Nobody interfered with the upbringing of my children; it’s always been “my way, my decisions.” If they ever asked their father or grandparents for anything, they were always told to come and ask me first, which I respected, although it hadn’t been my idea, it’s just the way it turned out.
There was none of the “Mum said ‘no’ so we’ll go and ask Dad to see if we get a different answer, before we ask the grandparents” sort of manipulation. I’ve never let them have their own way, and in this way, there was no chance they ever got it, so they were never spoiled.
I never get any of those “Dad or someone else would have let us” arguments either!
I’ve never been soft with them, and sometimes feel guilty for that, even though I know I am certainly doing the right thing at the time.
At times I do feel like they get a pretty rough deal with me, whereas their friends seem to get things a whole lot easier...But when I get a text message just after I’ve been tough, saying “Thank you, I love you,” or something to that effect, it pretty much sums everything up for me, and I love them too, they mean the world to me.
I like beer and red wine too, don’t get me wrong, my children aren’t everything. After all, when the children are gone, the beer and red wine will still be here. 
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imlost2
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Jul 18 @ 12:28PM
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You sound so much like me raising my kids. They have to know their boundaries and your morals etc. In fact I think kids depend on knowing you won't settle for anything they do just because you love them. I've told mine a time or two, I love them, but hate what they did, in one situation or another. I won't condone wrong-doings, by any of my children and they will have to suffer my wrath. Having said that, they do their best to make me proud and try to live a good life with decent morals. It's all you can do, the rest is up to them. tc Lost
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jerzygrl328
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Jul 18 @ 12:33PM
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Do they really leave? I'm begining to think it's a myth....  
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Tunes4u
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Jul 18 @ 12:56PM
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"Mum?"
"Yes?"
"Please pass the wine?"
" *hic* ........ooops...heh heh.....
" Listen! At some point this simply must stop! I just opened this bottle, and in no time at all, it is almost gone! You kids are gonna have to start buying yer own wine....at some point."
" Mum?"
"Yes...now what is it?"
" May we go and play on the roof now?"
" Yes yes ...of course....go play on the roof then....but be careful."
" Ok Mum....we will...."
~*~
Tunes
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cocoloveu
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Jul 18 @ 1:43PM
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LaughTillYaPuke
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Jul 18 @ 1:51PM
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Your a good momma! And you make beautiful babies too!  
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TroutFishing
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Jul 18 @ 3:33PM
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Children need to know that people choose their paradigm
of what is moral / acceptable behavior etc. What is best
is to be consistent. They really appreciate that. They also
appreciate that while they may choose differently, they
respect that you are consistent and believe in your choices.
 
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one_dimple
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Jul 19 @ 6:03PM
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You have to be a tough 'momma' these days. My kids used to write me 'notes' expressing just what they thought of my restrictive ways and then they would write more notes telling me how bad they felt for writing the first notes....all signed, "I love you." I still have many of those notes. By age 18, my daughter had me on this pedestal that I've yet to be able to climb down from. She has thanked me a hundred times over for being tough and never giving up on her. All worth it in the end.
By the way, the notes are hilarious to read now. You're definitely a good mum!
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