Tv reality shows.. blogs...magazines.. you see stories of cheaters everywhere.
and being a victim in the past of a cheater.. and witnessed many friends go through the same pain.. I began to realise exactly why they do it.
Because they can.
No-one cheats if they dont think they will be forgiven or get away with it..They cheat because they can. They know that they will either be forgiven.. even if it is after lots of tears and the begging for the answer to "Why?"
If someone is so precious, so cared for and respected, with a knowing that the person will be lost if they dare to cheat.. the very thought of cheating doesnt even enter their heads,
When the respect is gone. from one,. so goes the loyalty..and when this is gone.. then they do what they please.. when they please.. because they can, and no ammount of tears or begging will ever change them back to who they were before.
Once a cheater always a cheater.. because they can.
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marshfieldmale
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Sep 20 @ 12:35AM
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I've never understood why people lie or cheat....especially in relationships. When there's deception, nobody wins.
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LipGlossQueen9
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Sep 20 @ 12:45AM
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Once a cheater always a cheater
This just isn't true.
My father had an affair and is no longer cheating on my mother. He wouldn't do it again...he learned his lesson after she nearly left him.
I can tell you plenty of other stories about people who legitimately changed their ways. I really hate that saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" because it's bullshit. People can and do change depending on the circumstances in their lives.
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kywonder
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Sep 20 @ 12:49AM
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Most cheat because they know that if partner is not forgiving they can walk out. After all someone else will find them appealing and the cycle starts over again, unless the lesson is learned the first time.
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ReflectiveInThought
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Sep 20 @ 2:48AM
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I'd like to say not once a cheater always a cheater.! Because I cheated before in the past and I'm now in a Four year relationship and I haven't cheated once during the entire four years.! So don't be so quick to judge and automatically assume that just because someone cheats once then they'll do it again.! You don't know that.!
Some people do it because they don't respect their partner.! They don't find their partner to be important to them.! I do.! I love my fiance and can't imagine cheating on him.!
You may think once a cheater always a cheater but please don't include me into that Category.!
I'm not saying that you're personally including me but I don't appreciate the generalization of it.! Some people cheat and keep cheating.! I don't.! It's a matter of choice.! You either want to cheat or you don't want to cheat.! I once chose to cheat but I've now made the serious and committed decision not to cheat when I got with my fiance.! So some people can change when they make the decision and decide to seriously stick to it.!
Anyway...sorry that you were cheated on before.!
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oct_cat
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Sep 20 @ 5:45AM
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"once a cheater always a cheater"
"once a gambler always a gambler"
"once a drinker always a drinker"
"once a welfare recipient always a welfare recipient"
"once an honest person always an honest person"
"once a spouse always a spouse"
"once an employee always an employee"
The main thing that separates humans from animals . . . the ability to make choices. People choose many things because they can.
Some make the same bad choices, some make a choice & learn from it that there are other options to choose from.
In my opionion, "once a" does not necessarily mean "always a".
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wolfmist
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Sep 20 @ 7:24AM
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I'm a hardliner on this one... LOL
My philosophy is Fool me once, Shame on you. Fool me twice, Shame on ME.
Everyone has the thoughts of it... You wouldn't be human if you didn't. I'm not saying it's a forward, front of the brain, active looking for a way to get away with it thought but sometimes you meet someone who you click with and you speculate. That's perfectly natural.
It's acting on it that makes the difference.
I will trust you once I "know" you. Once you show me I can't.... you won't be getting another chance. .Trust and faith are sacred gifts. They are the most amazing thing I can give you. You won't get a second chance to get those precious gifts once you have thrown them away.... even if you just crumpled them up and tossed them in the corner for a while.
I ain't no recycling center!
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imlost2
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Sep 20 @ 7:33AM
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I kinda have to agree on once a cheater always a cheater, it's a mindset. If you have cheated once, and haven't again, it's probably because the right person to cheat with hasn't come along yet. Just wait until that heartthrob you can't resist comes along, and you will most likely cheat again. It's because in your mind you didn't resist the first time, you didn't think the "act" was truly wrong in your own mind. So why should it be the second time? What changed? Perhaps I am wrong, and could be, but I'd be scared to date a cheater as they may not be able to resist the next person that makes them stray. Take care Lost
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ragtopcookie
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Sep 20 @ 7:48AM
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I agree that once let down....it would be really stupid to trust that same person again....because if you do...and they do it again....whos the stupid one then.....to each there own here.....you can live your own lifes the way you see fit....but i believe one bitten twice shy.....cookie
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IB4U
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Sep 20 @ 11:05AM
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Forgiving is one thing, forgetting is another.......You never forget being the victim,
and think of all of the people who may be hurt by this indiscretion... 
JMO
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cowboy2x4
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Sep 20 @ 11:18AM
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Cheaters never win,
Winners never cheat!!!!!
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scorpiogirl36
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Sep 20 @ 2:57PM
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Because they can. How very accurate...cheaters never think about the pain and heartache they cause others. They seem to look at cheating as exciting; a challenge as to how much they can get away with.
I would have to say, if someone cheats on you once, they're apt to do it again...run and run fast. The pain is not worth the empty promises.
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