I'm not weirdly obsessed. I'm not going to write them twice a day, or even probably ever again. I just wanted to tell them they gave me a moment's pleasure.
It is arrogant to think perhaps I repaid them in kind?
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LaughTillYaPuke
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Jul 3 @ 8:41AM
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Not at all. I think that is a wonderful respectful way to show your admiration. Good on you! 
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jamminjerry
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Jul 3 @ 9:53AM
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nor do i consider it to be arrogant. i consider it to be brave! many times i have went past a profile that i have went back and looked at again and again. as you said, you and I are quite sure "she" wouldn't give us the time of the day on the street but we are compelled to at least ask. just maybe, she will be the one that will want to spend a little of her time finding out a bit more about you or I. we must continue the battle with these social games. at least we can say we have fought with valor and bravery. we be jammin 
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Ginstl
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Jul 3 @ 10:08AM
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There is nothing wrong with paying someone a compliment. Who doesn't like to be complimented?
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Fender
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Jul 3 @ 10:21AM
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I think it's a sweet thing to do.
Sometimes I look at peoples pictures on their profile, then read the profile, or vice-versa...A few times I have read such original material on the profile that I had to tell them I really enjoyed reading it 
It's usually something funny though on their profile that caught my attention. A compliment is a nice thing though, no matter what.
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swtldybikr
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Jul 3 @ 10:30AM
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I do that all the time. Send someone a hello.. and a compliment on their smile or profile... and wish them luck. I think a moment of kindness for no reason is like a little mint on the pillow of your day. Just enough for a quick grin.
Your profile is really nice also by the way... (we'd like to see your smile!!)
Happy 4th!
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SallyF
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Jul 3 @ 10:54AM
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Arrogant? No way. I do this on occasion, also, with no expectation of a response. This is a community, and sharing the positive with one another strengthens the 'tapestry' within which we share bits and pieces of our lives. JMO
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madamegeek
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Jul 3 @ 11:36AM
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Isn't this an example of the adage "A man's (woman's) reach should exceed his (her) grasp"? That is the expression of hopefulness to which we all relate.
But by this comment of yours-
It is arrogant to think perhaps I repaid them in kind?
- aren't you saying that, despite your dismissals that you do not expect to be taken seriously as a potential suitor, they ought to regard you as worthy of being one?
I have always thought that the most exhilarating relationships are those where each person feels just a wee bit "unworthy" of the other and is thrilled beyond belief to have been chosen by the other. Sadly, it works that way ONLY when both feel this unparalleled enthusiasm; more often it is one that is in awe of the other. Generally, that relationship is directed toward doom.
In all things, balance matters.
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ragtopcookie
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Jul 3 @ 12:38PM
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Just the other day my son and i were talking about beautiful women.....and how they act as if they can say or do whatever they want because of their beauty....i told my son that i read some place that a womans beauty is both a blessing and a curse.....a blessing for them.....to use their beauty to get what they want...and to step over as many people as they have to to get it.....and a curse...that when that beauty fades...that they can nolonger do what they have been doing their whole lives....and they have to rely on whats left...which is nothing at all....and in life...we call that justice......cookie
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Nightowl001
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Jul 3 @ 1:19PM
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- aren't you saying that, despite your dismissals that you do not expect to be taken seriously as a potential suitor, they ought to regard you as worthy of being one? Really, Mme., no. It isn't a desire to be even considered as a potential suitor, but just that what I think matters to even a small degree, despite there being no good reason it should. A hope that the mere fact I am a fellow human being who finds something about them attractive or pleasant should be cause for them to take some small measure of comfort or pleasure at some point in their life. This is why I question if it is arrogant. Some of them, I'm sure, have a reactoin like, "I don't know you, I don't know anything about you, and your opinion of me makes no difference in my life whatsoever so why should I care about your opinion?" And I understand that point of view. I have no answer as to why they should care about my opinion. But part of it is in my personal interpretation of The Golden Rule.
If most of us actually followed the Golden Rule and treated others as we want to be treated, I firmly believe the majority of people would be running around shining each others’ boots, and complimenting their looks, intelligence, virility and fecundity, (though most without any semblance of honesty). But, we would all be convinced (because we were told and shown) we were beautiful, compassionate, charitable, loving people, and the funny thing is... if we were treated that way, maybe we would be.
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Tiramisu4u
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Jul 3 @ 9:28PM
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I think that it is very sweet for anyone of both sexes to just send a compliment or nice comment, without any expectations of a further relationship.
Sometimes it is like a breath of fresh air...and should be reciprocated, and or, at least acknowledged that the sendee took a moment of their time to do this... 
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missliss78
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Jul 3 @ 10:17PM
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I've done this in the past myself.....never expecting anything in return....pleased when I do receive a kind thank you.
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