I know its been a while since I last posted a blog. Been alot of things happening in my life.
To say this has been pretty much the worst year of my life, is an understatement. And now the crowning glory.
I move in with this guy, not intending to develop feelings for him, yet, I can feel myself growing more and more attached to him.
He is a great guy, but we are only roommates. He says he is over his divorce and his ex. That they are only friends, yet he finds any excuse to go over to her house.
There has been no promises or comittments, between us, but with the feelings growing inside me, I wish that soon there will be. Yet, I have a feeling I am riding a dead horse so to speak. 
I am beinging to think that moving here was a very big mistake, and am thinking that maybe I should just leave. Yet a part of me wants to stay, and see if things will finally go right for once.
Please any one with any ideas, message me!
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kywonder
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Sep 23 @ 10:47PM
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don't know what to tell you lady vamp, but if it was me instead of you, I would run.
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oct_cat
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Sep 23 @ 10:52PM
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sit him down, tell him you didn't intend it to happen but you're feeling something towards him; ask if he is feeling the same way. If he says no, you got your answer that nothing can develop . . . if he answers yes, then after affirming his feelings towards you, let him know you've noticed he's going to the ex's alot & is there really something still there.
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missliss78
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Sep 23 @ 10:55PM
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Wow....I'm a bit skeptical about leaving my thoughts here, but you did ask for it.
Sounds to me like you have made a mistake & at this point, if you remain, you are only asking to get your feelings hurt more. As for him & whatever is going on between him & his ex...well, it's really none of your business, ya know....the two of you are only roommates, after all.
I'm sorry things have not been going well for you..and I really hate it for you that you've found yourself in this predicament. Good luck!
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hoftner
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Sep 23 @ 11:07PM
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Talk with , establish his and yours "INTENT" of wants....
If his is acceptable to you stay, If not leave. 
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butterfly943
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Sep 23 @ 11:13PM
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Just be upfront and tell him what you feel...he may be waiting for that..either way you will get it off your chest..good luck 
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Slohand_47
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Sep 24 @ 3:56AM
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I have more questions than answers......... Why did you move in with this guy in the first place? Living together implies some sort of emotional committment whereas, here, clearly none exists.
Was there a finanical necessity for one, or both of you to enter into this arrangement? Is he getting finincial & emotional needs met in separate places?
My ex and I are still friends....... but I rarely spend any time over there. Does he and his ex have a child together? Who initiated the break up? How often is he going over there? Are these social visits...... or is she constantly using him as her handyman to fix stuff and he is too nice to say no? (been there, done that, and now charge $12.50 per hour for home repairs. She doesn't call so often any more. lol)
Questions, questions, questions.
Relationships are never easy....... but this one looks like it needs a LOT of work..... and it hasn't even started yet. You probably should never have moved in in the first place....... but since you are there..... you may as well have some serious talks about what expectations each of you has. It will either help you move forward with him, or make it clear that it is time to live apart. I'm guessing the latter, but I've been wrong before. Good luck.
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