I would like to know..as to why
may family does this.
Other fams might as well,and I just don't get it.
The only time our ENTIRE family gets togeather,
is when someone dies.Everyone is a dressed up in there best,
and smiles and laughs,then cries.
Everyone wants to know how 'I' am...but I stand
there as they ask someone next to me.
"Oh,how is she doing,is she out of school,is she working?"
all of that
blah
blah
blah....
But,I'm like....**I'm right here!**
They look down at me...but say nothing to my face.
Well anyways,
thats not all that bugs me.
What really bugs me..is that when I ask.
"How come when someone dies...we only.."
Then I get cut-off---someone says-->"I know,I know,-
this is the time we only get-togeather."
And they run off.
I mean...when you see someone that is DEAD,
I don't think they can see you,
or sit up in there coffin and say.."Oh,HI...nice to see you."
GOD!!!
It's not like the even VISIT that person at all
untill they are in there coffin'..thats what peeves me off!
they COULD of spent time with them when they are
alive...but do they?NO!
Why must we have sad furnerals anyways,I mean if this is the only
time we are all togeather..why can't we have a party.
Maybe for an entire day.
There are happy furnerals,I've seen them.
Maybe we can be happy for the times that they have been
here,and happy that they can rest now.
Or am I crazey? 
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Jul 27 @ 12:08AM
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Maybe your family is strange. My grandmother (mom's mom) was a cold, bitter person who ultimately pushed all those who loved her away. She ended up dying alone in a convalescent home. Only my mother attended her funeral.
However, When my grandfather died (dad's dad) every single one of his children was with him as he passed on. We visited him often, even before he was sick. He was a bit uptight, and had the strangest sense of humor, but we still all loved him.
When we got together for his funeral, there were lots of tear, but also lots of celebrating his life and enjoying our time together as a family that enjoyed having him in our lives.
And it's not just funerals we get together as a whole family for- we also enjoyed being together for my sister's and brother's weddings (two different weddings).
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beckyiv42000
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Jul 28 @ 1:09AM
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I can tell you why... a LOT of family shows up to save face...even if they hated the deceased .. them not showing up would cast a black mark on what OTHERS think of them..  so they show up to make others think they care  and put on the facade of being a GOOD person , a caring person , etc and some just show up so they can gossip You can always tell tho ones that truly cared.. they will still be in mourning .. not working the crowd so to speak 
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misschoos
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Jul 29 @ 5:51AM
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We don't have sad funerals here. We have a serious service and a celebration of life. 
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