As a lot of you know I left this site for awhile because of the constant badgering, hurtful comments and bitterness among fellow members. I have come back, not to fall into that same mode, but to blog and talk with friends..I do have a few friends left on here..I know there are some that don't like me and thats ok, I will just avoid them and hope in return they will do the same to me..I haven't attacked anyone nor have I made any rude comments or blogs about anyone.  I am suggesting we let go of grudges and bitterness and try a little love and kindness.
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Your mother criticized your parenting skills. Your friend gossiped about you. Your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance.
But when you don't practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.
What is forgiveness? 
There's no one definition of forgiveness. But in general, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness is the act of untying yourself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you. This can reduce the power these feelings otherwise have over you, so that you can a live freer and happier life in the present. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
I read this article that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems. Some of the benefits of letting go of these feelings and forgiving can be:
Lower blood pressure
Stress reduction
Less hostility
Better anger management skills
Lower heart rate
Lower risk of alcohol or substance abuse
Fewer depression symptoms
Fewer anxiety symptoms
Reduction in chronic pain
More friendships
Healthier relationships
Greater religious or spiritual well-being
Improved psychological well-being So maybe we should all try a little harder to forgive and forget..  
Something to think about.. 
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Duffy869
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Aug 4 @ 7:24PM
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Amen to those thoughts 
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magnolia57
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Aug 4 @ 7:24PM
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you said it my friend, life is too short to hold on to anger .
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Ginstl
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Aug 4 @ 7:24PM
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RainSongSpirit
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Aug 4 @ 7:26PM
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legacy1
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Aug 4 @ 7:29PM
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Angel1964
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Aug 4 @ 7:41PM
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DRACULA_VwV
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Aug 4 @ 7:45PM
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Yessss, kill your emotionsssss, then it will be easy to kill everyone when the time comesssssssssss, have you ever killed a bug? Watch it splatter on your windshield. There's no remorse, no repent, no vengeance, no revenge, killing is natural, it's easy, don't hold any guilt, killing an overpopulated society is good for humanity. Become one with life, after you become one with balance. Yesssss, kill your emotionsssssss, become a cold blooded reptile.
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iglooo101
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Aug 4 @ 7:54PM
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and try a little love I agree 100%
where is the BBQ?
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cancun1999
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Aug 4 @ 8:03PM
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where is the BBQ? Here you go hon... and a few of these to go with it.. 
I will have to do a Dr Cancun blog soon.. 
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ghost42950
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Aug 4 @ 8:25PM
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only thing missing on that list is Good Sex
just had too 
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EmmeS61
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Aug 4 @ 8:54PM
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WouldntItBeGr8To
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Aug 4 @ 9:12PM
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you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge
What is really happening is that those emotions and thoughts have a hold on you.
A grip so tight that one can't see through the rage. It may not be something they are even aware of, but we all have buttons that can be pushed.
It is like being one of those voo-doo dolls, being stabbed from afar and we don't even know we are allowing it.
Letting go is what it is all about. Acknowledging it and letting go. Looking inside oneself is the secret.
Thanks for this blog.
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cancun1999
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Aug 4 @ 9:15PM
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What is really happening is that those emotions and thoughts have a hold on you.
A grip so tight that one can't see through the rage. It may not be something they are even aware of, but we all have buttons that can be pushed.
It is like being one of those voo-doo dolls, being stabbed from afar and we don't even know we are allowing it.
Letting go is what it is all about. Acknowledging it and letting go. Looking inside oneself is the secret.
Thanks for this blog. This is so true Peter..Thank you..
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Skydognc
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Aug 5 @ 7:53AM
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UnicornLover1962
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Aug 5 @ 8:02AM
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no truer words. i finally let go the bitterness and hate...against someone in my past. it had been eating me from the inside out and i hated who i had become. since then, i have become someone i know and love and i revel in that fact.
and it led me to paul. thank you heavenly father for all that you have done.
thank you my friend for this great blog.
huggles and love
mel
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azgirl701
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Aug 5 @ 8:55AM
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i got some nut who just joined here calling me names just cause i asked him if he was in uganda all he had to is no instead of calling me bad names on here and talking about my deceased parents
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cancun1999
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Aug 5 @ 9:11AM
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i got some nut who just joined here calling me names just cause i asked him if he was in uganda all he had to is no instead of calling me bad names on here and talking about my deceased parents This person definetly has a problem gf. Just block him so you won't have to endure his bad behavior.
Hugs
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cancun1999
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Aug 5 @ 6:03PM
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It seems as though there are some that just won't let go of their bitterness and grudges against me, but thats ok..I am a happy, funny person and I will not let them take me down to their level..
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Santo007
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Aug 5 @ 7:00PM
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cancun1999
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Aug 5 @ 7:34PM
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I just have to wonder...hmmmm if I want to be so dam popular, why haven't I ran up the views on other blogs I have posted...hmmmm makes you think don't it.. A few were doing it to my blog and then accused me...hmmm whats wrong with that picture? I really think it is funny...  Some people can be so jealous and I think it is very funny..
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cancun1999
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Aug 7 @ 12:02PM
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mikemarine
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Aug 13 @ 4:22PM
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I was going to ask why you were the recipient of rude remarks but as I read on I think you answered that on August 5th. I think everyone knows that there are people on the internet that just stir up the pot to get a rise out of you. When I was younger I used to have fun like that on the net only I would mess with the jerks and the smart asses. Anything other than the short "screw you" response is more energy than you should waste on him. If you really want to get his goat...ignore him.
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cancun1999
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Aug 13 @ 5:08PM
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If you really want to get his goat...ignore him Thank you and that is what I plan to do from here on out..
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imlost2
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Aug 13 @ 6:51PM
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Well holding grudges and being bitter only hurts the one thats doing it. It gives ya a headache and takes energy that can be better used elsewhere, so why bother? In the end, the person holding the grudges looses anyways because it's forgotten by everyone else usually lol, so such a waste of time. I like to have fun and live a happy life don't have time for such nonsense. Glad you are back. tc Lost
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cancun1999
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Aug 13 @ 7:30PM
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Well holding grudges and being bitter only hurts the one thats doing it. It gives ya a headache and takes energy that can be better used elsewhere, so why bother? In the end, the person holding the grudges looses anyways because it's forgotten by everyone else usually lol, so such a waste of time. I like to have fun and live a happy life don't have time for such nonsense This is so true my friend..Thanks for adding that..
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babydoll1970
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Aug 13 @ 8:22PM
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Welcome back cancun.. but honestly I haven't been on enough to notice because of the same reason you left the site.. I never had any run ins with anyone but got tired of reading day after day the hateful things people said to each other.. I prefer to be around happiness and fun as opposed to crap.. Now I basically only jump on when I get a notice that I got a message.. Then I check the blogs real quick to see if any of the ones who used to post such great blogs (like you) had anything on there.. I will keep checking in for some more of your fun blogs..
Is SuzieQ still on? She always had some good ones too.. And LadyKay?? I miss her hilarious comments on blogs..
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sybnann
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Aug 21 @ 7:41PM
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Great Blog! There are two other reasons I have for forgiveness.
One, there is no way we could know what the other person is going through and why they acted the way they did. 
Two, and this is equally important, we NEVER hurt the one we are angry with. All they have to do is to ignore us. We only hurt OURSELVES in the process, and that list is evident of this.
Not to mention, FORGIVE, and your heavenly father will more likely to forgive you. Probably for the reasons above. 
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sweetxy
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Sep 3 @ 5:32PM
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leprichaun_magic
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Sep 3 @ 5:52PM
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yes`its a true fact . bitterness is a waste of energy xx
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