This weekend my 30 year high school class reunion is taking place right here in the very town that I live. As a matter of fact, I just finished updating my information on a website that was specifically set up for said reunion.  Until now, I was "missing."
I had absolutely no desire whatsoever to attend this reunion.  I guess if I had some sort of great accomplishments to brag about or whatnot, I may have felt differently. I don't know. As I said on the class website, living my life has thus far been my greatest accomplishment.
Several months ago, a guy that I'd gone to high school with got in touch with me from out of the blue.  Noooooo, it wasn't a romantic sort of thing. I'd been friends with him & his wife after high school & when they split, I sorta "took her side" in the deal & lost touch with him. He was all excited about the forthcoming reunion & tried to pump me up about it, as well.  It didn't work. He even contacted me a couple of weeks ago to remind me of the "big event." Still no thanks.
I've lost touch with any friends I had from way back then. I rarely run into any of my old classmates around town. I had no escort to go to this event, heck, even if I did...I still didn't have the desire. It just makes me wonder....am I really any different from that many other people? Maybe by the time my 50th reunion rolls around, I might want to go see what it's all about....if I'm still kickin'! 
Here's to a wonderful weekend everyone....Happy blogging!
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daisy315
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Sep 27 @ 11:14PM
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I was one of the "have nots" in high school.. I wasn't even invited to mine..Apparently there were alot of "have nots" left off of the invitation list.. that's too damn bad too  When it came time to pay for the banquet room the organisers had rented at the Marriott, they didn't have enough money
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illusion790
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Sep 27 @ 11:29PM
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I moved out of State from my graduating class. My Graduating Class was over 350. I wish we would have a Reunion. I would LOVE to see some of my Classmates. To this day, I wonder how my "best friends" are doing. I still have my Year Book and all the "remember when writings"..........wonder how Diane is doing? and what about that boy I had the crush on?
Enjoy your Weekend!
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lisa46
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Sep 27 @ 11:29PM
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so funny I was on the lost list then when I bought my house everyone and their brother could find me  I was found by a few friends from school yet I've not went to any of the reunions. Yeah my 30 was this summer also and umm I'm sorry I wasn't happy in school why would I go??? I wasn't popular, or outgoing, matter of fact I was rather shy up to a point  But hey it was just school who really cares now?? IF they want me they can find me also 
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h0pper
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Sep 27 @ 11:36PM
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Just my thought here. I went to my ten year reunion. The people I thought would be there were. Did they change? For the most part.........No ... Did I attend another? .............Nope.......... I even got a mailing stating that I needed to send money to some organizer for the next reunion because the people that were organizing it were too lazy to do it themselves. I made every attempt to hide my location of contact from that point forward.....Just one more thought here....... All class officers were out of country for the ten year reunion........ You just have to wonder.
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missliss78
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Sep 27 @ 11:46PM
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I must add, I guess one of the reasons I have little or no interest in my high school reunions is that I was not very active my junior & senior years of high school. I got out of school early & worked part time jobs & my boyfriends at that time were 2 or 3 years older & already out of school...so....school & the people there held little interest for me. I guess that is still the case today.
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ragtopcookie
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Sep 28 @ 1:13AM
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I graduated in 1978.......went to my 10th reunion.....open bar and great food.....my wife at the time was never better looking.....thought it would be a great time.....and it might have been ...except a few guys who thought they would relive old high school memories....they were between me and the bar......and everytime i went for a drink...i had to deal with a few smart assed comments.....eveytime i walked by....tried to reason with them...telling them high school was over...and to let things go.....that i wasnt there to fight.....just to have a good time....but you know...as the liquor flowed freely...and the nite wore on....they didnt let up....so i had to get midevil on one of them in front of his wife.....and had to threaten the other two with the same....and then we left.....never to return.....i heard at our 25th reuinion...the cops had to be called.....same guys...diffrent target.....ill never go back...lesson learned.....i graduated.......cookie
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ohtayicu
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Sep 28 @ 2:53AM
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there is a site called classmates.com that will let you see former classmates, and what they have been doing, and are doing. it will list upcoming reunions, and bulletin boards.
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KnittinKitten
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Sep 28 @ 7:11AM
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Wow!, I'm sorry to hear that so many of you are not especially interested in your high school class reunions...
I graduated high school in 1954...yup...a long time ago...but, I remember it well. We had a reunion last August.....We've had reunions every 5 years...until about 5 years ago when we decided to hold them every 2 years because we were beginning to notice the loss of several of our classmates in between time.
For the last 3 or 4 reunions, another classmate and I drove to Ct. from Florida....We were the ones who had traveled the farthest. It has always been worth it. One year I recall arriving just minutes before, all the way from Hawaii...and, walked in wearing my Hawaiian mumu....I was fully in jet lag (about 6 hours difference in time), but fun nonetheless.
I have fond memories of high school days...and, my marks were not bad either. I was active...twirlers, choir, Yearbook staff, basketball games, football games, parties and dances.....I remember it all. (Thank goodness for long term memory.)
I don't feel I was ever living in the past....when I graduated, it was time to move on...college has some wonderful memories, too. Our Class Officers and Reunion Staff have always attended all of the Reunions....No one got "old" overnight...we "watched ourselves" grow old..it didn't hurt so much that way.
We have now decided to hold our reunions yearly....and, oh yeh, we used to have 2 - 3 day reunions (many of us came from afar). The harbor cruises, dinners and dancing, beach parties the next day....We've toned down a bit now...all of us are over 70. There are MANY widows.
Our party in August was a luncheon at a country club....it seems no one wants to drive in the dark anymore...or stay up late at night. MY MY MY, HOW THINGS HAVE CHANGED....
It's obviously worth it for me and my friend...we drove 3,000 miles, round trip to attend...Next year, though, we're thinking about flying...the traffic was horrendous.
Fondly,
KK
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unionman154
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Sep 28 @ 8:41AM
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My last class reunion I left for an after reunion party with an old friend I reconnected with that night. On the way there we got pulled over by the cops. I almost got peppered sprayed he went to jail for drunk driving.
There I sat at two in the morning at a gas station with no way home. I ended up calling mom to come rescue me. lol
I was at the jail early the next day to bail my buddy out. A night to remember. It was wild. 
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lazareth
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Sep 28 @ 9:04AM
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there is a site called classmates.com that will let you see former classmates, and what they have been doing, and are doing. it will list upcoming reunions, and bulletin boards.
I'm on classmates.com for my high school. I have had a few classmates contact me once or twice but no continuing contact from any except 2. Why? becasue i was invisible in high school. Like Daisy said, we were the "have-nots" ..
My senior year I left early to go to work, I didn't date any guys I knoew in school and the one guy I did have a crush on didn't even know I existed.
When I went to my 5 year reunion, the only questions that were asked were " Where do you work, how much money do you make and how many kids do you have "..... same old shit as in school.
But it was a kicker seeing all those girls who dissed me in school, who had the "perfect figures" were just 5 years after graduating now 30 pounds over weight.
their faces all wrinkled from too much sun bathing and bitter as hell.
I had an 18 inch waist and a really nice set of... errrrr ..... puppies
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Knitengale99
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Sep 28 @ 11:15AM
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I was like many of the others regarding class reunions. My friends were in the class ahead of me, and so had very few ties in my own class. I went to the tenth reunion to prove a point, and was successful. But there were the same old cliques, and the same old garbage about social distinction and money. I didn't attend again for many years.
But I saw a classmate one day who was on the planning committee, and some of the things she said made me think. So there I was, in a room full of old people bearing a vague resemblence to people I used to spend every day with. And I had a wonderful time! And I found out that I wasn't as invisible as I had previously thought. All those petty things that had been in the way before are gone now.
If it has been several years (by several years, I mean at least 20). I would recommend attending your class reunion. You may be in for a better time than you realize.
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SallyF
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Sep 28 @ 2:12PM
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When I attended my 20th reunion, it was OK but not wonderful. We were all in such different places in our lives---those who had stayed in the area and married early, were grandparents and were so settled. I was one of those that chose to leave for college and didn't return---became involved in a career that I loved and put off having children. There was little common ground---I had finally gotten my last child off to kindergarten, and these folks were decorating cakes for grandchildren's holidays.
Fast forward to three years ago, I once again crossed the country, this time for our 40th reunion---it included three years of classes, instead of just ours. Better by far, because our school had ~500 students in K-12 during our tenure; and I had skipped a grade, so many of my friends graduated a year later. More possibilities for a connection, but more importantly a different stage of life and more 'seasoned' personalities. We had a blast! There was more 'remember when', instead of 'look at me'. I'm so glad that I 'tried' the reunion thing again.
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wolfmist
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Sep 28 @ 2:47PM
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I moved from the city where I grew up to a small town when I was 15 and spent only a year and a half with the people I graduated with. When you move from the city to a small town, people aren't real friendly with you. My boyfriend was from the city ... we'd only moved 30 miles away... so of course, all the guys who asked me out, and there weren't huge lines of them at my door but there were a few, got turned down because I had a boyfriend. Naturally they started the rumor I was gay. This stuck all through high school and I didn't bother to try and argue with it because a) I had a boyfriend anyway and b) who cares? I didn't have to deal with people asking me out and turning them down. Most of my friends were in college anyway or went to school in the city.
I went to graduation but skipped all the other nonsense which was just as well. Some kid got drunk at the senior banquet, vomited on the table and set off a chain reaction. Yeah, real bigtime fun. I didn't go to prom because that's not my kinda thing.
As for reunions... even those people who bothered having a clue who I was wouldn't notice if I was there or not so why bother? Most of my "friends" in high school were on the track and cross country teams anyway and were in different grades. My 30th would have been sometime last summer... no idea when because I wasn't invited.
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legacy1
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Sep 28 @ 3:13PM
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What an interesting blog...Our 20 year was this month but I decided to pass it up for many of the same reasons as others do. I didn't "fit in" in high school as I was the metal, gear head of school etc...
I too am on classmates and have seen some of the photos of the jocks etc who thought they were king shit...well I am in shape...and I still have all of my hair...so to Karma I say thank you! 
I still say f*** Duran Duran and crank up some old school Motley Crue!!!
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WouldntItBeGr8To
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Oct 18 @ 2:44PM
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I grew up in a very wealthy area, I mean VERY wealthy...at the time the county had the highest per capita income in the whole USA...my family did just fine, my parents did what ever, I surely wasn't without shoes or anything, but these kids all had new cars, lived in million dollar homes, had jobs lined up after high school or were off to good colleges.
I went to the 10 and 20 year reunions, OHHHHH MAN WHAT A BUNCH OF LOSERS  I had my funky car parked out there with all the fancy shamcy cars and came in and saw these losers
I had a small number of friends in HS and some where there, we had fun checking everyone out........the 30 yr was 5 years ago and I had no interest in going. Did I feel bad not fitting in, not having a great job? nahhhhhh, but it is just why on earth go and listen to these people talk about their lives? Sure they had a lot or at least they said they did, but they sure didn't look very happy
I might go to another, but only if I knew some of the 'good' people would be there.....I am happy with where I am and I sure don't want to be where they are
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